It is important that you have a sense of who you are and what you want before deciding to get into a relationship. People who jump from relationship to relationship are often in search of safety and love that they can't access on their own. This is dangerous as it places you under the mercy of whoever shows you love, you bend your own rules to accommodate people who don't value you as much.

Most of the time we are too blind to see this even when someone points out.

There are people who are always in search of love, security and assurance to function well. They feel incomplete when they are single or alone. They seek the company of people always. They cannot imagine going to a restaurant or movie alone. They need to be with someone to feel complete.

This phenomenon has been documented before in this sub before but we have to look at the deeper issue at hand and the consequences this can bring.

At face value you are dealing with a person who has self esteem issues, a person who does not have a purpose or does not identify with who he/she is. They are easily swayed by external opinions because they do not have their own. Their identity comes from who they are with.

One is likely to choose the wrong partner, a closer look at people who disdain from being single most often choose relationship in which they are abused, or not treated with the respect they deserve. They tolerate mediocrity for as long as they could in the name of love.

This habit cannot be broken unless we take a step back and get in touch with ourselves again.

Before you get into a relationship, ask yourself whether you are doing it to avoid loneliness or because you are ready to share your love with another individual.

The other side of the coin is that of course something known as limerence where we are always chasing infatuation. We want to feel like our hearts are on fire. Once that fizzles out, we resign the relationship and move on to chase the next high.

So this is two sided where we can attract people we don't want for the sake of not being alone or hurting innocent individuals in the name of chasing a high.

The irony is, the more we behave like this, the more lonely we become. We look behind us and notice a multitude of people we got to be with and formed no real connection. Why? We were never interested in knowing who they were and we never wanted them to really know who we are because we hid who we were behind a wall holding back parts that you have never wanted to access.

It is with this that it is important to have a sense of self first before getting into a relationship.