Attempting to go into nun mode

CountTheBees · 2023-07-12T00:33:10+00:00

But now i just feel bored, lonely, and sort of scared

Lean into it!!! Do things that make you feel more bored, lonely and scared. Get very very comfortable with these feelings. This is what you need to understand - these feelings aren't "you" and they don't have to control you. You will be just fine even if you feel bored, lonely, and scared.

AutoModerator · 2023-07-11T23:52:26+00:00

Title: Attempting to go into nun mode

Full text: Hi, I’ve been considering going into nun mode. Im currently thinking about going into nun mode so i can improve but i feel like i need some guidance or tips. I was going to make a different post to this one where i was talking about all the things i feel like i need to improve my girl game and how sometimes reading this sub can make me feel very, very insecure (i was already pretty insecure before lol). But as i was stumbling across posts that i was going to reference in that one, i came across this one.

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/834fyw/field_report_in_online_dating_you_are_who_you/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1

Now I just turned 20 in April (hasn’t even been 3 months yet) and it sounds exactly like what im dealing with right now. Taking things very literally or just trying to form myself into what others want me to be. Which is part of the reason i feel like this sub can be damaging for me (i know it has a good purpose and is useful to many women), reading posts about RMV because although I’ve never had success in having a man commit to me by making me their girlfriend, i dont find many things on that list that im not doing (except for being non-argumentative although theres a reason, i never just leave it). Even though I wouldnt score prefect tens, more like 5s/6s. Which i dont know. Maybe guys do want perfection but i find it hard to believe that this is what’s holding me back. Then it led me to believe that im just not good enough and probably never will be, because despite being attractive and having most qualities on the lists about RMV, i still cant get a guy to want to commit. Or that most (if not all) men are just better than me since they only see me as enough for sex (basically all men I’ve met are category 2/the no-go zone, but based on how i see them, i would have seen them as cat 4 or 3). Sort of feeling like im a failure in general cause I cannot inspire a man to be emotionally invested or commit.

I guess theres no need for this post other than to probably say thank you to person who made the post that i referred to earlier, and to maybe ask for some advice on nun mode. Like how do i actually I enjoy it? As recently as today, i broke things off with a guy i was texting for the past two weeks since he never made plans to see each other in person. But now i just feel bored, lonely, and sort of scared that i will never meet anyone or be good enough (almost giving me FOMO since i cant kill the hope yet).

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birkinsmuse · 2023-07-12T21:54:17+00:00

okay kind off topic but are you talking about 2pretty's nun mode? bc i just finished it a few days ago (i didn't count reddit as a social media btw) and it was the most life changing challenge ever!

edit: nvm lol i looked it up and its something else 😅 but its pretty similar to the nun mode of this subreddit so it may be a good resource for you.

mokujiki · 2023-07-16T04:53:34+00:00

Hey, it’s alright, okay? Rating scales like 1-10 shouldn’t matter too much imo, for yourself or anyone else. I have pretty eyes according to others, I hate my eyes. Same with my nose and smile, but people like it anyways. Your scores won’t match up with others’, and vise versa. Don’t worry about looking like a ten and wanting people to view you as a ten. Not to be an old person but the saying “don’t judge a book by its cover” is true 🙂 Don’t be what others want you to be. The world doesn’t like you when you’re different, but they don’t like it when you conform either, so just be yourself. You’re 20, that’s pretty damn young, everyone I’ve seen personally didn’t find their match until they were older. I’m 25, almost 26, and I’ve only been in love twice and dated very few times (my choice). If a relationship is what you truly want, then take the steps to go for it. Taking some time to focus on yourself and your “girl game” is perfect, but know that even if you check all the “perfect marks”, it still might not work out, because the world doesn’t go according to plan. That’s not in its nature to do so. Striving for the perfect checklist of traits is setting the bar too high for YOURSELF, and when you slip (because we all do), it’ll feel like a crushing weight instead of a stumble you can recover from.

Most guys aren’t ready to commit for life in their 20’s, but way older men isn’t the way to go either. You should definitely have high standards! Because you simply deserve the best 🙂♥️ But remember that people fluctuate from day to day. No man should expect perfection from you, or you with them, or anyone with anybody. Days where I don’t take my ADHD medication I feel pretty damn stupid, and I am, but I’m on the path to get a PhD in philosophy. Do your own thing, find yourself. Have a good day/night!

Title	Attempting to go into nun mode
Author	bocky2fresh
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	July 11, 2023 11:52 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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