does this make me less valuable

Hot_Blacksmith_3404 · 2024-11-08T22:41:50+00:00

You are likely to be perceived as having less value by your boyfriend, because he gets to have his cake and eat it too without any consequences. Perceived value is everything, and you are making yourself appear cheaper and easier by doing this. If you invite disrespect in one area, it’s really hard to then convince the person to respect you in other ways. It can be a slippery slope.

That being said, non-monogamy is certainly a valid relationship choice that some people make, even if I personally would never make it myself and can’t understand why any emotionally/mentally healthy person would find it appealing. You may want to look into some non-monogamy specific subs for well-rounded advice from people who have already chosen that lifestyle, if you’re interested.

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-11-08T23:15:32+00:00

Valuable to whom? Your boyfriend seems to think this somehow makes you untrustworthy, so I'd say he doesn't value you much. Beyond him, if you're looking to settle down and marry a traditional man, I'm not sure how much he'd respect a woman who let someone sleep around while with her. You also don't necessarily have to share that information.

You might consider trying to think of cheating a bit differently. It's not just about jealousy, but resource sharing. A man who sleeps with another woman is giving her his time, attention, affection, and sexual appetite to another woman. If that doesn't bother you while dating, it might if you're living together or married and those things are less available to you. He also risks getting her pregnant and, married or not, that is going to complicate your situation a great deal. The same is true of an STD.

You do you, but consider the fact that monogamy isn't just about feelings, particularly for women. It's about practicality and knowing that sex comes with a lot of baggage, including developing feelings for the Other Woman and leaving you to pursue that.

CountTheBees · 2024-11-08T23:53:38+00:00

I don't understand your question. Are you asking if it's ok to

Let your boyfriend sleep around with other women?
Stay with a man that mistrusts you given no cause?

UsuallyTheCutest · 2024-11-08T21:12:56+00:00

This subreddit tends to learn conservative, by the standards of a lot of woman on here you are likely making a choice they wouldn’t.

Consider posting to r/nonmonogamy or r/swingers.

zaftig_stig · 2024-11-08T23:48:09+00:00

YOU determine YOUR own worth.

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Full text: I (F25) dont care if my boyfriend (M28) sleeps with other girls. I have no intention of sleeping with other men but he is under the impression I will. Does anyone else have this ideology or agree with how I feel. could use some advice or is it just a bad idea would this fall off track from being a RPW?

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Unique_Mind2033 · 2024-11-08T23:41:06+00:00

if I were you, I would decide not to worry whether he does or doesn't, because if he has his mind set to sleep with someone else he certainly will. especially now that you've put him in a bit of a nebulis that opens up your relationship. but you can still be a based beautiful RPW if you want. his actions won't change that.

Unique_Mind2033 · 2024-11-08T23:30:40+00:00

if you have to ask, then maybe 🙏 but maybe not

when I ask someone to go find another woman, it's because I have grown tired of them and need them to bother someone else. so, if I were you I would just genuinely not worry whether he does or not. because if he wants to and has his mind set to do so, he will find a way.

but if I were you I wouldn't tolerate it in my domicile for instance. I also would not tolerate it being used as a weapon.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2024-11-09T12:01:35+00:00

Out of curiosity, why do you not care? Is it because you figure that if he can sleep with other women, he’s less likely to leave you for one because he gets to keep you, too? Is it a form of altruism?

to me, it would make you more valuable, but for men who do not regularly practice non-monogamy, this sort of “offer” often seems like a trap. As in the moment he agrees to it, you’re going to say “you were supposed to say no, you didn’t want other girls!”

Are you bisexual? I am sensing not so much, but if you were then you would be like a permanent corner square for an FFM three-way for him. You would also be able to supervise his extracurricular nookie personally.

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