Marriage Improvements

Wife_and_Mama · 2026-02-10T17:32:11+00:00

I've kind of always had a "red pill marriage," in the sense that it's pretty traditional. He works. I stay home with our five kids. I've been married for nine years and I'd say one of the biggest takeaways for me is that marriages have ups and downs. We never talk about the downs, as a society, at least as a normal ebb and flow. If things are tough, it's always "You deserve better Queen!" People go through hard times, though, even when married. Maybe she gains weight after kids and isn't interested in sex, because she doesn't like her body. Maybe he's a dick because work sucks and it takes time to find something else. Parents and grandparents die. Friends move away or you move away from them. Life can be difficult at times, but in many, many cases, it's worth it to stick it out.

My grandmother has told me more than once that, were she to do it over again, she would have stayed with my grandfather instead of divorcing in the 60s. She says she just traded one set of problems for another and life was really lonely as a single mom. Obviously, marriages can't and even shouldn't always be saved, but RPW is one of the few places on the internet where "leave him" is not allowed to be the first piece of advice. What works in a marriage is going to vary, but what's helped me through the hard times, is remembering that that's a last resort. It shouldn't even be on your radar in most cases.

It also helps that I've been divorced. It sucked when I was 24 and cute. I can't imagine how much it would suck when I'm late 30s with five kids. Everywhere else on the internet, though, it's glorified. Women insist life is better and not a one of them has ever regretted leaving. That's not reality. That's why the mods and EC's get so irritated by the people who fly by and push these narratives. This is kind of the final hold out that won't just tell you to leave, your life will be better for it. In many cases, it won't. So I guess the biggest RPW advice I've benefited from is to stick it out. Try your hardest. A marriage is worth it.

Vast-Society4093 · 2026-02-10T17:56:45+00:00

It’s one of the few places where the accountability is put on men and women. I might not be RP enough but for the more liberal minded people I am too conservative. But I strongly believe in the traditional nuclear families where both father and mother is present and so it reduced the chance of children growing up with trauma or any other issues of a single mother household.

I don’t judge anyone who goes through this and I know it’s hard work. Still I don’t think anyone should go through this struggle if it can be avoided. And I don’t mean any women should stay in an abusive relationship/ marriage ever. Many conservative stances actually teach women how to vet properly too.

_Pumpkin_Muffin · 2026-02-12T21:01:44+00:00

Self care helps me stop resentment from building. If I'm stressed or overwhelmed, it's up to me to find a solution and ask for what I need. My happiness is not my husband's responsibility. Letting go of some hyper controlling tendencies helps my anxiety immensely.

I can better gauge when I need to shut up about some nonconsequential issue vs when to speak up about something important, and how to do so in a way that my husband can really hear. I know sometimes my "helpful" suggestions can be perceived as disrespectful or annoying, or my vents as discouraging complaints. It's amazing how much more peace we get when I keep in my mind the translation issues.

I am an overall happier person and a better wife when I focus on what I need, on doing my best, on working with my husband (and his sometimes maddeningly male brain) instead of keeping score. I am very happy with the way things are.

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Title	Marriage Improvements
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Date	February 10, 2026 4:32 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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