My Captain is Gone

iheartfrodo_69 · 2019-02-26T15:14:08+00:00

I strongly suggest you develop a few personality traits besides “my man is my whole life, without him I am nothing”. Get some hobbies and passions that are your own! Not only will this help you not miss him when he’s gone (he’s in the military, he’s going to be gone a lot) it’ll round you out as a person and a partner. If your whole life is just spectating his life, he’s going to get pretty bored and smothered by you.

powderpufffluff · 2019-02-26T02:49:32+00:00

Weighted blankets are great!

sparkledragon45 · 2019-02-26T05:50:32+00:00

My captain is in the military and does yearly 2-3 weeks of training over the summer. Sleeping with the TV on with a sleep timer set helps. I also listen to ASMR videos on YouTube, cause some of the personal attention videos make me feel less lonely. Make sure your room is cool enough and you have enough blankets!

When my captain did his basic training (5 months) I wrote him a letter almost every day. Maybe bring a journal to bed and just start writing him a letter as you try to sleep?

Side note: send as many letters as possible while he's in training. He won't have as much time to write as you do, and it'll help him remember what he is going through all the hard work for! Also save the letters he sends, they're nice to look back on when he hasn't had a chance to write.

littlepearlisland · 2019-02-26T19:47:32+00:00

If he is in the Navy there are going to be plenty of times in the future where he will be gone. Even if he is stationed on land and not on a ship, he will have continued training and other instances where he won't be by you. This is just a reality of military life, and you really need to consider if that's what you are ok with. Not trying to scare you, more of making sure you're going into this with eyes open.

With regards to him being your whole world, I am presuming that you are being a little overdramatic because he has only been gone a little while and you're missing him. If not you need to develop a sense of self.

It's ok to miss him, give yourself another day or two to wallow and then pick yourself up. Throw all of your anxiety into working out, eating clean, playing with your hair and makeup, learning a few new recipes, and just in general becoming the best version of yourself. Picture how excited he will be when he comes home and finds his first mate more smoking hot than ever. Create plans with friends two or three times a week, having something to look forward to makes time go by faster. Make a count down calendar. Each day take a photo of something that represents the days events that you can share with him later.

As for sleeping:

Have a set routine each night, it allows your body to slow down and go into sleep mode
Strongly recommend white noise, podcasts, low music to keep your mind open
Every night before bed write down ten things that you are thankful or made you happy that day
Pile up pillows next to you in bed
Burrito yourself with a blanket
Have sleepovers with your friends or family (this one helped me a bunch)

friggandfrayed · 2019-02-26T21:27:30+00:00

I always recommend focusing on self-care during these times. Pick up a new hobby that you can dive to, read a series of books that really capture your attention, take a class (this IMO is the best because you're also able to be social, surround yourself with like-minded individuals and be less 'alone').

Title	My Captain is Gone
Author	bone-of-lancer
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	February 26, 2019 2:06 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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