I have been dating this man for around three months++. After 3 weeks we became exclusive, talked about the future (our wishes, needs and wants), our friends and family know about us. He has always seemed very serious about us.

For the last month, and till the end of September, he has been extremely busy at work. He works shifts, a lot of overtime and they have a course thing he has to go through too. We are lucky if we have time to see each other one time a week for a couple of hours, and he is very tired. And all we do is cuddle and watch movies. I understand that he is very tired, but I still feel like some kind of fuck friend, even though I know better. But this is making me very insecure. There is nothing I can do about it before this period is over, so I try to think that I have to survive trough this, then I'll see how things goes after September. It's just really hard... He promise all the time that when this is over he will have a lot more time for me and he wants to take me on a trip.

Recently I have found out that he might go out of the country next year, he wants to participate in a program (very dangerous too), he would be gone between 1-12 months. He haven't told me anything about this before last time we met, right before he had to leave, so not much time to talk about it. This made me feel even more insecure, what are his plan with me if he might be gone for a year? Am I just a temporary thing? He might leave in 4 months, and I kind of feel a bit tricked? Why haven't he included me in this?

I know we need to talk about this, but I don't know when he has time again to see me. Now his life is work, getting home exhausted, sleep and the work again. I think I need some advice how to handle this whole shenanigan (hehe), because now I feel like it's driving me crazy and I really have to restrain my hamster. And the last thing I want to do now is to be a burden to an already exhausted man!

I'm sorry about my long rant!