Nun mode at 34?

Kara__El · 2019-08-16T00:31:27+00:00

> Do you think I can benefit on nun mode focusing on getting fit again and learning new skills?

Everyone can benefit from this. Too many women never take time to themselves.

> My goal is to be a mother and a wife , I know I’m a bit old and I can’t afford to waste more time being single.

You are a bit old, where I'm from, to be spending a lot of time single. It sounds as though, based on your assessment, perhaps you're a bit old where you're from, as well. Take three months. Work out. Eat right. Learn a hobby. Then get back out there.

Keep in mind, however, that you are living in an online dating world. It's great to get out there and be open to meeting someone organically, but refusing to date online in 2019, is like exclusively dating in chat rooms in 1999. You're missing a lot of opportunities and, at 34, when you want to be a wife and mom, you need all the opportunities you can get.

Donuts_Or_Bust · 2019-08-15T21:31:00+00:00

Did you even read the Wiki and Sidebar? I’m not trying to be rude, but some of the posts lately show that the poster made no attempt to understand RPW and RP philosophies whatsoever.

Do you feel happy and fulfilled now?
Are you your best self?
Are you happy with your physical appearance?
Do you feel healthy?
Do you have hobbies that bring you joy?
Are you always striving to better yourself?
Do you feel like you would bring value to a high quality man’s life?

If you answered no to most of those questions, then it literally doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 72, you need nun mode. If you’re looking to attract greatness, you need to be able to offer greatness. The RPW philosophies are guidelines to get you there. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.

*Edited to try to fix formatting

LateralThinker13 · 2019-08-16T17:03:00+00:00

4 dates is a crappy statistical sampling. First, you had two dates, not four, and you had two guys pre-select themselves right out of your dating pool. You're "tired of that" because it feels like chasing men. Welcome to post-wall dating. It isn't going to get better. You need to work on yourself - your attitude, your outlook, and your expectations - or you're going to stay unhappily single.

melitele3 · 2019-08-15T22:21:35+00:00

It is quite a difficult question but I don’t think nun mode is the answer. You are 34, so we need to be blunt and honest here - you do not have a lot of time. Now, no panicking! It isn’t end of the world and certainly you don’t have to give up anything. But since you have limited amount of time I would still try to find people to date. I understand that to be able to make someone happy, you need to work on yourself first. But quite frankly when I met my husband I wasn’t the best version of myself - I was physically attractive but I didn’t have many necessary character traits or skills to be a good wife. All of those I learnt while being in relationship and I am still doing that! You can find a right man for you while working on yourself.

I think dating apps can be harsh because many men on these apps expect something quick. How about you mention on your profile who you are and what kind of relationships you want? Also how about finding a man offline? You can ask your friends or family if they know any good single men. Or join a gym and try to make connections there!

[deleted] · 2019-08-16T21:18:21+00:00

Yeah nah, you need to be keeping your options open you really dont have time to waste dating post wall and still trying to be a mother and wife.

This sounds harsh but I'd suggest lowering your standards a good deal, 95% of the good quality men at your age would already be taken or would be interested in dating younger. You should also look into why none of your dates worked out to even a second date.

You should still be working on yourself but you need to be realistic about your timeline and situation.

_your_cat_is_ugly · 2019-08-24T15:59:48+00:00

You are going to be rejected a lot on dates. Just keep trying until you meet the right person. Try online dating. At 34 you only have a few more years left. Female fertility usually ends in a woman's early 40s. If you want a baby I don't think you should be wasting time.

merlinsmoon · 2019-09-10T11:20:21+00:00

A few comments on rejection: It’s easier for women to find dates online than most men but women still get rejected. I probably went on 45 (mostly met online) dates between ages 27 and 31. I’d say 15 -20 rejected me (just wanted sex and realized it wasn’t happening, mutually fizzled, didn't want the same things, or weren’t attracted to me). And I'm not including the men who 'rejected' me before taking me out on a date. Women need to get a thick skin and learn how to get rejected like men do all the time. This is why you gotta keep a lot of irons in the fire and schedule a lot of dates. Talk to a lot of people, not just the two that makes your heart flutter the most because their photos look so good.

It is good to assess why maybe dates aren’t working out and to work on yourself. But you have to look at it statistically too — not every date is going to work out and it’s okay. Keep trying. Rejection isn’t the end of the world and a lot of times they’re doing you a favor because two more months of dating you’d find out how awful they are.

The women who say they don’t get rejected ever are usually arrogant or don’t date enough. I’ve noticed women don’t bring up their dating rejections to one another often. It can be ego crushing but only if you let it be!

Also, it can take a few dates to get “warmed up” if it’s been awhile. I know it did for me when I was 27. Go on dates. You do get better at it. Knock “the crust” off.

NAILmg42 · 2019-08-18T18:35:26+00:00

3 dudes don't want you? So what sounded alrihht to me. 2 billion chicks probably don't want me. But maybe 100 million do and maybe 50000 of them are single and ready to meet me and maybe I'll find 50 of them in my life and connect with 10 and have option to marry them. But even if I did meet such desired persons, I wouldn't want them anyway. I'm too busy to date or care for that stuff.

You don't want Nunn mode you want a partner like most people. Just don't let dudes who were honest with you let you down. Two were honest and one even called. You didn't even get ghosted. That a celebration worthy strike out. At least you fail in style. Next guy that says no thank him for no ghosting in 2019.

Keep at it or you never meet anyone. If you like me this is what you want; solitude. If you want love got to keep trying to find it. Good luck

Title	Nun mode at 34?
Author	MissHappyxx
Upvotes	13
Comments	12
Date	August 15, 2019 9:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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