Past trauma, new life

Automatic-Praline568 · 2021-12-14T01:35:12+00:00

I'm not married or engaged but I do have past trauma that has kept me from being my best self. For myself and for my partner.

Now I don't know what your past trauma is but my number one tip is to forgive yourself. The past is done and nothing can change that no matter how bad you wish for it. Forgive yourself, and let the situation go.

I'd also suggest buying a journal. There are a lot of prompts you can search for online that help you work through your past trauma so you can get to a point where you're content and comfortable in your skin today.

Finally, don't be afraid to speak up when something is (for lack of a better word) triggering you. The conversation that can happen after that tends to be vulnerable and deep and leads to building a stronger connection with your partner.

I'm not sure if this helps you much, but it's a look into what I did.

BumbleBitny · 2021-12-14T03:01:42+00:00

Therapy, advice on the internet is great but at the end of the day you and a therapist will be the only ones who can actually come up with a plan to help your individual problems. Trauma comes in a million different types and even two people with the same exact traumas react very differently.

ForeverSwinging · 2021-12-14T14:57:18+00:00

I’ve had to forgive myself, compare bad guys to good guys so I know what qualities to look for, and recognize when my fight-flight-freeze response is triggered because it links certain cues to past trauma.

lunavicuna · 2021-12-14T05:11:49+00:00

I don't necessarily have a traumatic past but I do have emotional problems. Here are some thoughts that have helped me:

Just as beautiful as hope and trust is vulnerability. Doing something even though you're scared or hurt. That's openness and receptivity, that's femininity. I don't really operate under trust/not trust. I only ask myself if it's worth the risk of getting hurt.

Femininity isn't always positivity. Femininity at its core is receptivity and that means being open to experience and being vulnerable to the good and the bad.

So I guess what I'm saying is, I don't really worry about being more positive or hopeful, and this has made me feel much more whole and like I can be myself.

Title	Past trauma, new life
Author	bygracethrufaith-
Upvotes	6
Comments	5
Date	December 14, 2021 1:09 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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