Specific nun mode tips or experiences?

Makrii817 · 2017-12-22T02:50:23+00:00

First, have a goal in mind, and write it down somewhere. For example: lose 20 lbs, learn to cook, look feminine every day. Next, write down EXACTLY what you need to do to achieve those goals; work out 30 minutes a day, cut down daily calories to 1400, take a cooking class, learn to do makeup everyday etc. Finally, get a routine down! Work in all of your steps and make them your habits. Be forgiving of slip ups and don’t make them excuses to give up. Don’t be afraid to start over repeatedly, because every day could be the first day of a new you.

Laceandsilks · 2017-12-21T21:21:40+00:00

I. identify your personal roadblocks. The things that prevent you from being able to effectively meet, date, and evaluate men as potential romantic partners.

if you are still hung up on a past relationship
if you have negative behaviors as a result of a past relationship (suspicious, closed off, cynical, scared of getting hurt)

II. Identify your general behavior based weaknesses.

you trust new people too quickly, and have a tendency to overshare and become very intense
you are emotionally volatile. When a minor problem occurs, you will blow it out of proportion.
you have a tendency to hold grudges
you always move too fast physically, without paying attention to actual compatibility
you don't really know what you are looking for in a man, and approach dating without any type of game plan or strategy

III. Make sure you are happy and have a complete life

career
education
social life
hobbies
men are not a substitute for having your own interests and passions

IV. Figure out your vetting sytem!

must haves
deal breakers
red flags
extras that would be nice but are not important enough to make the 'musts' list
how important is it that he is close to family?
how do you weigh the 'successful career' vs 'available time' scale?
how far away are you willing to date, your age range?
does religion matter?
what kind of lifestyle do you want to have with a man? Active, travel a lot, homebodies?

vintagegirlgame · 2017-12-22T08:06:11+00:00

Study like you're in a bible school for womanhood!

Read the Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle :)

Also a lot of great material on www.therulesrevisited.com. If you're recently out of a breakup or still haunted by mistakes in past relationships, the author has a book just for you called Beyond the Breakup.

They guys at TRP would tell a man going into monk mode "lift bro." So I'd say a RPW equivalent is "squat sista!" Hit the gym and get fit!

Obviously keep hanging out here. Good luck!

Hartley7 · 2017-12-21T20:59:29+00:00

I focused on work and keeping a journal to process my feelings about my experiences. I also firmly turned down any men who asked for dates instead of relenting because they were handsome and seemed nice.

nonamanuensis · 2017-12-22T15:13:59+00:00

Why do you think you're incapable of a long term relationship?

Here are some ideas that I worked on when I was in nun mode.

First exercise:

Make a list of what you want in a partner - what you will need for your future goals together (i.e. doesn't matter if he's a good father material if you don't want kids). And a (hopefully smaller) list of what you don't want - red flags, deal breakers, etc.
Then look at yourself and ask if you bring the equivalent female qualities for the wants, and what red flags you bring.
Back to the first list - compromise on items, accept items, or figure out what you can change to be a good match to that dream man and bring something to the relationship.

Second exercise:

Imagine you are watching your funeral.

Someone from your family comes up to talk about you. What do they say?
Someone from your spiritual community comes up to talk about you. What do they say?
Someone from your vocational community comes up to talk about you. What do they say?
Someone from your recreational community comes up to talk about you. What do they say?
Someone from your volunteer community comes up to talk about you. What do they say?

If you want them to say something different or those communities don't exist then you can change/create those spheres of your life now. (Of course, as a single person currently your family experience may change if you marry and have children but how you treat your family of origin is a decent proxy.)

Title	Specific nun mode tips or experiences?
Author	happyhelpfulheart
Upvotes	19
Comments	7
Date	December 21, 2017 8:32 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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