up my game?

PhantomDream09 · 2014-01-01T02:10:55+00:00

I thought you looked better with your hair long (blond and short was my least favorite, sorry!). Are you going to grow it out? My SO likes contrast. Since I'm very pale, that means he likes darker hair....then again, he also thinks women with brunette, black, and dark red hair always look better than blonds even if they are tan.

You have a good 'natural' face (in my opinion), so I would focus on eye make-up and some color on your lips. There are a lot of make-up tutorials online that you can check out. If you have some female friends, ask them to give you a make-over. I was intimidated by make-up for a long time, until I just decided to have fun and try things out. Take a day where you can just stay home. Buy a good make-up remover, bring out all the make-up you have (or buy a starter kit), throw on a movie and just have fun. Try anything and everything you can think of, the results don't matter so much as gaining experience.

You are really lucky to have curly hair (I know, I know, the grass is always greener...). Play up your texture if you decide to grow your hair out again.

I am not a big supporter of cosmetic surgery, unless there is a serious need (skin grafts for burn victims, breast implants for breast cancer survivors etc). Your hubby fell in love with that nose, so why get rid of it? I didn't even notice your mole(s). In any event, unless they are cancerous, I would keep them.

Braces would be good for your teeth, although I'm curious as too how big the gap is, do you mind sharing? It may not be as glaring as you think (often times we amplify our imperfections way out of proportion). Even if you do have a noticeable gap, that shouldn't keep you from smiling. Be happy and show it. A smile looks good on everyone. :0)

Are your eyebrows naturally that thin? Or do you pluck them back a lot? I used to pluck my eyebrows very similar to how you have them, and I was never happy with how they looked. Then I decided to stop all plucking. I only attacked the invaders located directly above my nose. My brows have been thicker for years, and they look more womanly and mature than when I plucked them a lot. If your brows are naturally thin and fair in color, you can buy some tint pencils or even use a bit of eye shadow.

You have lovely arms, and seem to be fit, so don't worry or focus on that a lot. Just make sure to maintain.

I'm not big into giving arbitrary number ratings, my idea of pretty is probably different from another person's, and I don't think it even matters. All that matters is that you are happy with how you look, and your husband is attracted to you.

Take care. :0)

Lady_Motido · 2014-01-01T02:57:29+00:00

You're so adorable. I hope you don't mind me saying but you remind me a little of Battlestar Gallactica's Katee Sackhoff. I love your curls, they suit you. I'm not partial to the short blond hair but all that really matters is what your husband prefers and if that feels comfortable for you as well.

Experiment while growing your hair out. You have amazing eyes, pulling your hair up really accentuates them. Ask your hubby if he would prefer you "made-up" or more natural. He's your only audience now, you aim only to please him.

I personally don't think anyone should have cosmetic surgery either other than for the same reasons listed by /u/PhantomDream09 and you really don't look like you need any, besides he married you for what you look like now so unless he said something to make you think otherwise, don't fix what ain't broke, just maintain what you have and improve things such as weight if needed, muscle tone, eating habits, wardrobe, sexy time etc.

Happy New Year :)

MrsStrom · 2014-01-01T16:41:35+00:00

I forgot to mention, the biggest contributor to girl game!

A kind and polite demeanor! A little sugar goes a long ways in keeping a man happy.

sugarcrush · 2014-01-01T06:23:54+00:00

You really should smile more! You look absolutely radiant in the first picture (I'm guessing wedding? :))

If you don't normally wear makeup, you might try some out. Your eyes are beautiful and you have nice cheekbones. Some eyeliner, mascara, and blush would highlight those features very well.

2014-01-01T14:52:03+00:00

put some make up on and smile, girl--youre young!

2014-01-03T20:47:22+00:00

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BoutThatLyfe · 2014-01-04T03:35:22+00:00

I liked the short hair and the curly hair. But I think a little lipstick and eye makeup and you're set!

MrsStrom · 2014-01-01T16:40:22+00:00

You look like a girl I know. You aren't from Michigan are you?

I liked the long, curly hair the best. That particular shade of blonde makes you look very red. I'd go with something darker.

Definitely start wearing make up. I <3 Kandee Johnson. She has tons of great tutorials, and she's a sweetheart. Here's a link to her Make-Up Basics 101 playlist:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9997B7D51440038C

On my "lazy" days I wear L'Oreal's magic BB cream, blush, a touch of eyeshadow, blush and mascara. It takes less than 5 minutes and I feel much prettier than if I go without.

IMO, you don't need plastic surgery. I'm all for it if you want it, but I don't think YOU need. Hell, I'll be having breast implants and a lift at some point. I think your toothgap is cute.

FleetingWish · 2014-01-02T17:26:50+00:00

I think you got all the basics. The biggest change you can make is to lose some weight. You will feel more confident if you do. I think you could also benefit from a nose job, your nose is a little long. Growing your hair longer would be helpful too, but it won't help as much as the other things I mentioned. It is important what your husband thinks, but of he's somewhat beta, chances are he'll tell you "you're beautiful just the way you are", no matter what he feels. I'm lucky enough to have a no-nonsense SO who was willing to tell me I was fat, and had a huge nose. A nose job and 20lbs later, I feel better about myself.

Improving your looks won't just help your attractiveness, it will help your confidence. Let's face it, you wouldn't be in here asking for help if you were confident. I think the ladies in here are far too willing to sugar coat. It's only being faced with the reality that allows us to improve ourselves. The reality is you're fat. You know that, you own a mirror. You can either sit around feeling sorry for yourself, or you can do something about it.

Title	up my game?
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Date	January 1, 2014 1:36 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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