Wanting vs Needing A MAn

PhantomDream09 · 2015-12-11T18:23:59+00:00

However- I don't want to have a lack of vulnerability emotionally and am trying to balance the two.

I guess I'm not understanding why you think you have to pick between being financially stable and emotionally open?

You have figured out how to live within your means, and you are thinking ahead in terms of saving. If you are concerned about whether or not you'll ever feel comfortable combining your finances with another man - then I think you're jumping the gun. A lot.

The first step is to meet a man. To make sure he's a man that is open to (and willing) to date your family. You aren't a one package deal anymore (as you're well aware). Before you start worrying about the complications that go along with combining households - focus instead on finding a good man that's okay with dating a mother of 4 and all the obligations (and complications) that implies.

littleteafox · 2015-12-11T18:31:09+00:00

Step 1: Develop a relationship with a good man worthy of your deference

Step 2: Tell him what you told us. Talk to him about it.

I think the odds are high that he will understand. You two can discuss it and work on a plan together where perhaps you both set aside some money for your own personal savings/spending.

ManicBrklyDreamGrl · 2015-12-11T18:27:43+00:00

I'm 26 and childless so maybe I shouldn't even be commenting at all, but this has been a fear of mine as well when I consider being financially vulnerable. Many, many kudos on getting things as good as they are now - that's such an accomplishment.

I have heard from a few surrendered women that maintaining marketable skills can be done while being vulnerable that will not create a sense of mistrust between them and their husbands. It depends entirely on what you do, but keeping up to date on whatever is going on in your industry and finding ways to participate in a less committed, more flexible way is feasible for many women. Developing other useful skills is a good idea, too. It can be via the Internet, crafting, providing some sort of service... You're bound to be able to do something in order to have a side income. I also see in TRP the recommendation to find 'passive income streams' through websites etc. From what I understand, they sometimes require little time and effort once you get things sorted. I don't really know what that entails but I'm sure it could be figured out.

Best of luck! I'm confident that you'll be successful.

Title	Wanting vs Needing A MAn
Author	RanchingMama
Upvotes	14
Comments	13
Date	December 11, 2015 5:43 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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