Ways you complement your SO?

aftertheafter-party · 2018-04-16T04:15:03+00:00

[W]hat specific strengths do you bring to the table that he lacks, and vice versa?

I bring:

Social nuance / etiquette insights
Fun & laid-back spontaneity
Curiosity & inspiration
Quickness

He brings:

Charisma & social “power”
Careful consideration & future-oriented planning
Certainty & decisiveness
Deliberation

How, specifically, does your SO take advantage of the strengths you bring to the table as he leads your relationship?

I am in charge of many “negotiations,” whereas he is in charge of one-sided “orders”
I guide day-to-day happiness planning, while he leads on “big picture” decisions
I make sure our home feels “home-y,” while he makes sure all the appliances etc. are working correctly

How do you take advantage of his strengths?

He is much smarter about money & business; I take his advice or get his approval
He is extraordinarily kind & generous; he is aware when I am low on energy & is quick to take up slack for me (e.g. bringing me breakfast in bed before I have a “big plans” day, or scheduling an “off” day for me after I have several “on” days in a row, or picking up take-out / cooking dinner if I have a long day, giving me foot / back rubs all the time)
He knows more about cooking / eating meat (I was a vegetarian for over a decade), so he helps me prepare meat at home or cut / handle meat I order or receive at dinners out

This is just what initially comes to mind : )

Pixie0310 · 2018-04-16T12:03:16+00:00

In what ways do you and your SO complement each other? In other words, what specific strengths do you bring to the table that he lacks, and vice versa? He is self-confident, forward-thinking, practical, mature, grounded, and experienced. I am socially conscious & diplomatic, fun, optimistic / inspiring, and polished. If we were a car, he'd be all the high-tech impressive mechanical stuff under the hood that keeps us moving; I'd be all the shine, polish, and leather that keeps us looking good. All politics aside, we joke that I'm the Kellyanne Conway to his Donald Trump. Our relationship sometimes has that dynamic: he's the bold but edgy ideas-generating entrepreneur, I'm the PR person who keeps him aware & tracks the details.

How, specifically, does your SO take advantage of the strengths you bring to the table as he leads your relationship? I'm his partner, in life but also business. That's a big part of who we are as a couple. He is on the go a lot, and he gets scattered because he's very proactive and thinks on his feet. I keep track of the details. I write emails for him and help manage the customer relations side of things. But this carries into our personal lives - I help him with personal interactions and we talk about how he relates to people etc. He doesn't naturally think of things like comfort, aesthetic, relaxation time, and diet (he can be a workaholic) - so I manage those things, helping to keep him balanced.

How do you take advantage of his strengths? In my natural state, I'm a lot less practical than he is. I'm an act first, think later person. I have a tendency to make decisions based more on feelings than thoughts. None of which has gotten me far, obviously. He is a fantastic planner and is experienced and practical. I trust him to manage the finances and make big decisions about our timelines and moves in our careers and in our personal life. He is also much better than me at knowing where to draw boundaries with negative people. He's a rock I know I can depend on, which gives me strength to cut ties when I need to.

riseoftherice · 2018-04-16T02:47:23+00:00

It's a fairly new relationship (5m) and we can't see each other often but:

• He is very spontaneous while I'm leaning to be easy more strict. If we have plans I usually make sure they can happens if he still wants. He also helps me open up to not being in control and just going with his flow.

• He can be forgetful with important things he needs to do especially if it causes him stress. I have better memory and I won't get stressed over it so I remindror him and make sure he achieved what he needed to do. Or just the smaller things, like buying veggies for the weekend. He is very proud of his insurance and his newer car.

• He is a lot calmer than I am. When I get stressed he believes in me and helps me get through. Also helps me to accept my past since it doesn't ruffle his feathers too much. If it's okay with him, I can make it okay with myself.

• He is very athletic and strong, I'm not very strong but I'm lightweight. He helps me open bottles (they're very hard to open, I swear!), lifts me up if I can't reach something and can pin me down easily. I in return give great massages (I'm walking on his back), can make him prouder easily if I exercise a bit.

• I'm very good with validation and taking notice of my loved-ones efforts. I comfort him, empower him and let him know I appreciate and notice how much he improves. Just yesterday I mentioned how his son's behaviour at school improved and how his parenting style worked.

That's what I can think of for now.

Title	Ways you complement your SO?
Author	OkJicama
Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	April 15, 2018 11:56 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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