I've often heard said when a redditor hops on here who finds out that his wife did a load of kinky sex acts with bf's/ONS but refuses to do it now, that she ''chose him'', he ''won the prize'' etc. this is bullshit and here's why.

Attraction, she was attracted to those men before, she wanted to please/impress them hence the degrading sex acts, thinking because these handsome men were sleeping with her that they, found her attractive(saw her as a fellow 8 or 9/10) she continues down that road having fun and trying to snare that 8 or 9 out of 10 off the market permanently.

What she does not realize is her very efforts will ensure that she never gets one, these men have options and will not settle for a slut that does anal at the drop of a hat or had several threesomes or loved a rough degrading fuck.

She ends up settling for a guy that will take her but unfortunately any guy that desperate/stupid is not worthy/attractive thus resentment builds on her side and anger on his once he finds out he was the back up.