Summary: This started as a discussion with a friend which resulted in me modifying my wardrobe yet another time and buying a lot of jewelery. And you know what - people do notice that. Especially girls and your insecure friends (but let's skip the latter).

 

There is another post about clothes and style where I discussed basics. To sum them up - dress in fitted, color matching clothes, wear good shoes and avoid round necked t-shirts (or even worse - "funny" t-shirts). Find your style (you can start here) and then buy clothes that compliment your choice. But first and foremost: think before you put something on and look in the mirror before leaving your home.

But that way you'll only be good, not great. Time to go further with your style.

 

There is a big difference between dressing "well" and dressing "great". What really stands out on the streets is the congruent, confident look where every single item is worn just right and fits perfectly. But that's not all - when it is done properly it also delivers a message, communicates some qualities about a man. You can use that - play on stereotypes, make people guess who you are just by looking at you.

When I've introduced that idea to couple of my friends they said that color wheel, fitted clothes and having a style was ok but this is stupid and too much of a mumbo jumbo. But is it? When you see a guy in a studded leather jacket with black colored long hair and heavy boots won't you assume he's a member of a certain group? And that there are qualities predominantly present within that group?

If you can make people associate some qualities with you just by the way you dress then why wouldn't you use that? We all know what's connected with dressing in suits or blazers/jackets and why more often than not is considered providerish. But most people stops there. However, sturdy leather boots, jeans, leather jacket and flannel shirt screams "cafe racer style" - motorbikes, adventure, adrenaline, etc. Tight t-shirts or even tank tops, nice sunglasses, tan, jacked figure - "I work out, I am dedicated and looks are important to me". Any time you notice someone on the street - be it a man or a woman - stop for a second and think "what's the message there". Because usually there is one and its projected consciously.

 

These are just outfits. However, the main topic of this post are accessories. You can modify any good style into a great one by incorporating some extras. You dress in shirts but have a visible tattoo, some pendants hanging around your neck and a leather bracelet? That's the "I'm a bad boy with a good job" message. Or maybe you dress in a bright colors but also sport a big diving watch and dog tags? Or maybe you've decided that your hands and arms look too plain for you and decided to wear some metal and leather on them?

Sky is the limit. As you can see in the pictures there's a big difference between my hands with and without rings/bracelet. And these are just plain tungsten ones, you can opt for more stylish. Since I've started to wear those I've been asked about them many times and heard even more comments. Girls do notice that. Same goes for pendants - things hanging around your neck usually draws some attention. Not many guys wear any jewelry at all and even a single item makes you stand out. You'll be more interesting, at least in the very beginning.

The first time I've worn two of those pendants I was on a late daygame (gutter game) with sharkk and we were in fact discussing accessories. He's sense of style is way above mine and I remember him saying a very important thing - to have a story behind your jewelry. It will be easier later on as you'll just acquire more personal items but in the beginning just make something up. Two bars later he opened a set and one minute into the conversation the girls started to grab our pendants and ask questions about them. Big "I told you so" was in place.

 

Accessories aren't limited to the things you put on your fingers, arms and neck. What I haven't realized there are few pieces of clothing that can be considered accessories by themselves. Take shoes for example. Vans or Converse All Stars are not only shoes but they're timeless classics. You can't go wrong with those and they're much more defining than generic shoes. Same goes for shades - think some Bollé/ESS shooting sunglasses or Oakleys. Once again we're in that shady territory of "what message you're projecting with your clothes".

But it doesn't end there. Graphics on t-shirts are yet another thing. I usually wear just colors. But I've started to experiment with different graphics and I found out it's not only useful to break the pattern but it's also fun. I've bought quite a few v-necked t-shirts and Henleys with American symbols on them (flags, stripes, eagles). People started to notice the pattern. "What's with you and the US?" they asked. So they do notice and you can project a message that way too. Just don’t wear those ugly “funny” t-shirts.

 

Lessons learned:

  • When creating yours style think about the message. What will people think when they see you dressed like that?
  • Accessorize! It's yet another way to stand out. And wearing jewelery is awesome.
  • Accessories, style, clothes - those will never be the deciding factor. However, they can make you appear more interesting which helps you to actually do your work (that is - seduce).
  • Always be congruent in your clothing. If one day you're wearing dog tags and t-shirt with a M16 and the next you're rocking the peace symbol something is not right.

 

I hardly ever write about fashion. However, if you're interested in picking up girls during the day I have a daygame blog.