Becoming Emotionally Numb/Emotionally Distant

JerichoRomulus · 2021-03-16T23:35:11+00:00

You’re a teenager, so your emotions are going to be wild and unpredictable no matter how much you don’t want them to be. Depression is a very big possibility. I speak from experience. But I also think all the recent trauma you’re suffering isn’t helping. It’s also very easy for guys who first get into the Red Pill, and especially due to emotional hardships and turmoil, to completely close themselves off, but one extreme (No emotions) isn’t better then the other (Nothing but emotions)

I think you’re doing well handling yourself, most likely to protect your heart from all your family troubles. This is a good thing, but being completely closed off to your emotions and everyone else’s is a terrible thing to do. It leaves you alone and hurting in the long run and everyone else in your life neglected.

Red Pill isn’t about being a fucking Alpha Male GigaChad who refuses to cry at funerals. It’s about developing personal strength to deal with life. It’s about learning your own self value. It’s about handling life in the best way possible to make your best self. Ultimately, that’s up to you. Maybe you’re just a person whose naturally more closed off. That’s okay. But you’ve expressed interest in being more caring, so if you’re serious:

Be prepared to make big fucking changes. You’ve said you’ve suffered from depression and anxiety even from a young age. And you’ve been hit with tons of difficult family problems. Just one of them is enough to fuck a person up. Go see a therapist, a counselor, get therapy, do fucking something man. Don’t let your soul die and numb yourself to the world. You’ll realize you stopped living a long time before you kill yourself. There are people trying to reach out to you. Try to engage them. Try to let them down easy and talk honestly and directly instead of just neglecting them. There’s tons of emotions and problems in your life, and you need to address them before they catch up on you. I’m telling you from experience: If you don’t start now, you will regret it years down the line.

But you’re a smart kid, and you want to do better, and you’re aware of how to: You’ve already got half the battle won. Now the next part is being willing to open up to your emotions and the people in your life. Don’t be ashamed about them. Don’t cling to ideas of real men not showing emotions. That will fuck you up. It’s good to show strength. But there’s nothing wrong with showing weakness and being honest about it. RedPill is about mastering your emotions, not completely eliminating them as if them existing will ruin your life. Life will be difficult, but you can preserve and even thrive in spite of its suffering, and master your emotions all the while - that’s what Red Pill is about.

I don’t know man. Everything else is up to you. Maybe read up on and watch some Jordan Peterson, and other various psychology and philosophy. Stoicism, Jung, Nietzsche, and so on. Try to set a routine of doing work and working out even if it hurts. Maintaining a schedule keeps you moving and prevents you from falling into a complete apathy and depression. Now sometimes it’s good to just have a time when you can’t do anything but lie in bed all day. That most likely will happen, and multiple times. What’s important is your ability to bounce back from such episodes and to not fall into depression forever. Try to reach out to people or be honest with them. And no, being nice to women does not make you a simp. A simp is basing your self worth around a woman and making yourself submissive to them and hiding your real self like a little bitch. That’s what being a simp is - basing your identity around a woman you consider more important then yourself. You can be nice to women, even be friends with them, without being a simp. Don’t get hung up on that idea. Focus more on legitimate, healthy friendships then thinking in terms of Redpill dating and plates.

I know a lot of guys on here talk about being Alpha and not being friends with women, don’t be that stupid, you can interact with them and be fine. You can be honest about your emotions with a woman and not be a simp. Don’t be afraid of women, they’re people just like you. But if there are some interested in reaching out to you, don’t be afraid to reach back man, or to be honest about not wanting to. You don’t have to even date them, right now you need a friend more then anything.

I don’t know man. Ultimately, it’s your life, and only you can make it better. Trust in yourself and your ability to make your life better, and do actions to ensure it’ll be better. There’s only so much the Internet can tell you. Life’s hard, don’t make it worse for yourself, be strong, and never forget that it’s okay to be kind to yourself, to cry, to be weak and vulnerable.

God speed young man.

LawItUp77 · 2021-03-16T23:41:12+00:00

This is 100% depression. I’ve been in that mindset. I read a few of the comments and I suggest the same. Meditate and face your fears, understand and figure out what you haven’t let go yet. Once you emerge you will realize that life is beautiful and can be amazing, but you must resolve what’s bringing you down.

devoido · 2021-03-16T23:10:48+00:00

Sounds like depression. The redpill won't drastically alter your natural emotional responses, unless the content upsets you to your core.

frankbuffetjrjr · 2021-03-17T00:59:43+00:00

It’s a stage in becoming a man. Long trial in the desert. Dark night of doubt. It’s not the final stage.

Boys please their mothers. Young men realize that other women are not capable of the same love their mothers are. That women won’t ever truly complete you. Then it gets dark. Feels meaningless because you’re realize you’re truly alone, always have been and always will be. The Light comes when you realize that that’s a blessing. That the world exists for your pleasure. You realize you’re the Father in all the relationships in your life, you replace your father, love your mother with pity instead of adoration, love women with detached amusement instead of worship, love the world as a playground instead of a trial. Be free

InfiniteJackfruit5 · 2021-03-17T04:22:35+00:00

A negative side effect of being here too often could be that you've built so many emotional defenses that nothing gets through. You're protecting yourself from these potentially negative emotions by not participating in them.

This works for dropping down the negativity in your head, but it also prevents you from forming new bonds due to the fact that these require emotional risk. That's why when a women messages you, you immediately feel like she's just trying to use you and there's no possible way she's actually interested in you.

Truthfully there's no way to be super cold but also outgoing and making new relationships with people (with men or women).

juice_bomb · 2021-03-16T23:18:49+00:00

Meditatate. Face your traumas and fears. Open your heart. Good start. Therapy helps too.

TheDumbAsk · 2021-03-17T03:16:57+00:00

It may just be depression. Especially if you have already dealt with it, especially so young. Probably a lot of trauma you still need to work through, and more being piled up. Losing loved ones affects us all in different ways, going numb is a very normal response. It is a defense mechanism.

Red pill doesn't tell you to be emotionless, just to control it and keep frame when you need to. Find someone you can be vulnerable with, preferably someone you are paying(therapist). Find some friends you can let your guard down with, don't unload(too much) on them though. No one ever does anything for anyone unless it benefits them. If it makes you feel good to be stable for your family embrace that.

Do your homework, seriously, everything you do now even if you don't care about a future will set you up for when you are older and want to do something.

Be ware slipping back into the blue pill, be ware of the black pill. The world will give you shit tests every day, keep your head up.

thefilthyhermit · 2021-03-17T04:28:00+00:00

Look man. You are getting hit from all sides with bad shit happening. It hurts when bad things happen to family. Take some time and think things through. Deal with things as they come. Keep your head in the present. Take care of your family and don't get sidetracked by girls. There will be time for that later if you want it. Get back in the game when you get to the other side.

El0vution · 2021-03-17T01:00:14+00:00

You’re just processing everything. It took Neo a little while to calibrate. You’ll regain your emotions in a short period. A red pill man needs to understand his emotions and integrate them into his life properly to achieve his directives.

YeOldeDingusKhan · 2021-03-17T03:35:48+00:00

Definitely sounds like anhedonia or just apathy, both markers of mental health strife... talk to a therapist and be easy on yourself, just about everyone grapples with the struggles of life. I applaud you for being self-aware and trying to get out of a rut. Too many guys think there is something masculine or beneficial to being apathetic or not caring about anything but that’s just not the case. The days are long but the years are short and it’s easy to fall into a lull where everything loses its luster.

Stay the course and best of luck. It’s a challenging time right now but also a perfect opportunity to learn about yourself and move in a new direction.

stayingaligned · 2021-03-17T04:24:20+00:00

Hey man my condolences. Red pill to me is more about being okay with circumstances and responding in a fitting manner. It’s very normal to experience heavy emotions under these circumstances. And if you don’t that’s also okay. But if you do feel them, make sure to not push them away or run away from them through (games, social media, drugs, women, alcohol, porn). And you dont have to feel ashamed of having these emotions, otherwise this is what they call Toxic Masculinity.

I suggest you read a bit more on emotions and how trauma’s work. I can give you a tip of the iceberg.

Basically all emotions need to be felt when they arise. And be felt in a human way. So cry when you need to cry. Be sad when you need to be sad. When emotions are felt they will disappear on their own, but you have to give them space to arise and to be felt. So sit on your couch for a while doing nothing, what feelings and thought come up? I suggest you take a look at how meditation could help you in this situation.

You are quite young still, and just you being in this subreddit is gonna make you a man way faster. You got this man. Really wish you all the strength to get through this. I hope you find a way to experience this without suppressing your feelings. It will save you a lot of weird stuff later in life. (Believe me, speaking from experience. Had a similar situation when I was your age)

FitPresentation3927 · 2021-03-17T13:39:34+00:00

depression can come in many forms and my tip (i have suffered and currently suffering a depression) my tip is to keep up whit you're workout and maybe get a hobby or some kind of side hustle that keeps you busy a + is it makes you money or makes you can develop high income skill or whatever

redditisnowtrash · 2021-03-17T14:38:20+00:00

Discipline. Work on your discipline. You feel like shit but have to work out? You work out. You feel like shit but have to do X Y Z? Do X Y Z. Whatever that means to you.

Acknowledge that you feel like shit, don't push away your emotions but then you go do what needs to be done. Once you get your own shit done slowly, you can go take a little break and sit down and wallow in your emotions if you want to.

It's not easy and it's not supposed to be. You already got some great advice from other users, this is the only thing I can add from someone being depressed at your age up until my 30's. Just keep working on you even when the world is crashing down. You'll thank yourself for the discipline down the road. When times get tough in the future, you can rely on your discipline to better yourself.

K9_snoop · 2021-03-17T01:08:19+00:00

If you don’t have access to a therapist or something similar right now, try to spend as much of your free time doing what you love. Allow yourself to get lost in activities you love to do. Find a community or like minded people that share similar interests as you. Keep ya head up bro, things will get better !

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-03-17T10:21:06+00:00

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kunaisnap · 2021-03-17T01:02:50+00:00

I suggest doing some shrooms 3grams

Throwawaytheguitar · 2021-03-17T00:38:55+00:00

In other news, the Earth is spinning around its own axis and pussy is wet like water.

YVNG_PEDO · 2021-03-17T01:04:24+00:00

Shitttt, I've been like this since I was 12. We on the same boat.

Thereisnopurpose12 · 2021-03-17T02:08:01+00:00

Wait so you haven't had the RP malaise yet?

Title	Becoming Emotionally Numb/Emotionally Distant
Author	UNDERDXSE
Upvotes	88
Comments	45
Date	March 16, 2021 11:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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