Being Alone Is A Gift

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"YOU NEED TO BE/LEARN TO BE ALONE"

INTRODUCTION

Over the course of your life, there will be times when things become difficult, where the build-up of your life becomes stagnant or even reversed into degradation. This happens all too often in a world full of distractions and chaos, that comes in the form of technologies, social media, trends and people, those around you and even those who are close to you. Some of these external beings have certainly played an important role throughout your life as they shape your up identity and create who you are today.

Yet, the reality is, most of them are holding you back, with useless entertainments and interactions and influences that often wears you down instead of building you up. Intentionally or not, they put you off from your focus in life, from the progress you wish to reach, goals that you want to accomplish and from living, thinking and making decisions that benefit yourself, your growth, your development as a person who has desires and dreams.

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THE REALITY FOR MODERN HUMAN BEING

Yet, without these things and these people, you feel the dread of being lonely, the fear of being bored, and would rather take the route of being constantly involved in something or stimulated by someone. You are wired to think that you have to experience joys every hour and be surrounded by excitement every day in order to avoid that path towards boredom and loneliness. You have grown to be afraid of missing out on things that if you think deeply just for a moment, don't even matter that much to you. You associated time spent alone as time spent wasting, doing nothing and going nowhere.

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Because when you look at other people on social media having fun and living in amusement, it reflects a sense of sadness in your heart, for you know your life is nowhere near as awesome as theirs. You let this lack of excitement and motivation on a regular basis determine your moods, your thoughts and your actions that further negatively contribute to your life. You have little things going on for yourself, so all you want is to feel good and seek after the short-term pleasures that are abundantly available from social and artificial stimulations.

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Something as simple as a phone notification is something you crave for every hours and minutes of a day. You as a modern human being, have become in needs of attention. You want attention. You are obsessed with attention, whether that is from a thing or a human. Your life is so consumed by the externals, that you leave no rooms for self-reflection nor a sense of awareness toward your damaged and abandoned internals, which is often the cause of the dissatisfaction found in every step of life.

YOUR ABILITY TO BE ALONE

This is the reality for many of us, always on the look for the next biggest thing, something exciting, something new, something stimulating, something that gets you out of your own states of dullness and misery. Far too many people today operate in this way, especially the young, as their view on being alone is skewed towards negativity and unhappiness. Yet they don't realize that it is their constant involvements within the chaos of the world and of their own life that are preventing them from ever reaching that path towards fulfilment. Most people can not be left alone nor do have the ability to be alone, but given the condition of how most of us are living today, being alone is a gift, not a curse.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING ALONE

We should never see this as a waste or a futile use of our time. Because the time we spend alone is the only time when we can be true and be honest with ourselves, about who we are and what we want in life. It is the time that allows us to be mindful and be at peace with ourselves, our emotions, our desires and our previous experiences that may have traumatized or affected us immensely, to then cultivate an understanding of our internal mind, heart and souls, and create that unbreakable frame of ourselves, of who we are and why we exist, within the larger context of an ever-changing world that we all live in.

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Being alone, we can truly see the picture of the reality for what it is and recognize for what it is not, what has been fabricated and told wrongly, to determine if we are truly the master of our life or a slave of our own existence. It is not by chance that we are destined to be one with our mind and body, and that we are not meant to experience the perspective of everyone and everything else throughout our lifetime, but to focus on a few specific things that matter most to ourselves and drift away from the things that hinder our ability to live a happy and fulfilling life.

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CONCLUSION

So reverse your thoughts process, and view time spends alone as an opportunity instead, to converse with yourself and discover your life path. In order to see where you stand in the present as well as in the future, you need to utilize your awareness and your imagination that is completely free of impulsions and distractions. This can only become possible when you fully master your ability to be alone and achieve that powerful state of mindfulness. The more quality time you spend with yourself, the more you will be able to spot areas where you need to grows, and how you can improve and become a person of value that can fill you with pride, confidence and real happiness.