Female nature is well-known within red pill circles and most of the Right. While the average blue-pilled normie sees women as the sweet, kind, empathetic sex, more experienced men know too well of their darker, narcissistic, and untamed side. And in a society as cucked as America, where simping is at a level that would make simp-kings from history, such as Paris of Troy or Prince Harry, blush, female nature is allowed to run wild. Empathy devolves into cruelty, humility into narcissism, and modesty into thottery.

Given this painful reality in which we find ourselves, it is only natural for the average man to feel fear shoot up his spine when considering an interaction with a woman. Will these creatures ruin his life for any stated misstep (in America, a misstep often means committing the “crime” of not being 6'1, jacked, and earning 6 figures)? Yes, yes she will. And she will often do it gleefully. So how does an average individual in America even interact with a woman, least of all cold approach? How does an individual do what society deems creepy/dangerous and actually succeed?

To take a step back, why has the aforementioned dynamic occurred in the first place? Anyone with experience knows that women actually love interacting with men. So why are these interactions suddenly considered “creepy” by greater society? I propose that the reason is due to the breakdown of the symbolic order which has governed societal institutions for millenia. In the age of liberalism, all structure has been eroded. This social world of higher-order linguistic communication, traditional ideological conventions, and the respect for the law ceases to exist, and is replaced by liberalism and individualism. It is suddenly permitted or even encouraged to be as narcissistic and selfish as possible, in the name of liberal values.

In the presence of such breakdowns of societal structure in the past, other groups have attempted to impose new orders to take back control of their societies. A large part of these efforts have been focused on women: Islam takes the position of complete submission to the male gender. MustacheMan saw women as important but relegated their role to Soldier birther. Neither solution is going to solve your current predicament.

To get laid you need to re-impose the system of traditional values. And to cold-approach, you need to understand how women perceive this order.

But first we need to understand how women communicate. Essentially, women communicate through subcommunication. Subcommunication is based on communicating with indirection, double meaning, ambiguity, emotionality, and imprecision. A great deal of this communication is through covert channels: think eye-rolls and glances instead of direct confrontation, all which allow for plausible deniability. Moreover, your actions subcommuicate your status in the social hierarchy. This is why women prefer men ‘looking away’ in Tinder profile pictures: it subcommunicates self-confidence and a lack of neediness. Why? Because this is what a ‘high-status’ alpha man would do. And through this subcommunication, her perception of your social status determines how she interacts with you. Different women look for different cues in men (some want men who are well dressed, others want men who are buff), but they all want one key-ingredient: a man who exudes self-esteem. And this can easily be subcommunicated.

To give an example, consider yourself in this situation: you are in a yoga room with 50 hot girls. Are you looking around constantly, checking them out? Are you jerking your neck when she moves her flawless body? This is the action of the average man. And women notice it. It subcommunicates that you do not see yourself as the prize. Conversely, are you focused on yourself? Are you watching yourself in the mirror, and simply seeing these girls as a distraction? This subcommunicates yourself as the “prize.” Other actions do this as well, such as waiting longer to respond on texts, ignoring her shit tests, etc.

So returning to cold-approach, how does the concept of the symbolic order become relevant? And how does this relate to subcommunication? The symbolic order is important because women, at their core being, crave the re-imposition of a coherent symbolic order, in which empathy for others replaces cruelty, humility replaces narcissism, group/family responsibility replaces individualism, traditional values replace liberalism and CrossDressIsm, and society is governed by the rule of natural law. And it is within you to subcommunicate that you are an agent of this burgeoning symbolic order.

And how does one subcommunicate this effectively? By re-introducing basic actions that have historically defined human interaction. For example, you see a pretty girl behind you at the register at the grocery store. You want to speak to her. How do you do this successfully? By expressing the core features as described above. In a society governed by group dynamics and empathy, would you not feel a duty to interract with her? Let’s imagine she is wearing a UVirginia sweat-shirt. Turn to her and say “Cavaliers, right?” (Virginia’s team logo). Out of a sense of empathy, make an observation about her or the world around you (that doesn’t directly mention her beauty). Once she responds positively, make a subsequent observation (“Are they any good this year?” “Isn’t UVa a basketball school?") Continue to make observtions and escalate the conversation, slowly building rapport “I went to UCLA. We’re a basketball school, as well.” “I just moved to the East Coast after going to UCLA, I love New York…but it’s so different than California.” “This city has so much going on…I want to learn more and experience everything.” “Do you have any suggestions for the best places in the Lower East Side.” “Cool…let’s trade Instagrams, you can tell me about your favorite places in the city sometime.” Escalation on Instagram is for another post, but getting that “add” is 50% of the battle. Now she sees your Instagram stories, where once again you can subcommunicate your role as an agent of the dynamic symbolic order via pictures and stories: throwing parties which engage others, bringing other women into your orbit, expressing empathy for others, etc.

To take a step back, I want to make two caveats. a) Empathy does not mean “simping.” It means understanding the emotions of others. b) There must be a darker side to your subcommunication as well. She needs to see that you are capable of dominance and ‘dark triad’ traits. How is this communicated? Some of this is physical…having a more imposing body. Some of this is simply how you look…that you are actually capable of violence in a dire situation.

Never forget that, as an agent of the aforementioned symbolic order, she can easily be replaced if she acts out of line. And that there are a million other women that would love to be part of the genesis of this order.

To give another example of a cold approach, I was recently walking down a major avenue in Manhattan, on my way home. The night was becoming dark, and I found myself lost and without a phone. A cute girl carrying a suitcase walks next to me on the corner of the street. “Hey, do you know what street we’re on. Is this 26th St?” “No,” she responds. “This is 25th.” Now that I have opened her, the rest is easy. “Why are you walking down 3rd Ave. with a giant suitcase.” Since you don’t want to seem like an autist who asks a million questions, an observation can also be followed by a cocky tease “that suitcase could carry me!” As I turn on my street, I notice this girl turns with me. “You’re on this street as well? Wow!” I walk slightly ahead of her so she does not consider the possibility that I am following her. As I approach my building, she starts turning to it as well. I walk ahead of her into the elevator. She walks in. “Wow, we’re in the same building!” “Crazy! I’m having a party next week, Thursday at 7pm. Bring a bottle of wine.”

And who shows up at 7pm a full week later, after this 45-second interaction? This cute girl. “How did you meet him” several other girls ask. “On the street, we walked into the same apartment complex.” “Woah, that’s crazy.” “Yah, actually I thought he might have thought I was following him.” This random girl who would normally accuse men of stalking her, told people at my apartment that she was worried I’d think she was stalking me. Total re-frame of the typical dynamic, simply by subcommunicating the correct characteristics.

Other important notes to keep in mind, for cold approach. Always approach from the front. If she is next to you, make sure you are not behind her, that you are slightly in front. Never bring up appearance, sex, etc. unless it can be done later to build rapport. Never be or even appear needy or over-invested…for example, express empathy but do not “check in” like a bf to see if she made it home okay (would you do this with a stranger you met for 30 seconds?) Trade off question/observation. Escalate. Do not initiate touch unless it is clearly appropriate, and if so it should be ‘incidental’ touch.

The best way I could explain this all is…think of yourself as a woman. Be on her level. Subcommunicate in her language. Stop trying to “alpha-dominate” her. That is just another form of simping. If you were a woman at a yoga studio, would you be stating at her. No, you would be gawking at yourself. If you were a woman at a grocery store, would you make some creepy weird comment to the girl behind you? No, you would be calibrated because you would not give a shit. Don’t put women on a pedestal.

Lastly, there is the time-tested method of treating her the same way you would an ugly girl. Judge her, don’t let her judge you.

In a world of endless attention, where a 6 gets 10000 likes on Tinder, and a 9 believes herself to be Aphrodite, a direct approach is the best approach. Just go up and talk to her.

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