So my situation is very odd and I would like to run it past you guys.

I have been reading up on all this MAP and MMSL and honestly it seems like this has always been my specific problem in life. It speaks volumes to me and just clicks.

I was married for about 9 years and the last few were awful. She found some dude online and declared we were over. We are very close though so it was amicable and we remained friends.

Without even realizing what I was doing I guess I enacted a MAPS program. I started working out, eating healthy, getting fit and getting nice haircuts and straight razor shaves. Looking back now it all makes sense with what you guys are saying. We would meet for lunch and she would be weirdly flirty and touching me.

Well fast forward a few months and I'm doing great, look incredible, sleek and hot, working out and dressing nice. Dating a great girl who makes bank.

She on the other hand is in the LDR she left me for, she has never met him and he's feeding her excuses about why he can't come see her and she's angry at his lack of commitment and care, she's drinking more heavily as she is unhappy.

She gets a DUI. First person she calls is me and of course I come get her and long story short she moves in with me so I can get her to her work. That first night, I guess after being in a never met LDR she is just plain horny and we screw for hours and it's great sex, hotter than I remember it being.

She felt bad initially as she is still LDR never met, but we have since worked out a FWB relationship. She has needs her over seas dude can't fill (he he), and my plan was to enjoy great regular sex while still improving myself.

But since we have been having sex nearly daily (way more than we ever had married) it's like my drive died. Can't find energy to work out, get hair cut, been leaving okcupid requests from girls unanswered... and I think her rekindled desire for me is fading... But we aren't together in any way, I know deep down it's over but yeah I would like to give it a shot again. But in pretty sure I drove her crazy with desire at first, and now that I'm slobbing again her desire is dying.

Most people would say at this point I'm being used but I'm getting laid all the time. Just yesterday she woke me up with a bj, we had sex that night too and she came multiple times, then 20 minutes later she starts rubbing me and grabs my hand and puts my fingers inside her so I can bring her to orgasm, then sex again.

Can I find balance between MAP and great regular sex or is the desire the fuel that drives and I'm leaving my fuel inside her vagina?