The things we teach here must be learned the hard way.

There is no way to accept that "closure is bullshit" unless you've made a fool out of yourself at least once when a woman dumped you. There is no way to "hold frame" unless you've recognized where yours had the tensile strength of a wet paper bag.

There is NO WAY to feel comfortable freely expressing yourself unless you have tempered and calibrated your social skills (often at the cost of awkwardness, embarrassment, or anxiety).

The simple reality of TRP is that it is kinesthetic and experiential. The way your body and face move in concert with your words is equivalent to a muscle, and without the same type of tribulations that make a muscle strong, your kinesthetics will be weak. Likewise, without adequate reference points to our aphorisms, they will remain meaningless parrot-talk until you've contextualized them in your own life.

Ever noticed how the great writers and teachers among us, despite the many differences, share a manifest authenticity amongst them?

That obvious authenticity comes from experiences, not analytics. Nobody ever theoried their way into some pussy, they theoried their way into a better way to carry themselves, a better way to manage their internal monologue, a better way to be certain what they're doing was making them fulfilled.

Moreover, just about everyone worth listening to can express some version of, "I found this out by going out and failing, then getting better, now I'm sharing it with you all." Good theory is the result of good hypotheses, which were aggressively tested in real life.

Go out and do hard things.

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