Do not view cheating as standard or normal

Apexk9 · 2016-03-29T22:54:03+00:00

I don't cheat.

If I wanted to fuck other women I wouldn't be in a relationship

MentORPHEUS · 2016-03-29T22:58:30+00:00

When I was closer to 20 I viewed this as a moral absolute.

With 30 years of real-world experience since then, I consider "never cheat" a strong recommendation, albeit with nuances and extenuating circumstances. Do what you will or won't in your own life, but don't be too quick to finalize judgements on others because you don't know all of their situation; walk a mile in their shoes so to speak.

For those who want to spin multiple plates, it's much easier to set up a nonmonogamous relationship upfront, than to change or amend it later, and much much easier than just cheating and getting caught.

Instead, tell the bitch that she's a loser, and walk away: a correction. A lesson that you won't take the easy pickings, and that her actions put her beneath what you're willing to deal with.

Don't assume this will have the long-term effect on her behavior that you wish it would. In fact, the cognitive dissonance will probably be resolved by riding the next cock that much harder. If it makes you feel better about yourself, go ahead; but unless your woman set this up as a test, or the prospective cheater's circles intersect yours now or in the future, the effect will end there.

Angry_Landwhale · 2016-03-30T02:27:19+00:00

Your motives are transparent and they come from a place of weakness and manipulation.

Its simple to show when one strips it down into it's basic elements. Your purpose is to discourage men from doing something that doesn't put women first. That's what it boils down to. "Be a man, submit to women's will". Is that what you think men do? What cycle are you referring to? "The cycle" is bad mmkay? Why? Who is it bad for? Is it a fixed and observable chain of events?

Why do you attempt to impose your morality on me? What authority do you have on this? What will you do to reduce this behavior you are so compassionately opposed to? This post? Do you go anywhere else in your actual person to deliver your message? What is cheating in your terms? Define it so we can know what you are forbidding us from.

_red_carpet · 2016-03-30T01:37:56+00:00

I agree you're not alpha if you get a girl to cheat on her BF. It simply means you're different than her BF- and if her BF isn't giving her enough security, that could actually mean you're more beta than him.

NotUpToAnythingGood · 2016-03-30T03:27:16+00:00

This post by the OP is filled with moralizing draped in "maintain your honor for her and yourself".

Not to mention it doesn't look at the broad spectrum of relationships that do exist. Not all of them revolve around monogamy, which is the relationship type that often highly benefits the woman.

The only part that is useful is the lessons learned section.

awalt_cupcake · 2016-03-30T00:28:34+00:00

It's all amoral. All is fair in love and war.

Thenextprince · 2016-03-29T23:37:17+00:00

Not everybody follows these morals tho. For example, I keep my word with men, always. With women? I'll lie and break my word all the time. Women deserve no loyalty or morality from you.

always-be-closing · 2016-03-29T23:04:19+00:00

I can't violate promises I haven't made, and I don't recognize covert contracts.

Synsin · 2016-03-29T23:43:47+00:00

This is an interesting read as I'm relatively new to the red pill. I've been seeing someone for roughly 3 weeks now and while the sex is alright - I find I'm not that into her. She's a sweet girl but on my end the attraction isn't really there. I'm getting concerned in that she's starting to get attached in what started out as a casual thing.

Now comes a girl that I am attracted to. We haven't done anything yet but she's into me. I've never had more than one relationship at a time so I feel like I'm at a crossroads.

There's a lot opinions on here and maybe it's leaning towards BP, but I feel more inclined to leave one before pursuing someone else. I've been cheated on and I wouldn't wish that on anybody.

Luckyluke23 · 2016-03-30T03:36:46+00:00

I veiw it now as, " it's gunna happen. when it does, cut all ties and fuck other women"

remember you down own her, It's just your time

mo10000 · 2016-03-29T23:34:30+00:00

I lie to them time and time again to get what I need. Applying morality to them is just stupid, they are just a means to an end.

jimjackjoe · 2016-03-30T03:13:28+00:00

Interesting that this is down-voted. I like to analyze why things get down-voted or up-voted usually more than I like the content of the posts themselves. In this case, it's down-voted largely because of the preachy tone and this statement:

You know that you gave a promise (implied or otherwise), and you broke it.

Specifically, it's the "implied promise" part that people are railing against. This statement makes it seem like OP believes men have to remain exclusive if they are in a serious relationship with a woman. But I don't think that's what OP meant. I think what OP is saying here is actually something more along the lines of "honor your word," which is sound advice as far as I'm concerned, at least for a certain type of man. But yeah, OP doesn't express that clearly enough, hence the down-votes.

Title	Do not view cheating as standard or normal
Author	2102105
Upvotes	1
Comments	35
Date	March 29, 2016 10:33 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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