Although the title contains the acronym BDSM this post will apply to everybody who is wanting to improve their interactions both day to day (with men and women) and in the bedroom (with women only). As you can see by my username I am a Master in a BDSM relationship. I also have many slave "plates" and women now contact me discreetly for one night training sessions - I guess my version of a one night stand. I've been into BDSM for a few years now and have learned a thing or two.

Dominance affects your whole life. You really need to understand that every single interaction with absolutely everybody you meet has some dominance aspect to it. Whether you are the one in awe of somebody else's dominance (shake a celebrity's hand and gawk like a motherfucker) or somebody else is listening to you explain a technical part of your work while someone else listens on amazed - it's always there. Maybe you've said once or twice "I want to go HERE for dinner tonight, let's go." Congratulations, that's exerting dominance.

A dominant role is ALWAYS taken by somebody. When two passive people do meet somebody has to pick up that slack; with women (who are generally submissive in nature) when they have to pick up that slack they instantly lose respect for you. With other men you just have a feeling - you know the feeling "this guy is a pussy" nothing particular says it. You just know. Both men and women pick up on this also.

In the bedroom I used to be an anxious wreck with PE problems and just had a generally shit sex life. This changed after reading Athol Kay's MMSL in 2011 (recommended by me, buy it don't torrent it - the guy quit his damn job to continue helping cunts like us while earning a penny or two).

After reading MMSL I realised how important dominance actually is and dived in headfirst - I fucked the living shit out of my girlfriend that night. She loved it. All women love it, a good rough fuck. Not having to take the lead and be controlled in the bedroom. You need to learn to not feel guilty about this and have the balls to actually do it.

I've been helping a few men IRL overcome these issues and now I'm here to help you guys - I've been a reader since 2k subs, I should return something.

How to become more dominant outside of the bedroom:

It really is just about gaining confidence:

Step 1) Walking dominantly. There was a post recently (that I cannot for the life of me find a link to, if anyone has it bookmarked can you message me so I can at least give credit) describing a "power walk". This is a brilliant starting point. Pick a 1/4 mile or so stretch of path. Head up, shoulders back and walk down the middle, don't move off course for anybody. If someone is in your way say "excuse me" they WILL move. Don't be a cunt, move for prams/elderly. Do this once a day for a while to get more confident. You'll find even after the FIRST time you do this your confidence and therefore posture will improve drastically immediately.

Step 2) Talk to everybody. Dude at the shop in line - "did you see the game last night?". Girl serving you at the shop "Has it been this busy/quiet all day?". This is just a starting point - just talk to everybody without being rude. People on the whole are nice, even if they don't like the look of you they WILL be polite.

Step 3) Start taking charge. Stop waiting for anything to happen in your life. You want to go to the movies but nobody has invited you? Call five people now inviting them to the fucking movie and have a good night. Become the catalyst in your social group. This does not mean you can never go along with other people's plans. It does mean you cannot and will not as a RED PILL MAN sit on your arse moping about ever again.

Step 4) Practice. These skills need practicing. Doing them once or twice is nothing, you do not develop dominance by walking down the street once or inviting one mate out to the movies. Keep your weapon clean, your weapon is dominance.

How to develop dominance in the bedroom:

I used to be a wreck in the bedroom - it was more embarrassing that I can put into words at my current writing proficiency.

If you suffer with Premature Ejaculation:

I used to suffer with really bad PE. My gf was sympathetic but it's still the most embarrassing fucking thing in the world when it happens, spiraling more and more every time it happens - making bedroom dominance impossible.

It's ALL in your fucking head. Seriously - stop giving a fuck too much. This is what you're doing wrong. You care too much what she thinks. Is any of this familiar:

"Is she enjoying this?", "If I change angle can I get her off quicker so she comes before me?", "OK, I'm doing this, if I do this next and then that, she might come"

STOP WITH THAT. Simple. Next time you're in bed or about to get physical take a nice deep breath and tell yourself it really doesn't matter. Go to town, really fuck her hard. You will still cum early for a while. Deal with it. Be confident, smile after you cum and then go down and make her cum. Don't say a word until she cums. This is how I and many other men have gotten over PE. The key is dealing with it confidently - you CAN make her cum without your cock and that's fine. Don't be a selfish lover, everybody should enjoy as many orgasms as humanly possible ;)

Actual dominance in the bedroom:

This is an introduction to gentle dominance in the bedroom. It is not for hookups. You need to have some level of trust with anyone you do this with, else it may come across "creepy/weird". Also complete dominance outside of the bedroom first, else it's all pointless.

Step 1) You're both on the couch. Take her hand, stand up. Smile and say "Come with me." Tilt your head towards the stairs/bedroom in a small nod - you know what I mean, I can't describe it very well with words. Lead her by the hand to the bedroom.

Step 2) You're in the bedroom, say "Close the door.". She complies. "Good girl, now strip.". You will remain fully clothed (please say you're already dressing well). Most women get very turned on being naked around a fully clothed man in private.

Step 3) Collect a blowjob. "On your knees, I want to see what that mouth can really do.". This part is important - DO NOT POKE YOUR COCK OUT OF YOUR FLY. Undo your belt and your button and unzip and spread the fabric apart. I know it takes 3 seconds more, but jesus - she's about to put your cock in her mouth.

Step 4) Don't let her go on forever with the cock sucking. "That'll do, I've had enough of your pretty mouth - stand up.". Grab her hair and gentle but firmly if that makes sense? Guide her to the bed. Give her a good fucking. Take the lead. If you want a new position - PUT HER IN IT. If she's not very compliant with moving - TELL HER TO MOVE. It really is that simple. The key is to do WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANT. Just don't go in dry in her arse.

This is not actual BDSM, just how I would incorporate dominance without all the chains/whips/restraints/electric shockers/pinwheels/ball gags etc that I do love so much.

One last tip. Always remove your socks in bed. No woman wants to be fucking a guy who has his socks on haha.

TLDR; not happening, it took me time to write that - read it.

Disclaimer: Writing is NOT my strong point, this is my first step in getting better.