Enjoy life.

ADarkerNight · 2014-05-26T02:52:10+00:00

BE MOTHERFUCKING HAPPY. Enjoy life's pleasures. Enjoy women for the imperfect mostly hairless little monkeys they are. Fall in love, have orgies, do whatever you think you might enjoy. As long as you don't neglect your long term developent or sacrifice your identity, you can do no wrong.

You are so right. The way I see it, maximizing your happiness is the end goal of long term development. The only way to know what actually makes you happy is to try whatever you think might be fun and see how it makes you feel. Feels good, put that in the long term playbook. Feels bad, move on and try a new experience.

You literally have nothing to lose outside of that discomfort and some awkwardness

theredpill101 · 2014-05-25T23:38:59+00:00

Solid post, OP.

You've done a great job of summarizing a portion of TRP: accepting responsibility for your own well-being (or agency, which has become a popular term here as of late).

Western society has done a fantastic job of breeding people who are always seeking to be victims, who are always in need of "help," and who feel that they are entitled to these services.

In our society today, a victim is generally a victim because he chooses to be. And what a pitiful place to find yourself in.

I don't mean to say that you choose to be robbed, or raped, or beaten, or taken advantage of. Those are true victims. But a person who sits inside and throws pity-parties ("woe-is-me" style) do so of their own volition, and to their own unhappiness.

An introvert can overcome that, those with social anxiety can overcome it (with and without medication), those claiming "there are no good women" can look harder, those who are "bored" can find hobbies.

But relishing your own pity will not do this for you.

First - allow yourself to be happy. Too many of us hold onto this notion that we shouldn't be happy. That we can't be happy - like it's not allowed.

Dispel this thinking. We are made to be happy. Allow trivial things to bring a smile to your face. Happiness in our privileged world is largely a choice (barring rare exceptions). Allow yourself to be happy; train yourself to be happy. In many cases, it can be just that simple.

Men must not seek to be victims. Our biology does not allow it. Testosterone drives us to be bigger, better, stronger, in control, and motivated. To play the victim card to avoid your life is to swim against the current - it's a battle you will not win. Going against your natural drives by claiming to be a victim is a sure road to unhappiness, and being unfulfilled as a man.

The sure-fire way I have found to solve this in myself is desire whatever it is that is disturbing me.

"I don't want to go out - I'm too shy."
I WANT to be shy. I WANT this to be a challenge. I WANT to have something to overcome, so I feel satisfied when I've won.

"I'm heartbroken because she left me." I WANT this pain. I WANT to know that I felt something - this is what makes me a human. I WANT to know that this meant something, so that I will be better for it once I have overcome it.

"I hate my job and my life." I NEED to hate my job. I NEED to hate my life. These emotions are driving me to be better - they are driving me forward and motivating me to become a better person. If I had a job I loved, I would become complacent. If I had a perfect life, I would lose my motivation to seek better.

Embrace your problems. They define you. They drive you. They mold you.

There was once a Reddit thread where people published quotes that motivated them.

One rugby player, /u/strengthof10interns wrote "Hate you life." If I recall correctly, he learned this from his rugby coach, or teammates. It was used when teammates didn't want to practice or train. They would tell each other "hate your life." It was by hating what they were going through that they were driven to overcome it.

You don't want to go to the gym? You're going anyway. Hate your life. You don't want to talk to that girl because she'll reject you? You're going to talk to her anyway, and get rejected. Hate your life. You don't want to attend a party because you don't know anyone? You're going anyway. Hate your life.

We are men. We must fight so that others can live easily. We must be fight because we are capable of bearing the burden.

That said, I will leave you with some quotations that touch on this topic:

"You cannot find peace by avoiding life." -Virginia Woolf

"The things that will destroy America are prosperity-at-any-price, peace-at-any-price, safety first instead of duty first, the love of soft living, and the get-rich-quick theory of life." -Theodore Roosevelt

"The brave may not live forever, but the cautious don't live at all." -Meg Cabot

"It is my good luck that, although this has happened to me, I can bear it....Such a thing could have happened to any man, but not every man could bear it without pain." -Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

"No more wandering. .... Abandon vain hopes and rescue yourself while the opportunity is still there." -Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

"Retain your independence of outside help and the peace which others can give. Your duty is the stand straight - not be held straight." -Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Overcome.

outercourse · 2014-05-26T00:19:47+00:00

I had my moment where it all clicked just a week ago and this describes it perfectly.

elokr · 2014-05-26T06:05:10+00:00

Motherfucker, let him work out his problems on his own, his decisions, his consequences, the only thing you can do is live a great life and let him see the difference.

That's the only way to do it.

johnniegreen · 2014-05-26T04:39:58+00:00

...deceptive promises.

Well put.

carrotplanter · 2014-05-26T04:42:28+00:00

Anyone looking at that wall of text and going fuck that, I ain't reading that shit need to listen to this song right here. I dare you to not be in a good mood after hearing this.

The Ponderosa Twins Plus One - Bound

IllimitableMan · 2014-05-26T15:36:42+00:00

Part of self-actualisation is personality development, we're all on a journey, mods and endorsed contributors are no exception from that, I'd hazard a guess that despite differing stages of development, not very many of us have truly actualised who they want to be yet.

gwankovera · 2014-05-26T08:21:01+00:00

One thing I see a lot of people doing is looking at happiness as the goal, so when they reach the goal they feel a brief bit of happiness before getting a new goal and then losing the happy feeling they had. I like the idea of having the happiness join me on the journey to my goal.

johnnight · 2014-05-26T00:07:26+00:00

BE MOTHERFUCKING HAPPY.

This advice sucks, because emotions are not controllable as you would like them to be. Go to a guy with clinical depression and tell him to be motherfucking happy. See how it works. Should have done it for Elliot R. I am starting to think that drugs are the answer, mkay. Xanax, weed, whatever.

Second thought: destructive emotions are the main problem in our life and in the area of sexual strategy. Approach anxiety, laziness, procrastination, result orientation, neediness, etc.

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