tl;dr An entitled western woman (EWW) gets put in her place in a more competitive Asian environment, but doesn't get what's going and blames her environment and men instead.

You've all seen recommendations here before to make your way to Asia and experience what having a higher SMV feels like. This little article lets you see what's going on from the perspective of a western woman in Shanghai.

background: Shanghai has over 20 million people and around 100,000-200,000 foreigners. This makes the expat community an echo chamber of common experiences and a microcosm of the AF/BB dynamic at play. I could go on and on about the examples of hypergamy I've seen, but for now I'd like to keep it focused on the experiences of this girl, which mirrors what young people in their 20's experince here. Basically, for better or worse, western men(especially white) have a much higher SMV in certain Asian countries like China, Thailand, Japan, Korea, etc. If you move here for exchange studies, job placement, or even teaching english(considered the lower tier), you're special. It's not always a good thing, as it does get to some scummy people's heads. For a lot of men of average caliber, who were not necessarily losers back home but were good guys back home, it's the first time in their lives they experience being the desired one and being pursued by different women. Virtually every western guy here is at least upper-middle class by chinese standards, has a western passport(ticket to freedom), is taller than average(though that's changing), and are generally perceived to be good looking. Now, without further ado, let's sprinkle some red sauce on this article that's currently being passed around a popular social network.

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9 reasons why you’ll never find the love of your life in Shanghai

Lessons Learned:

From what I experienced, all single men in Shanghai seem to "just wanna have fuhuuuun". Being here is an adventure for them. Having a girlfriend would mean they would have to stop going out and flirting with beautiful girls from all over the world. No more spontaneous hook-ups at Hollywood (which got taken over by Lola anyways - maybe for the better?) or late night visits of Manhattan. The words "relationship" or "commitment" scare them to death, no kidding.

For a western girl, it's a serious issue that suddenly all these guys who used to wine and dine her are suddenly experiencing abundance mentality. Note the condescending language: "...scare them to death." The truth is, a lot of guys come here, party hard, then marry a nice RP chinese girl. This girl isn't considering the possibility that she doesn't have much to offer. As much as commitment material. Maybe it's all her spontaneous hookups at Hollywood.

80% are suffering from yellow fever Let’s face it, the majority of men who come over to live in the ‘Hai are eventually attracted to Asian/ Chinese girls. Which is absolutely O.K. but also gives us western girls a harder time and sometimes leaves us wondering what this Chinese girl has, that attracts this beautiful beautiful man

You guys know better than anyone else that yellow fever is bullshit. Asian girls want white guys more than white guys want them. If you're not convinced of this, go read r/asianmasculinity, a subreddit where they're working on overcoming this SMV reality. This is just another man shaming tactic. Women hate competition, that's all. The tone of this article suggests that she's trying really hard to hide the fact that she thinks she's better than these chinese girls, and doesn't understand why the high SMV men are choosing chinese girls over her.

Oh and of course there are tons of LBHs (loser back home, hope y’all know what kind of guy I’m talking about), but we don’t wanna hang out with them anyways…

Not only is she better than the Chinese girls stealing her alphas, she's also better than the beta guys who are hooking up with them too. She truly can't stand to see a marketplace where she's useless beyond a pump-and-dump. Basically the guys she wouldn't have given the time of day to back home are here getting a second chance at life, and she can't stand to see them out of the place she put them in inside her mental hierarchy. However, at this point in the article, she's starting to develop something that resembles insightful introspection.

The competition is real Because Shanghai is home to so many foreign and even more beautiful Chinese women, men can easily get overwhelmed by the choices they get. The fact that almost every girl they meet can speak at least 3 languages fluently, has lived in 5 different countries and is smart and beautiful on top of that, makes it not very easy for them to settle. And don’t forget about the Russian models who are always stealing the show at fancy nightclubs…

The combination LBH comment and the insecurity about being monolingual make me guess she's american. She blames the competition like some fatalist feature of the environment rather than entertaining the idea that if this is the case, she should work to improve herself: it's such an american girl thing to do. Anyways, this is the truest part. The competition is real. Most Chinese people in Shanghai are fluent in their home dialect and Mandarin, and the ones mingling with westerners have to know decent enough English or some French to land a French guy(french are the second-largest group here). They also have graduate degrees and a cultural RP-woman disposition that makes them highly desirable as plates OR ltrs. Women here are almost never fat, and face cultural pressure to always take care of their skin/faces and pay attention to how they dress. Just because you date her doesn't mean she'll stop doing make-up or dressing up, she knows that if she does another chinese girl will steal you. Here, a plate will clean your room or wash your dishes even if you tell them not to. I digress. Some will claim that only lower-tier/poorer women go for the western guys: that's total bullshit.

You will never know if they are already in a relationship

This is one of my favorite bits. I don't condone cheating, there's no point since you'll have plenty of opportunities to dump your girl back home(which I've seen several guys do) but this line proves multiple points.

  1. Not every guy is a loser who couldn't get one back home.

  2. Guys who come here and had girlfriends back home that were whiny, entitled, and emotionally manipulative come here and realize that they no longer have to put up with any of that shit. Blink. Now your college sweetheart back home who majored in psychology, CC'd in her sorority years, and works at starbucks has been replaced by a tier-1 graduate working for a major investment bank who will do everything to make you happy.

  3. Without ever being aware of red pill, guys naturally start to either upgrade their main woman or spin plates, often both.

Tinder is ruining it

There's enough tinder insight on this forum already.

Yongkang Lu[a notorious bar street] is just not the place // Going out won’t get you anywhere

This poor girl is hitting the wall early and simply being pretty isn't cutting it for her. She doesn't understand why she's can't lock down anything more than a pump and dump at the clubs. Luckily there's an easy remedy to her situation, all she has to do is buy a plane ticket back to America/Europe and there will be no shortage of desperate guys who will validate and pamper her just for being her: a very unique and special pretty girl.

Anyways, this concludes my first post. In the past year you guys have rocked my world.