This is my first field report. It’s much harder to write one of these than I thought so please I would appreciate constructive criticism.

I’ve recently been coming into my high value. I had high value before the quarantine and I actually had more muscle mass then, but my mindset now is far superior.

Anyway, I met this girl two weekends ago. I was on a strip and I approached her, really just for some fun and to see if anything would happen.

The approach was short lived because her friends pulled up a minute after I approached.

One of her friends came over to joke if she had bothered me in any way. I went along with it and said yeah she was harassing me and then she (the friend that came to joke) started getting in my face and interrogating me. It was pretty funny honestly and I held frame throughout, holding strong eye contact and open posture. Not 30 seconds later this girl wraps her arm around mine and says “you’re coming with me”. I didn’t have anything planned and came out just to approach and have some fun so I went with it.

This girl is probably and hb5 to me, but it’s pussy served on a plate so I’ll take it.

She then invites me to her brothers house for a small get together and I say yeah. The girl that I approached is also going.

She’s with 3 friends (including the girl I approached) so on our way there I make conversation and build some comfort with all of them.

When we get to her brothers house her brother is initially confrontational. I hold frame and explain to him what happen and he calms down a bit and offer me a beer. He then says I can have anything in his house (cool).

I make my way around the house, introduce myself to everyone and have about a 5 minute conversation with each of them.

One of the guys (the ‘best friend’ of the girl I approached) asks me what I go. I say I go to ‘x school’. It’s a prestigious school and now literally everyone in the party is praising me and asking me questions. Instant status. It was cool. They were saying things like “this guy is the top 1%” and in my head I’m thinking “hmm, I never thought of it that way”.

Anyway, now I notice the girl I approached is looking at me wide eyed so I engage her and she starts asking me a bunch of questions.

We get interrupted so I go back to talking to one of the guys that I met who was pretty chill.

Her best friend comes over and asks me who I’m into, since he knows that the other girl was also into me. I tell him it’s his friend and he goes to talk to her. He comes back and tells me she likes me and is just fronting. From there i just chill out.

I see the girl I approached, call her M, standing alone, so I say “our conversation earlier got interrupted”.

We talk a bit and she’s acting very feminine. Calling me a meanie, playfully kicking me, getting nervous when I hold eye contact.

I let things play out naturally then she says she’s ready to go.

It takes our group about 30 minutes to get ready to leave so when she brings it up I decide to go downstairs with her (isolate).

On the way down she’s literally skipping and singing and laughing her way down. I have never seen a girl this feminine/happy as a result of a guy. It was crazy.

Now I’m downstairs and I start holding her so I can kiss her and she backs away saying I’m making her nervous. So I stand there and she comes when she’s ready.

Kiss her well, then her best friend comes down and tells her to get me home. I’m 20 and these guys are 25-26 so they are a bit paranoid about my age (understandable).

She orders me an Uber and I go home.

This past weekend I’m out on the same strip and I see M and her best friend walking buy. I’m with a friend so we all decide to get some drinks (M decides to pay for me since I don’t have money for stuff like that).

Things go well, I escalate (to which she says I’m making her nervous). We Uber back to her place and make out again. She tells me I’m a really good kisser and whenever I pull back she pulls me back inz I say let’s go upstairs, but she says her father is home and she doesn’t want to. I don’t really care as I had no expectations and she orders me an Uber home.

This is where I’m at now. The reason I made this field report is because of the realization I had.

Lesson:

Initially I thought this girl was special because of how much she liked me. Then I realized it doesn’t take skill or effort to like an attractive guy. I am the one who put in the work and I am the prize.

There are other girls out there who will like me this much because I have put in the work, and she is not special because of this. I don’t owe her anything because she finds me highly attractive.

She has to work to win my time and attention. I didn’t escalate hard enough those first two times. We’re meeting at a party this Saturday and I plan to escalate hard. If she rejects me at any point, that’s her loss, I will just find another girl.

I guess my point is I almost got caught up in her frame by thinking I owed this girl something because of her attraction to me. I don’t. She doesn’t deserve anything and anything she gets is out of my graciousness. I am the prize.

The thing that made me realize this is that she invited me to her birthday party and said that her friends would be there and are hot. She said I could come if I promise not to hit on her friends. I hesitated and gave a half answer (which I’m honestly pretty proud of since I hadn’t really thought about it). But now, I realize, if this girl is so attracted to me, there’s reason to believe her friends might be. If they’re hot then I will seduce them. I don’t owe this chick some fidelity or anything just because she’s attracted to me. That’s her problem. Not mine.

I’m not sure how insightful this is but I walk around with more confidence that I am the prize after this.

I easily could’ve fallen into the trap that I owe this girl some sort of commitment because she is so attracted to me. I’m grateful that this place gave me the foundation to realize that I don’t owe her shit. I do what I want, and if she doesn’t like it I’m gone.

If I had not worked on myself she wouldn’t have given me the time of day (understandably so). But now, I have the power.

I see how she acts towards her friends (that she’s not attracted to). Especially when I’m around. She treats them with subtle disrespect.

That being said I do realize she has invested in me somewhat (she paid for my ubers and my drinks) which I am grateful for and will reward. All on my terms though.

I’ve been approaching with this mindset and now when I get rejected Im starting to think (consciously), “her loss”.