People here say that you can't force RP philosophy it has to naturally find it's way into your life. That's true for me, I came across this sub, after implementing Nofap. Just like any naive recruit, I thought that I could read the sidebar, internalize the rhetoric into my subconscious, then easily go out on the field and wreck these bitches.
If that were the case I wouldn't be sitting here alone writing this. I literally just got off the field 2 hours ago with a HB8 tinder match first date.
Going into it I wanted to maintain frame, focus on not conforming, supplicating, or agreeing with her opposing viewpoints. Also wanted establish authority by being decisive. So I read a few posts beforehand, reread the sidebar and hit the field!
As soon as we met, I was hit with the first test. "I'm hungry, where do we eat?", I knew this was an opportunity to take command, after a little back and forth I made the move and chose the place. We spent an hr talking and eating, (she did 80% of the talking).
This is where I saw opportunity to be on the opposing side of view. Ex - She's in insurance told me how she hates reckless drivers, I jokingly told her about my aggressive driving habits. Also stupid shit like our favorite college football teams are rivals, I held my positions and even propped them up.
Looking back that may have been an autistic move. Because she was super passionate about the things I had an opposite view on, also my frame was weakened by the time we did other shit like those dumb fucking scam fair games (Shoot the deflated ball in the rigged basketball hoop to win a bullshit prize). That especially threw me off frame because I knew it was another test. She made a huge deal about winning the stuffed animal, but I missed every fucking shot. I laughed and said this is the most cliche first date ever. Don't think she liked my lack of will to win the prize.
Anyway the biggest hit to my frame was the cost of it all. I had a budget in my head, and depending on how attractive she was I planned to exceed my budget by 20% max. After it was all over the entire date cost me 200% over the budgeted amount. I tried to act unfazed but I think she read right through it. I was clearly mad at myself for overspending.
I tried to recover with a strong close, we were one-on-one I told her I wanted to see more of her. By that time it was too late, she gave me some excuse about how she wants to travel more. I knew my fate was sealed.
Analysis
My opposing view strategy was too heavy handed. I was more focused on our differences than building on what we had in common. Going over budget fucked my frame dramatically, the money wasn't the problem it was the fact that I knew I was being beta by paying for everything. Lack of mental stamina was an issue, she was super talkative. I processed everything she said, as if she was saying important shit. HUGE mistake. 1hr into the 2hr date, I was drained.
TLTR- Don't think you're Alpha bc you read TRP for a few months. Until you prove it on the field, your just lying to yourself. I have a long way to go, but after this reality check I'm ready to get more reps.
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