Sup guys, thought I'd share an experience I had this past Friday. My buddies and I made plans to go to a dance music show earlier in the week. Friday rolls around, we pre-game and head to the venue at about 11:00 PM. I'm still relatively a noob with approaches, but I'm starting to get better. I actually love to dance and generally when I go to a dance show I go simply for the music. Whatever interactions I have are a plus on top of the guaranteed good time I'm going to have.

That's something I think a lot of guys make the mistake of doing. They go to club and shows only to game chicks, when in reality you should be going because you either A. Like to dance or B. Like dance music. If you don't like either of these, show/clubs are not for you.

One of my closest buddy's hooked me up with his date's good friend. He told me well in advanced about this particular girl and he also informed me the night before that she was into me after seeing some pictures (awesome friend to have I know).

So I know right off the bat that I can escalate immediately with this girl without any doubt. We eventually meet up at the venue and I immediately start kinoing/playful banter. Couple minutes later we're dancing and feeling eachother up; this leads to making out and such.

After some more banter and rapport, I started to get a little more daring and went straight for a cheeky butt squeeze (lol). Immediately she jumps off me and looks back at me mouth agape. She looks at my friend and her friend who were dancing right next to us and sort of puts on this unsure looking face and starts backing away from me.

Now, at this moment in my head for a split second I had thought I went too far and I almost comfortably resorted to what former "beta" me would have done; apologized for making her uncomfortable.

Instead, I think to myself "you're the shit, nothing you do matters, it's already confirmed she's into you". "You're the shit", this is something I've learned to internalize any time I go out, and it's helped me maintain frame in several situations.

With a cheeky grin on my face I immediately grab her by the hand and pull her back into me saying, "where do you think you're going!?". She immediately starts laughing and we continue from where we left off.

I'm certain that if I didn't maintain frame and do what I did, I would have ruined my chances with this girl. After the show, we went back to one of my friend's apartment and stayed up all night hooking up, (couldn't f-close because we were sharing a room with other people). We're going on another double date soon and I plan on escalating even further. Possibly turning this into a LTR because she seems very worthy. (Edit 2: Worthy - deserving effort, attention, or respect. Thanks for making me realize this guys. My own hamster was starting to get the best of me.)

I just want to say I'm super grateful for everything this sub has done for me so far. It's made me a happier man in general and in social situations. All in all, the lesson to take from this is..when in doubt..MAINTAIN FRAME!

Edit: Going off of love2fap and cat-tastrophic, that's also one thing I'm unsure about. A week ago I was against any LTR at all, but after meeting this girl I would consider an LTR with her. She's very submissive, we have a lot in common and she laughed at literally everything I had to say. She was getting so flustered with my game at the end of the night that she couldn't even breath lmao. Maybe someone can shed some light on how I should shape my mentality to play this right? Or give me some game to internalize to prevent any possible damaging future oneitis with this girl. Perhaps there's some RP theory I have not read about relationships that someone could direct me towards.

Edit 2: Wow, thanks guys. I was definitely starting to subconsciously put this girl on a pedestal. It feels like a minituare weight has been lifted off of me. I'm glad I posted this. I definitely have struggled with oneitis in the past and I know I just have to keep my shit together and keep these bitches in my backpocket rather than in my main field of view. Thanks again.

Edit 3: You know what, I didn't really want to bring it up guys, but it is now worth mentioning we were both under the influence of MDMA and that may have a bit to do with the feelings I have for her.

We were still rolling; laying down together for 3 hours when we got back from the show, just flirting and fucking around making out and feeling eachother up a bit. But I felt such a deep connection with her. Some of it probably because of the MDMA, but I know for sure some of it because of the amazing conversations we were having.

I'm starting to think that MDMA mixed with an experience with a girl like this is sort of a recipe for disaster and I think I just needed to realize that. At one point we were just gazing into eachother's eyes between kisses, which I think was a BIG mistake on my part, but I don't really regret it for some reason. We definitely have a fuckload in common and great chemistry with eachother.

I just gotta take it slow regardless, because after all, she's just a girl and anything can happen. I'm not gonna let this fantasy-esk experience break my frame.

Edit 4: I love you guys.