[FR] Can dread game work too well?

red-triad · 2016-02-23T07:23:53+00:00

Just goes to show how the hamster can justify any action out there and put the blame on the guy.

stickfiguresk · 2016-02-23T06:14:03+00:00

This sounds more petty than usual; smells fishy. She's sick in the head. How old is she?

redpillyoda · 2016-02-23T07:31:48+00:00

I would argue that her past boyfriends cheating on her has damaged her greatly in both her ego and her self-esteem.

She's constantly afraid he's going to cheat on her like her past partners, and is seeking out other men as her safety net to validate her ego.

It's not that the dread game is "too much". I think she has trust issues, and the "alpha" guy she's with just picked a bad egg and didn't manage to find that out early enough.

This has less to do with the alpha she is, and has more to do with her being emotionally broken.

pcadrian · 2016-02-23T21:16:32+00:00

she would kiss other dudes in their home while he was in the other room

Wow, she sure sounds like a peach, doesn't she? Healthy women don't do this. Nothing about this woman makes it sound like she's mentally sound. A woman with a healthy self-esteem will not pull this crap, instead she will make sure her man is happy, and recognize that it takes work to keep such a man around.

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-02-23T14:58:43+00:00

Sounds like the Alpha is really too many SMV points above her and she knows it.

This is a case where the Comfort Test (if passed) would calm the woman down.

Comfort Tests are when women feel they are too far below her man and afraid they will get dumped, so the man will on occasion reward her with loving comfort.

Some Alpha's will actually encourage and laugh at women who get this insecure. So you never know, the Alpha guy might have Dark Luciferian tendencies and enjoy her suffering.

It is a good question though:

"Is it wise to inflict heavy suffering to maximize power?"

...or does that always fail in the long term?

KhazarKhaganate · 2016-02-23T07:35:36+00:00

Ok two possible scenarios:

(1) Dread game has worked so well, that she feels completely insecure and feels like she could be dumped or cheated on at any moment and she's now adapting due to her past horrible experiences, by "creating backup plans".

(2) She was always a slut, and her sluttyness results in men cheating on her or dumping her.

(potential bonus scenario: she paints all her ex's as cheaters to OP, while she was the one cheating or that she imagined the whole thing in order to increase her own self-esteem in a delusional manner).

But yes, you can definitely dread too much. If you dread too much, she will leave you or cheat on you or start complaining to friends and they'll give her crazy advice like "leave him, u deserve better hun" etc.

That's exactly why........ redpill recommends dreading indirectly and not to an extreme.

Women do have a lot of choices in current society, so you know... you know... exactly what kind of men your woman can pull if she wanted. So you know exactly how much to calibrate your dreading.

The woman in OP's post tho seems a little crazy, the risk of getting caught kissing another man in your home, is greater than the risk of getting cheated on. The more typical story is: He dreaded so hard, that she found a backup plan and decided to leave him first instead of her waiting and anticipating getting dumped later.

Sometimes if you dread too hard, it's not unlikely for a woman to assume you are cheating on her. Before she even confirms it. She might even take pre-emptive action.

I'll tell you hwat... I applied 0 dread game. ZERO Dread game, and I was still accused of having a girl in bed next to me. But I do think that like in OP's story, this girl may have been a bit crazy. Another logical explanation could be, that I was acting much more cold, angry, and non-accommodating, because I had already written her off as a "Dumped", so this could have unintentionally felt like a change in attitude and assumption of cheating-alarm-bells for the girl. So sometimes, it could just be a change in attitude or behavior that you create that results in such erratic behavior from women.

matacks970 · 2016-02-23T11:00:28+00:00

what kind of an "alpha whale" has people in his home who are going to randomly makeout with his girlfriend while he's in "the other room". Its definitely fishy. Maybe he set it all up. It could be to test her trustworthiness or give her a false sense of security so she doesn't run off..

Either that or this guy is tool that allows random girlfriend kissers to stroll into his house.

mugatucrazypills · 2016-02-23T15:13:47+00:00

I guess if your exes kill themselves like Pablo Picasos', you might be playing the Dread Game a little too hard.

Otherwise ... No.

Eugenics2015 · 2016-02-23T12:49:20+00:00

Why is no one using proper formatting anymore?

Eugenics2015 · 2016-02-23T12:52:51+00:00

why are people getting in marriages/LTR in 2016? there is just too much emotional baggage on both parties for it to be worthwhile.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-02-23T14:01:21+00:00

Now the fact that he's rich, tall and handsome doesn't guarantee alpha. From my experience a fucked up woman can't handle dread. They feel out of control and it hurts their self worth, thus they cheat and deceive.

RedPillScare · 2016-02-23T14:14:57+00:00

Dread is like a spice: a little is good, and too much ruins the dish.

It is a powerful tool, and needs to be applied subtly, and with a holistic understanding of how the woman will react to different degrees.

That said, I can't say whether this woman was over-dreaded based on what you wrote. She doesn't sound like a good option for you, though.

NakedAndBehindYou · 2016-02-23T15:15:50+00:00

So to combat feeling powerless, she would kiss other dudes in their home while he was in the other room.

This has nothing to do with his dread game and everything to do with her being a cheating whore.

MattyAnon · 2016-02-23T19:16:08+00:00

Here's another way to look at it:

She's gonna cheat sooner or later whatever you do. She's had other men, she'll have other men in the future. Treat her accordingly.

TL;DR: Dread Game stops you being a bitch, it doesn't stop her being one.

OneTouchHowMuch · 2016-02-26T18:55:43+00:00

Why are you wasting your time hearing her complain about her failed relationships?

I hope you realize she is probably lying to you about most of this just to save face and keep up her image of a perfect woman to you, her beta male best friend.

You're being a time-ho.

battmaker · 2016-02-23T06:09:00+00:00

I think this leans more towards always seeking something better. So she has the pinnacle of manliness, but it isn't enough! Time to stir things up a bit.

DforDeadpool · 2016-02-23T07:31:00+00:00

The alpha dude needs a letter from a friend, saying she's crazy as nuts and he should bail quickly.

Title	[FR] Can dread game work too well?
Author	gopher_glitz
Upvotes	25
Comments	24
Date	February 23, 2016 5:41 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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