[FR] Coffee date. Feedback appreciated.

racethesunset · 2017-12-06T01:50:06+00:00

You don’t know if she is LTR material yet. Psychologically you need to demote her to “potential plate material” until she proves that she is worthy for plate status. It will help keep your game crisp and create tension for her.

Next sorority or whatever party, bring the big boy pants and make a move if she is receptive. Don’t drink too much. Keep it fun, hold your frame, and be confident.

Down the road, if she proves loyal, happy, consistent, fucks when and how you please, she can sign up for an LTR evaluation.

MostSolidFrame · 2017-12-06T04:20:38+00:00

You fucked up by not kissing her. Hopefully she likes you enough to give you another chance

Robocompany · 2017-12-06T03:42:43+00:00

This girl was all over you from the start. You should have gone in for a kiss in the car itself. Probably try to escalate it while in the car and who knows what you could have got. Next time, meet her near her place or yours and make sure you get laid.

Alejandroses · 2017-12-06T15:49:35+00:00

Yeeeeahhh you def fucked up by not kissing her in the car man! She def wants to smash I mean come on, she's the one that really wants to see you!

Its okay though, sometimes not doing anything is good because it leaves them craving it. Especially this chick who seems to be really into you. Dont mess up this weekend bro! Go in for the kiss as soon as you see the opening. The sooner you do it the more time to have to warm up da bad pusi ;)

viyacondios · 2017-12-11T02:36:49+00:00

In my past, with new women I'd be too nervous, perhaps not initiate enough physical stuff in the first few dates. Typical spergy over-active amygdala causing me to freeze up when I wanted to act. Here is my guide to overcoming that hangup, if you happen to have it.

BTW coffee dates are just awkward! Ask a woman out for a drink (drink not drinks) for a first date, and extend the date if you like her. Walking together from one bar to another on a Friday night is a million times more conducive a setting to intimacy.

In my experience, early physical contact isn't necessary to end up naked with a woman. (Maybe it is for women who need to be gamed, but I never got to that stage of skill.) This is because it's a case where she is clearly into you. As an aside, some women like a guy but have trouble showing it early on, but if she keeps saying yes to dates, that's a strong sign to continue with her if you like her.

Women will give you at least 3 to 4 dates without receiving much touch if they like you. Don't worry about hitting target numbers and types of physical contact, because that worry will make you miserable. Do what you can. Be engaged when you talk with her. Stand close to her at a stopwalk; allow the two of you to slightly jostle your arms as you walk.

Somewhere within the first 4 dates she'll come up with an excuse to invite you over (play with my cat, I got that once on a first date, foreshadowing huehue) or you invite her over to cook her dinner for a third or fourth date. You both understand what that means when that invitation is extended and accepted.

When alone together on a couch, not many women will initiate. But they really could be wanting you to; some obvious about it, and many unable to show it because they're nervous. You're going to have to brute force override your brain; don't give yourself time to second guess, just force yourself to act. In no particular rush at all: Scooch closer to her. Play with her hair. Start kissing her. At every step gauge if she is happy with the physical escalation and if she isn't you back off. As you're kissing touch her upper body, her breasts. Continue to escalate, touch her everywhere, invite her to the bedroom. You'll be amazed at how quickly things can go from 0 to 100 with a woman.

Key takeaway: Don't worry if there hasn't been a lot of touch. Practice forcing yourself to act before your neurotic brain freezes you in place. Just do it! It gets easier with practice.

Trpogre · 2017-12-18T09:57:08+00:00

Don't talk about your job.

Read/listen Blackdragon's "First Date". There is an entire hour of:

10-15 minutes to make her comfortable talking about her family, her girlfriends, etc.
switch to: "Have you been dating a lot, or just a little bit lately?" Now the fun starts....
let her talk about her experiences. Do not dwell. Do not share about yourself. If she presses about your past? Give a breezy simple sentence describing yourself and you ex if you must.
"When was the last time you really liked guy? Not just casually seeing... but someone you really liked"
"Why did you end the relationship with him? (Note: women end relationships 80% of the time... it is safe to assume she did. See how surprised she is when she starts to see you as a mind reader)

And so on....

Women Looove to talk about their relationships and the qualities they like in men.

This will take you to the 1 to 1.5 hour mark. End the date.

Please listen to Blackdragon's "How to have a first date" you will be blown away at how smooth your dates will become

umadlolx3 · 2017-12-06T16:06:28+00:00

you did well, you will keep her interested, to test whether she liked you, just wait for her to initiate few convos, and if she is still as responsive as before and initiates convos before, then she is into you..

so if you like her I can suggest kissing her @ next date

GunnarX · 2017-12-08T17:17:50+00:00

Doesn’t sound too bad. Next time, don’t make plans to hang out again during the current date. She has to have some degree of uncertainty whether you want to see her again or not.

GuestsGetGreens · 2017-12-10T03:13:51+00:00

Seems like she’s being the aggressor by pursuing you and not the other way around. Be weary of women who pursue you. They might be in the alpha role and believe you are beta. Sounds you picked up on this and that’s why you eased back. Next time you hang out with her, notice if she’s the one leading and if you’re in the backseat. I personally don’t like these types of women.

insulted_whreck · 2017-12-23T11:30:50+00:00

I think you did mostly good, its not bad to have a convo about a "normal" things, cause it doesn't matter the subject, but only thing that matters is that you are into a subject and you are talking about it with flaming passion, literally you could be talking about anime you are currently watching or some dog eyedrops and if you are passionate about that subject she will get sucked into your frame.

Now about that "not KINO", you shouldn't force the physicality with a girl, it must come naturally. If you have a problem with naturally touching girls start doing noFAP, trust me it will get you so horny, that you will seek physicality and you won't even know about it and whats the best on it, it will be seen as completely natural.

So i wish you best of luck with this girl and dont put so much pressure on yourself.

Bediv3re · 2017-12-08T09:21:58+00:00

Leykis 101, don't take a chick out for coffee.

FaderOne · 2017-12-07T03:39:41+00:00

The dog and car moment!

When walking back to the car, just say “oh look out for that random nonsense bullshit and smack her as hard as you can on her ass when she turns.

Quick, easy kino breaker. Have a amused smile on your face when she looks back and burst out laughing.

Try again fam, a few of these and you’ll be killing it.

Title	[FR] Coffee date. Feedback appreciated.
Author	whutyomamado
Upvotes	4
Comments	24
Date	December 6, 2017 1:34 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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