Discovered TRP around 8 months ago, officer in the Air Force, 20y old.

TRP has worked great for me in terms of frame and set of mind, especially in such an hostile environnement as the military. Being an officer is no easy task and I feel like TRP works great with my subordinates. They want a strong and firm leader who doesn't take shit and knows what he's doing. TRP is just that. However, I never had the opportunity to really try TRP on women.

Passed some shit tests here and there, kept frame, didn't give validation, abundance mentality etc etc and managed to k-close pretty easily thanks to TRP at a couple of parties.

But I wanted to put myself to the test, put myself in a situation that's new to me. Going on a date with a unknown woman in a bar and gaming her from there, not just gaming some girl I met at a party ( which is fairly easier and a lot less awkward in my opinion )

So I download tinder and instantly matched quite a few chicks ( they love a man in an uniform ) I notice this one HB6 that lives a couple of miles from my Air Base and decide to meet her first ( because logistics ) I just message her with a time and a place, trying to set some form of dominance ( we go where I want, when I want. Else, I'll found someone else to come with me )

My plan here was not necessarily to F-close, I have hotter matches on tinder that I aim to fuck. I wanted to at least escalate properly, hold a conversation without awkward silences and eventually pass whatever shit test she would throw at me to finally kiss her.

Pretty good goals for a first date in a bar right ? kissing her should be easy, done it plenty of times at parties, right ? WRONG

I messed up because I couldn't think straight with this girl in front of me. Why did I feel stressed out ? You can't just end the conversation and go talk to someone else at the party. Here, you're in a bar. You're commited to this date and you're face to face with this chick.

Experience really is key when going on these dates, you really can't just go and expect it will be easy because you've read the sidebar and kissed a couple of cute girls when you were drunk at a party...

I was already at the bar waiting for her. She arrived on time, I told to come with me so we could grab a beer and we sat back down.

There was no kino. We were sitting at a table facing each other and we just talked. She basically told me about her life and I told her about mine... No real firting what so ever, no shit test, no teasing, NOTHING

We just got to know each other. The conversation was great though, we kept talking on and on with lots of laughs and smiles for 2 hours straight. She was clearly interested and showed IOIs

We eventually just left and she dropped me of back to my Air Base. In the car, she told me it was her first time going out on a date with a stranger like this. I told her it was also my first time because i couldn't leave Base for the past two months. I was starting to get rusty from not talking to any girl for so long ( trying to set abundance mentality here... )

She then proceeded to text me saying we never discussed what we were looking for on Tinder. I told her I wanted to have fun, wasn't looking for anything serious. She said she wanted to have fun as well ( she lives at her parents and i'm at the air base, not going to pay for an hotel just to fuck some chick )

In conclusion,

  • teasing and flirting doesn't just come up. You have to initiate it in a conversation, otherwise she won't do it.

  • I really have to work on my kino. I feel like escalating with her here would have come off as awkward and me trying to hard for it ? There never really was an occasion for me to kino with her ( the fact that we were sitting in opposite ends of a table doesn't help as well) I suppose i'm the one wo also has to set the mood and context for there to be proper escalation without seeming awkward.

  • Experience is key. Even though I achieved one of my goals ( kept the conversation going with good body language ) There was no flirting at all, it was like two friends catching up on each other after years of being apart. I'm sure it'll go better the more dates I go on !

  • It's really easy to lose focus when you're still new to the dating game, I was trying to think TRP while talking to her but was just nervous and was too " self-conscious " of what I was saying, my body language etc

Internalizing this knowlege and practicing it is another key element, just keep going on dates and you won't even think about it after a while ! It will just come off as natural !

Thank you for reading, this was my first FR ! Any advices, or criticism is welcome !