I'm new to TRP and I'd be lying if I said I'd left all beta tendencies behind. For some background I'm at uni/college and starting to work on myself (although I should lift more). Even this year I've fallen into classic beta traps and struggled to fix my inner game.

Over the weekend I saw a glimpse of the potential of TRP.

Last term I met a girl, who I'll be referring to as R, and went on a couple of dates with her. I got oneitis and she began to lose interest. Against my better judgement, during a night out I confronted her about the situation, as she'd been very stand-offish. It was childish to confront her, a soft next would have fixed the situation. I believe that the main issue was that when we had met I was having fun with her, teasing, and maintaining frame. However once we went on dates I got oneitis, lost my frame and she got bored.

From there I decided to stop talking to R and explore other options and try to test out TRP. After some success with other girls, 2 months after the confrontation I texted R on a whim and we agreed to meet on Sunday. As my university exams had finished, it was a big weekend of partying with friends, and I bumped into R on Friday night.

Only a few minutes after talking to her, she was kissing and grinding on another guy. Good for him, he had game. I saw her again in the smoking area, and decided to call her over. I asked if she was excited about Sunday (she was), and then told her she could sack it and cancelled the date. She was angry and left pretty quickly. I felt I maintained frame and led with actions over emotions, as before I would have gone ahead with the date anyway.

The next day R texted me apologising for being rude. I was surprised to be honest. At this point I felt as though I had 'won', and should have accepted the apology and nexted her. However, as it was the end of the year and I had no plans, I suggested we meet anyway. She didn't reply and by Sunday she responded saying she was busy. Shock.

Overall I can see that I made some pretty poor errors and really didn't maintain frame, however, the one instance where I did hold frame, I had the power. Offering to see her again, I was effectively going against my word, which forfeited this.

My goals are to adopt more of an abundance mentality, calling out BS when I see it, and creating/maintaining a strong frame. In fact reading this back and seeing a wall of text about one girl who I have not even slept with is frankly embarrassing.

TL;DR: started talking to my oneitis again, but called out her BS and maintained frame. Lost it when I tried to see her anyway.