In covering frame today, we will be incorporating the insights of five different sources: GayLubeOil, Rollo Tomassi, RSD Julien, MikeHaines (Author of How To Get Laid Like A Warlord) and Illimitable Men.

First of all, why am i writing this guide? It is to help new members develop a stepwise approach to becoming a man with power. We always talk about what you should do, but rarely talk about how to do it. First we will start with broad strokes (inner game (such as frame) and then outer game (such as body language and eye contact)), and then subsequently we will build on with smaller strokes (such as abundance mentality, kino, value giving mindset, ect).

Broad strokes: Inner game: Frame:

Why is it important?

According to How to Get Laid Like A Warlord:

"Women are attracted to you because you have a stronger frame than they do. That’s all. There’s nothing else to it. Attraction is purely a function of the fact that:

  1. you’re a man

  2. you have a stronger frame than the girl"

What is frame?

Frame is the lens through which your interaction is set. Rollo Tomassi defines it as "In psych terms, frame is an often subconscious, mutually acknowledged personal narrative under which auspices people will be influenced.... Most Game incongruencies develop around a guy’s inability to establish frame and opting in to a woman’s frame. What’s ironic is that on a base level, we understand frame imbalances instinctually. If you feel like you’re being led on, or being made to wait for sex, you’re operating in her frame. Are you in the ‘friend-zone’ or did you accept an LJBF rejection? You’re in her frame... Ideally, you want a woman to enter your reality. Her genuine (unnegotiated) desire for you hinges upon you covertly establishing this narrative for her. "

Who's world perspective are you adopting? Yours, or hers?

What frame do I want to adopt?

Whatever frame you adopt, you want it to be authentic to you, however, there are a few guiding principals.

RSD Julien says that you should:

  • Offer Value

    • Imagine how you would act if you had to go up to somebody and ask them for $100. You would feel like you're trying to take something from them. Now imagine how you would act if you had to go up to somebody and give them $100. Totally different. You walk up with more confidence, a bigger smile. You start the conversation with power, because you know that they are going to benefit and react positively to you. Now. Let's apply this to TRP.
    • When you're approaching someone, don't ask "what can I take". Don't focus on getting validation, affirmation, or good feelings from them. Instead focus only on what you can offer. More on this in the embodiment section.
    • RSD Julien: "Every time you experience [anxiety], you're attached to a certain outcome. Every time you feel tense you are focused on taking something. So when you don't feel awesome, ask yourself: what am I trying to take."

  • Be Real

    • More on this in the embodiment section.

How do I embody the frame of "Offer value"?

Going back to RSD Julien, he states: "[People say] don't be the entertainer. I say do be the entertainer, but for yourself."

He says to this by learning to push three of your inner buttons, those buttons being:

  1. Fun/Positivity
  2. Carefree
  3. Passionate/Engaged/Excited

By focusing on being fun, carefree, and passionate, you are first and foremost focusing on feeling within yourself. Am I being positive? Am I having fun? Am I being carefree? Am I being passionate?

Secondly, you can use anything and flip it. If you run out of things to say, RSD Julien suggests "Hey, I ran out of things to say. I should have watched more pick up videos!" (with a smirk). This is something a carefree, fun person would do.

RSD Julien describes this mindset in one final way. "Learn to emotionally masturbate yourself." Imagine you are walking around the club emotionally jacking yourself off. Would it be great if a woman joined in? Yeah! But do you still feel fucking great if they don't? Absolutely.

How do I embody the frame of "Be real"?

RSD Julien "Being a hot girl is like being a millionaire, everybody wants something for you." If you give her some genuinity, it's like a breath of fresh air, and she will "fuck you to thank you."

Some easy exercises to help with this include: "Imagine whatever you want from this girl, you've already got it. Then you act real... Pretend like there is already a contract that you're going to have sex with this girl."

If you're tired. Say you're tired. If you're attracted to her, act attracted to her. Be man to woman. Lead out of conversations you aren't interested in. Be real about what you want, and what you want to talk about.

How do I resist attempts to break my frame?

Attempts to break your frame are typically considered "shit tests". I could go on and on about them, but honestly, they're covered extremely well here: The Illimitable Man.

To pull out the relevant portion of the above link to our discussion here, there are a few ways in which you can counter a shit test. Listed out from the Illimitable Man, these are:

  1. agree and amplify
  2. disagree and amplify
  3. pressure flip
  4. agree and pressure flip
  5. disagree and pressure flip
  6. ignore
  7. misdirect
  8. ridicule reframe

I won't define and explain when to use each of these, but as a beginner trying to incorporate fun, carefree, and passionate, I find it best to use agree and amplify, disagree and amplify, and ignore.

Closing thoughts:

/u/GayLubeOil once told me that women are boring. If you really want to get into the mindset of offering value, you need to understand and internalize this fact: Most women lead boring lives. They work, they go to the gym, they go home, they watch netflix. Women are bored and need your creativity for enjoyment. Bring your creativity in for your own enjoyment, and suddenly they're stepping into your world.

Further Reading:

The above was just an attempt to draw relevant information from multiple sources and present it in a concise, apply-able format. Reading the source material will be infinitely more beneficial.

How To Get Laid Like A Warlord

The Iron Rule of Rollo Tomassi - #1

The Illimitable Man - Shit Test Encyclopedia

tenGame by RSD Julien (This link is just an ad)

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