Gave myself panic attacks, depression and anxiety over a girl

RedPillAccount69 · 2016-08-21T16:44:19+00:00

You have oneitis and no abundance mentality, and you attached your self-esteem and identity to her.

Start fresh: Read the side bar.

NeoreactionSafe · 2016-08-22T00:22:01+00:00

Funny thing is I only met her once in 3 months of talking.

You got off easy.

I dated a girl who I fell foolishly in love with. After a year of being together (great sex by the way) she systematically took over my group of friends and turned them against me then dumped me and hooked up with a friend of mine who I had known for ten years prior.

This made me an absolute wreak for six months before I met another girl who I dated for three years.

The funny ending is that this girl ended up Branch Swinging™ on my "old friend" and hooked up with his co-worker who she actually married.

But he didn't really care... unlike me he saw that drama coming.

This was all 30 years ago.

Your situation on a scale of 1 to 100 is maybe a 3.

Seriously... you met her once and your world is rocked?

Stiffen up there young man... you can beat this.

[deleted] · 2016-08-23T03:31:52+00:00

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nicetimeisback · 2016-08-21T17:53:22+00:00

From my experience (sadly), non physical relationships are very detrimental for men, you give away your precious time and invest yourself on somebody that is just using you (in many cases, the girl do have a parallel physical sexual relationship with another or more men).

In the meantime you keep investing yourself and having no real return (sex! Goddammit), your brain start to get really fucked up as there is an imbalance between what your body want and what you can get (only mental satisfaction, that anyway is only half cake).

My advice is just hard next (in case you haven't done yet), go outside and start a physical relationship with a "real" girl asap.

Tldr:

mental relationship =bluepill=mental problems.

Physical relationship =redpill =freedom

subarufan0 · 2016-08-21T19:02:47+00:00

Thanks so much guys this really means alot to me. I have started connecting with old friends (I have been friendless for years as I thought I didnt need them), boy was I wrong.

I don't consciously think about her but my brain subconsciously does. Its hard to describe but its like your stuck in anxiety 24/7 and your brain keeps feeding you these intrusive thoughts.

Keeping in touch with friends and people is really helpful but I just cant seem to get ahold of this anxiety. I'm also doing meditation, relaxation, exercise and reading a few books about this issue.

kilo202 · 2016-08-21T21:23:01+00:00

Don't show weakness to a woman, reserve that to mother or your friends.
There are 3.5 billion women on earth, every woman is replaceable. If you're still a virgin get a hooker and fuck her. You'll then know the value of pussy.

antonioxvx · 2016-08-22T02:03:21+00:00

Hey bro. I have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) since I was 12 (I'm 25) and I tend to suffer from pannic attacks when in heavy distress. 4 months ago I was played by this girl and my GAD maximised my onetis, I lost my job a week after and my graduation project was rejected in the university. I started binge drinking for weeks (8 to 14 beers a day). One day I decided I needed to see a doctor so I ended up seeing a shrink once a week and at some point I was on xanax and anti epileptics. I did 4 things in order to get better and then recover:

1.- Deactivated my facebook (so I would not see her).

2.- Went to a gym 5 to 6 days a week and lifted like my life depended on it

3.- Deleted her from any other social media I used: whatssap and Instagram.

4.- Talk to my friends, hang out whit them.

3.- Work on my hobbies (I started climbing and now I really like it, I always wanted to learn film photography and now I only do 35mm photography)

4.- Got a part time job so I can complete my degree and of course pay the bills.

I came here trying to learn how to make my ex run back to me and now I have a different mentallity, I'm improving myself a lot and I dont see women as the center of the universe anymore.

Ali_s1987 · 2016-08-21T19:59:41+00:00

Panic attacks......no

Depression.........yes

Anxiety..........yea

And fuck the therapists. I drank for almost a month. Then went out and banged every girl I could find. Then started working out and hanging out with old friends. It took me 6 months to get over her. A year later I didnt even remember her face.

DysfunctionalBrother · 2016-08-22T17:29:58+00:00

My advice is stay the fuck away from POF there are some fucked up people on there.

evolveto · 2016-08-21T20:30:30+00:00

Dude, It will take time, but trust me you will come out stronger.

I am 31, Married, got cheated twice in 12 years of relationship. My friends girlfriend all had eyes on me, i was leader in pack. Now with depression and being almost bald, no girl would look on me, i have lost my looks, confidence, had immense anxiety, panic attacks and depression in last six months. Had nervous breakdown in presentation at office. Its hell.

Found TRP a month back and slowly taking my life in control inch by inch. Just keep up the fight.

88Will88 · 2016-08-22T07:52:19+00:00

Wow it is brutal out there for men today. Im old so sometimes I forget the young man's fear/ anxiety about women. Trust me my friend, they ain't worth shit. You are better than all of them, you just need to realise it. Look at the lists of the world's best: scientists, philosophers, entrepreneurs, artists, mathemeticians, sportsman, generals, chefs - see any female names? Hell no. Women ain't shit, they are there to suck my cock and clean my house and get pregnant. Start seeing them for the lowly pathetic beings that they are and you will feel much better. Best of luck with the anxiety bro.

suchhound · 2016-08-23T16:14:22+00:00

Wow

So you were traumatized by a "text only" relationship

Not only that but a bunch of spergs have showed up to show support and give you advice

None of it includes pointing out the fact that you had a fucking text only relationship

So you have been let down by a phone screen for all intent and purposes

Man, you are so deeply fucked

arethoudeadyet · 2016-08-22T05:14:51+00:00

Been there, done that. I have the same problems and still recovering.

Envek1 · 2016-08-22T16:48:33+00:00

I don't recommend text based relationships

subarufan0 · 2016-08-24T15:19:36+00:00

Thanks guys. My heart rate is still elevated (90+BPM) and I'm currently at the cardiologist. I'm not sure if it's related but my normal heart rate has been 60, after this event it has been 90-100 for a few months.

PhotoshopMogul · 2016-08-24T18:53:20+00:00

I hope you atleast got a nut

SummertimeMelancholy · 2016-08-21T18:53:42+00:00

I hate internet diagnostics but are your parents Cluster B patients?

Title	Gave myself panic attacks, depression and anxiety over a girl
Author	subarufan0
Upvotes	4
Comments	50
Date	August 21, 2016 4:37 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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