Getting over the anger phase

NotATerpLurker · 2014-07-30T21:40:08+00:00

If you give a gift, and the person does not accept it, then who owns the gift?

You do.

If you are angry at someone, and they do not accept it, then who owns the anger?

You do.

If you remain angry at women, you're the one that gets burned. Women don't give a shit about your feelings.

thegayrabbit · 2014-07-30T21:24:30+00:00

The red pill is like going through the stages of grief.

First: denial
Second: Anger (which is what you are going through)
Third: Bargaining
Fourth: Depression
Fifth: Acceptance

If you want to get past the anger phase just remember that getting angry or projecting your hatred towards women still means you are placing them on a pedestal and you are refusing to take responsibility of your short comings like a man should do.

mordanus · 2014-07-31T02:20:55+00:00

I was stuck in the anger phase for a very long time. I eventually got out of it by learning to accept things as they are. You can't work through the anger by bulking or making more money. You have to realize that no one has ever owed you a damn thing in life. Women don't owe you the truth. Society doesn't owe you fairness. If things were fair then beta males would get all the love and sex they needed because they would have earned them by following all the things society told them to do.

You have to accept that you were lied to and learn from those things. You have to accept that you are all you have. Think of it like a child who is lost. He can sit there and cry about all of it and regret his actions or wish and hope things were better. He can feel cheated because it isn't fair that he has to be lost. Or he can accept that he is lost and stop wasting his effort in useless ways like emotional fits.

Accept these things and move on. Your anger is just a waste of energy and it honestly makes people like you less. When you are angry about things that are out of your control then you come off as whiney. You are just bitching about how things should have been fair to you and you should have had it better.

scamper_22 · 2014-07-30T23:36:12+00:00

Sometimes you just gotta get over it in time and ACTION. One of my friends from high school married pretty soon after college. He married his high school love. Anyways, they got divorced in about a year.

After that, for a few years, he literally was just screwing girls. He literally approached this one girl in our group we all wanted to get with and asked her for casual sex. I mean like literally, he said, we should just fuck. Before marriage, he would never do that. He got called an asshole by a whole bunch of girls. But he didn't care. I've never seem him more confident or happy in his life. Now he has a nice LTR with a girl we can all tell he is much happier with.

But the core thing is he had to act on it. He took women off their pedestal and lived rather selfishly for a while. He needed that.

2014-07-30T21:10:05+00:00

ruthless self-improvement.

The prevalence of feminists is a factor that you cannot control. Once you accept that, you will not be angry. Until then, channel your anger into strengthening your mind, your body and your will.

JihadDerp · 2014-07-31T03:51:03+00:00

Do you get mad at the sky when it rains? Do you get mad at a dog when it barks? Do you get mad at politicians for lying?

No. It's just the nature of things. It's the way things are.

Some things in life seem unfair, but the concept of fairness is a "excuse crutch" for the weak. There are things you can't control, and there are things you can. The strong adapt to the former and take full advantage of the latter.

angel3110 · 2014-07-31T08:05:53+00:00

I am getting tired of these "anger" phases. Yes, it sucks when you learn the truth. So what? They need us more than we need them. Why don't you live your life? Play a sport, find a hobby, swim, read, run, learn, travel, work. You can build a career or create a legacy.

You won't have time to think or worry about women. When they see that you have a life and you enjoy it, they will come to you.

Zackcid · 2014-07-31T11:44:27+00:00

Come to peace with it, the last thing you want is to fight it angrily. Of course, if yelling and venting helps come to peace, then please do let it out. But in my experience, grinning my teeth and feeling spiteful about reality and feminists doesn't make my life better.

I believe that only time will heal this, as well as your personal Journey. I've come to accept women for being women. After acceptance, you begin to appreciate and love them again. It feels like I'm going through puberty again from just loving all these women and appreciating their good looks. This time though, I have a firm grasp on my masculinity and what their femininity means.

circlhat · 2014-07-31T12:31:01+00:00

You need to become jaded not against women but against society ,women aren't the enemy but society has the decked stacked against you.

There is no anger phase as this is simply projection , there is a phase were you will become distrustful of society and want nothing to do with feminist this is the common sense phase.

Aside from some minor shit test women give you, they won't treat you like crap. Women are actually very nice when they like you.

For me the phase was , "Wow I been so stupid and wasted so much time, I better not waste anymore time"

My advice is to start meeting women as you are now, use the gym/exercise to keep you healthy well into your 40's.

Working out is a lifestyle it takes 2+ years for it to turn a no into a yes and requires consistent commitment and is totally unnecessary.

Money > Muscle but Money and muscle will put you ahead of 99% of guys.

There are no stages, forget this arm chair physiologist nonsense, you were once blue pill and now you are becoming red pill.

DankPanties · 2014-07-31T14:55:33+00:00

What if someone told you that gravity is a lie and you can actually fly if you just did X? Would you be pissed off because your whole life you thought gravity was real but oh my fuck all this time I could have been flying? No, you'd be too busy flying to care. You'd be a super hero. Well guess what, now that you know how women truly are and how to handle them, you're a fucking super hero. You've got special powers now that at least 95% of other men have no clue about or even the capacity to realize on their own. Why are you pissed off then dude? Enjoy using your super powers and being free of the bullshit that eats the souls of lesser men the rest of their lives.

projectself · 2014-07-31T01:19:05+00:00

radical feminists make up like 1% of the population, at best.. stop reading the internet and interact with real girls. that's how you get over it.

AlienSunrise · 2014-07-31T05:41:21+00:00

I was lucky enough not to have the anger phase. I'd always somewhat lived with TRP ideals. My game with girls has very much been RP. When I discovered TRP I was not mad at all. I was actually relieved that it wasn't just me who saw things this way. Don't get mad, just be relieved that you've found the truth and now nothing can hold you back. You're not living with the wool over your eyes. Any longer. Be happy that you know the truth.

Title	Getting over the anger phase
Author	F9R
Upvotes	11
Comments	31
Date	July 30, 2014 9:01 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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