Good guy friends

Exactly_what_I_think · 2013-09-20T22:47:57+00:00

Good guy friends are hard to find. More along the lines of hard to make.

Bro's before ho's

IdleGod · 2013-09-21T01:52:12+00:00

I've realized recently that some guys, while purporting to be "bros", are just self-serving assholes.

Take one friend of mine. Every chance he gets, he sabotages things. He makes me look bad in front of women, just to expand his own ego (he is married, and not looking for side action). He sets me up with his female friends, who happen to be 35 year old obese chain smokers with kids. Then he has the audacity to tell me that my standards are just too high. He wont go out with me and try to wingman. He used to try, but every single time, he would declare the bar "gay" or a "sausage fest" (once, it was a CLEAR 3:1 girl:guy ratio). He would just panic out and demand we leave. I would approach girls, and he would just go and start making outrageous lies to them, telling them we had to go "immediately". He, is not a bro.

Take my other friend. Went out on vacation and went out every night. We would go and try to pick up ladies (I'm not skilled at this yet, so it was a TRY at best). But one night, he called a girl that really liked him, and asked her to "bring friends". He had no interest in her (she was fucking crazy and he was done with her). Bro tried to get me some (she didn't bring her friends, it was one of those girls). That, is a bro.

RedBigMan · 2013-09-21T05:12:41+00:00

The other men in your life will likely be there far longer than most women will be. It is always good advice to cultivate male relationships as well as female ones. Though you have to realize that like female relationships, male relationships different guys are good for different purposes.

I mean you might have one friend who makes an awesome wingman. Who you can go out barhopping or clubbing with and pick up women. Another friend might not be into that but might be an awesome guy to shoot the shit with and have good advice in general. You might find a decent friend who makes a good work-out partner too. All different types of relationships but all important.

I guess what I'm saying is having a well rounded circle of male friends. You wouldn't want all your male friends to be wingmen for example.

gmflag · 2013-09-21T02:01:34+00:00

It takes a while to develop a male friendship to that point. As much as I hate to admit it, many guys, including people that appear "alpha", are hyper-sensitive. Many overcompensate for it. Hence, they are called Faux-alphas.

POIC: Polar Opposing Insecurity Compensation. Because they are afraid of being perceived a certain way, they act the complete opposite to compensate.

I think all of us have been guilty of that in a certain way. We sometimes forget that our weaknesses can be our greatest strengths. However, smarter people are more perceptive and can see through the façade. The perceptive tend to seek out each other.

Birds of a feather flock together in weird ways.

I know my core group of male friends didn't get to this point until 2 months in. This may sound racist, but I think black guys tend to be more red pill innately based on how they grow up and environment. We all got to really get to that point after we started sharing and viewing one guy's Patrice O'neal Collection. We would get into discussions about life and philosophy.

After having discussions and debating back and forth with no one taking it personal, we started becoming to the point of what you are talking about.

PrisonerOfLife · 2013-09-21T02:43:03+00:00

Like it or not, we as men are in constant competition over women. RP theory dictates that one should sabotage another man to get laid simply because RP is the pursuit of being sexually successful - not a moral individual capable of rationally valuing male companionship.

Absolute embodiment of RP seems to be immoral, but more realistic embodiment of RP is likely amoral. Integrity and morality are important masculine values but they are disjoint from RP demeanor.

Nitzi · 2013-09-21T14:03:38+00:00

Me and my friends push us with competition, we always become better at everything because we have to be better than each other, and we all profit from it.

Title	Good guy friends
Author	projectself
Upvotes	21
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Date	September 20, 2013 10:34 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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