High school junior here, advice?

Sokolov1 · 2014-04-19T20:48:43+00:00

Please start working out ASAP, swim and lift weights

RPthrowaway123 · 2014-04-19T20:34:22+00:00

I'm a bit older than you but I used to have the same problems.

Approaching in class is easy enough in theory. Sit next to a cute girl, and at the end of class ask if she will study with you later. Get her phone number, study, ???, profit.

As for the second one I wouldn't worry about it. Focus on working on yourself and they will come to you.

Do you live in a city? Unless you can walk or take mass transit that last one is tricky.

Lastly, don't make it about the girls. This is something I've been struggling with (post history of you're curious) but if you make it about them they can smell how bad you want it from a mile away.

That's my two cents, hope it helps!

long-lostfriend · 2014-04-19T21:40:51+00:00

As far as the "looking like a slut" problem, the trick is assuring her that you can keep your fucking mouth shut.

When you are older, you will have chicks telling you, "I've never done this before," as you are closing them after knowing them an hour or two. They will be lying, but your job is to reassure their hamsters that everything is perfectly acceptable and safe. The same is true with the high school girl living in the Mean Girls matrix day after day.

Isolate, escalate, and reassure her that everyone (including herself) will still respect her afterward.

ColdEiric · 2014-04-20T00:49:06+00:00

The rest of your class doesn't think you're worth much right now. Focus on sports and your grades. Remember, you are either an expendable male stranger, or the shit everyone wants to have as a contact.

Girls are at their peak right now. They will drop in value, even if they work hard against that drop. Their bodies gets worse by the year, but yours doesn't, if you go lifting.

It gets better, if you work and sweat and try again. If you don't, it'll get worse.

averagecycle · 2014-04-19T20:34:24+00:00

One of our top contributors wrote this a few days ago just for guys like you, shorter post but with tons of help. take a look: r/TheRedPill/comments/22jtb4/gaylubeoils_guide_to_teen_sex/

Easiest thing you can do is just relax, not being a little bitch is winning half the battle in high school. No license? Tell her to pick you up. nbd.

Also this will likely get moved to /r/asktrp

[deleted] · 2014-04-19T23:14:53+00:00

Imo getting girls is not a priority.

You need to work on your frame, I.e. becoming a strong stoic individual.

Lift weights, competitive sport, martial arts.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-04-19T22:05:52+00:00

I have a boy your age so I recognize these questions as teenager shit tests. The proper answer: Deflect and ignore.

At your age you need to build a supply of muscle on your body. This will last the rest of your life and it is very, very important. Lift weights. Lift hard and build up that muscle. Then in your 40's, like me, when you decide to get off your Beta ass and get back in shape it happens quickly because you already had all that muscle (it was just buried under all that fat).

Research pickup artistry and the Venusian Arts on youtube or wherever. The advice is the same no matter what you read. Be confident. Approach girls constantly. Approach with an air of abundance mentality (lots of fish in the sea and all). Don't be fazed by her beauty (which answers your first question- WTF? Just walk up to her and start talking about something. If you are going some place over the weekend then invite her to come along. This is not rocket science. Err towards asshole rather than "nice" guy. Learn Kino and escalation tactics and, for your second to last question research LMR. cheers.

CostOfSpartan · 2014-04-20T01:58:37+00:00

Dude, scary. You come from a really similar background (17, prestigious public school, etc.) that I'm in. I'm no expert, but here's how I got started.

*Start lifting, yes, but also get into some active hobby if you already aren't. For me, this included parkour and krav maga.

*Don't focus as much on PUA. Focus on increasing your SMV and improving your general worldview. Girls are gossipy as hell, and High School gives them a big closed system for your reputation as "the creepy kid" to spread. PUA comes in Senior year or after you leave the closed system.

*Shower, shave, brush your teeth, and perform basic hygiene. It baffles and scares me how few guys do this.

*Don't give out compliments if you can avoid it. I've gotten my best results when I express my sarcastic, lovable asshole sense of humor than when I try and keep it PG.

*Don't talk about the red pill unless you're in a strictly alpha group of friends (I only discuss it with about three-four people). Feminists and White Knights are swarming around here.

*Other than that, don't take any of it TOO seriously. After all, we're out of this place in less than a year and a half. Don't be afraid to black knight a bitch just for the hell of it.

Hope this helps.

[deleted] · 2014-04-20T02:30:33+00:00

As a teenager, get practiced at being casually awesome. Don't let on that you work your ass off to be top dog of everything you do, let others just see it as who you are. Don't bitch and moan about how hard shit is, don't whine about having too much you need to do to enjoy your life. Do be structured and knowledgeable about what you are doing, but don't theorize about it. Do work hard on your body, teams, and skills, but don't lose focus on the task at the thought of the end goal.

Nonchalance is king as a teen, not apathy, not dismissal, but nonchalance.

Bro-ku · 2014-04-19T21:12:01+00:00

In high school social status is pretty key so maybe try out for a sports team, lift weights and look good, and get some nice clothes. Be confident and laid back, and go to house parties.

By the way, though I can't say for sure, the girls in H.S. generally are fucking people - they'll fuck the QB, or the athletes, you just wouldn't know about it. Seriously, if you're a big guy, joining the football team (if you guys are any good) or any other popular sports team would do wonders for your social status and self esteem, and things will be easier from there.

[deleted] · 2014-04-19T23:55:52+00:00

LIFT LIFT LIFT.

Prepare for college. I wish I found TRP when I was your age. If you get ready now, you'll be swimming in poon by the end of your freshman year of college.

High school girls generally are much more conservative about sex unless you're in a LTR with them. That'll change the second they get into college.

If you want to approach a girl in your class, just make casual conversation with her. Don't try to use pick up or anything in a high school environment, since you'll most likely be seeing her again.

If you can't drive yet, just offer to do something close to home. Get a tub of ice cream, make ice cream cones, and go for a walk in the park.

dai_xinyi_boxer · 2014-04-20T02:22:17+00:00

working out is good start...I would tell you to take up MMA, Muay Thai, Sanda, or Internantional Kickboxing can help a lot too. Physical rough and tumble then dominating older tougher guys as you progress does wonders for your confidence, as you got the skill to back up your confidence. Not to mention you can gain a lean/tuned body chicks get wet over.

aww40 · 2014-04-20T03:26:48+00:00

-Get in the gym. You highschool should have a weightroom, it'll be free, so there's no excuse not to get on a program. Try starting strength if you're new. Also, do some sort cardio. Swimming is great but if you don't have access to a pool, start running. C25K is a great start. Google IIFYM calculator and follow that scheme to either bulk up or cut down if you're bigger.

-Approaching girls is actually easier at your age because they're younger and probably don't have as much experience dealing with guys who know what they're doing (which you will be after getting some experience.) However, they will likely be more chaste because they are probably virgins. Keep this in mind. As for approaching, just be confident and talk to them. Flirt but don't be a doting fool who comes off as clingy. Get numbers, work text game, flirt more, be aloof. After you build rapport, work out logistics to get her alone. Since your parents are divorced, I'm assuming you will be alone in your house at some point while your parents work. Get her to come over to your house to hang out (see: watch movies) If you build rapport well enough, it won't matter what the excuse is. Or if you have a license and no car, borrow your parents' on weekends. If she isn't what you want, on to the next one. Rinse, repeat.

-MAKE FRIENDS. With EVERYONE. This isn't covered nearly enough but Preselection is a hell of a drug. Having lots of friends lets other people know your an awesome person to be around. Multiply this by 2 for girls. You want to garner as much attention as possible, it makes you "shiny" to them. Try to be the life of the party whenever you walk into a room. This will be easier the more physically fit you are.

-Learn to dress. I know you're probably limited by the socioeconomic status of your parents, but make sure your clothes fit and if you wear cheaper clothes, make sure you know how to wear them.

-Play sports. If you haven't played sports up until now, play as many as possible. It'll help with making friends and being fit. If you already play sports, become the best at them. Women love a superstar. It makes you, once again, "shiny" to them.

-Make good grades so you can get into a good college. I know you want to slay pussy right now, but don't ruin your chances of an awesome life for a year and a half at most of fucking around. Get your grades as high as possible. Think long term.

-Try and get a job. Financial autonomy may not be as important now to girls but it will someday. And more, importantly, it'll be important to you. Become as independent as possible as soon as possible. Money in your pocket makes life in general easier.

-Stay out of the middle of your parents. This is kind of a caveat, but take it from someone who came from a semi-fucked up family. You'll be a lot healthier mentally and emotionally the less you are involved in any fuckery that is/has gone on with your folks. Anything that happened with their marriage isn't your fault/responsibility and it only involves you as much their responsibility to take care of you until you are 18/can take care of yourself.

Hope this helps. You're starting out early which put you head and shoulders above your peers. Drive on and conquer.

Blake55 · 2014-04-20T03:56:54+00:00

Don't make it about girls. Make it about you being the best you can. If you're sitting around playing Xbox ask yourself if it's worth your time. You have a finite amount of time to get shit done in your life. Make it awesome.

TL;DR - lift, work hard, improve self... Be the best!

machimus · 2014-04-20T06:00:20+00:00

I'm gonna go with:

Actually recognize when a girl likes you, this alone would have gotten me mega laid
If you date girls they don't look like sluts when they sleep with you.

PaulRivers10 · 2014-04-20T06:17:09+00:00

"If you want to approach a girl in a class, how would you recommend doing so?"

Make friendly smalltalk with them in class. Be friendly to their friends (though not necessarily overly so). Invite them to hang out with your friends.

The key here is that you need friends who will be cool. Doing something interesting enough that she wants to go, and a general demeanour towards her that makes her feel like your friends are going to think she's cool if she's hooking up with you, and not going to be spreading rumors or negatively judging her.

The other way to go is the wingman approach. A lot of times the girl will have her defenses up at the guy who personally invites her. If you can get a friend you can trust to invite her, and then just treat her as a friend, your own odds go way up. This isn't easy, and of course you're expected to reciprocate, but it's a lot easier to convince a girl you're not actually interested in to come to a group thing.

"Girls at my school(a somewhat prestigious place, for a public school) are always scared to hell of sleeping with guys for fear of looking like sluts. A good way to bypass this?"

Girls (moreso than guys) adopt the values of their immediate social group. If you can get a social group of friends that feels that sleeping with people is cool, and she becomes part of that group, she'll start to feel that way to.

Also, you probably already do, but you need to realize that a most of the loudest "I'm am not a slut" girls are actually sleeping with someone. They declare it loudly for social cover.

"Most importantly, I can't drive yet(17 and parents were divorced a while back, long story). How can I go out with girls / get around this?"

Makes friends that have cars. Meet at a certain place, or with group things you can often find a friend who drives.

It's not easy - everything is easier with a car in high school. But most other people don't have a car either.

It's true that you shouldn't stress out about it to much - when girls go to college, they loosen up about sleeping with people a lot. In fact if you're looking for a long term relationship, the best window for that is when she's a freshman in college.

You can lift and exercise if you want, but don't let it get in the way of going out and being part of social stuff. This is how a number of people typically get laid in high school - being part of a social group and simply being there and being attractive when the girls hormones take over. Remember - no straight guy ever got laid by only spending time alone or with other men.

When you get past high school, people will become less judgemental in criticizing you openly - but they'll also become more passive aggressive about saying anything negative about you socially to you. The best thing I did in high school was hanging around with different groups of people - it's way harder to get into their group later, and later people are less expressive about what they want, instead they just suddenly stop inviting you and you don't know why. (Sometimes that why is as simple as that the group fizzled out, but having been part of those groups before you get a better idea).

RedBigMan · 2014-04-20T15:15:41+00:00

If you want to approach a girl in a class, how would you recommend doing so?

Just do it. You cant hit a home run if you don't take the bat off your shoulders.

Girls at my school(a somewhat prestigious place, for a public school) are always scared to hell of sleeping with guys for fear of looking like sluts. A good way to bypass this?

Improve your SMV. Lift weights and join a sports team like football if you're in the USA. Also do not be afraid to if you pull a girl that's high SMV to engage in monogamy and by that I mean accept the role of boyfriend if it will get you access to pussy. If she does bring it to this step then she might actually want you to meet her parents. In which case said sports team affiliation earlier may garner you some brownie points with her father.

Most importantly, I can't drive yet(17 and parents were divorced a while back, long story). How can I go out with girls / get around this?

If you're in high school and in a city odds are you are likely within walking distance of the school or a short bike/transit ride. Just go to places around your area that are popular like the mall or like go for ice cream or hell just go for a walk around the area.

As for the driving thing... do it now! Most jurisdictions have some form of learner's permit/training license or graduated licensing. The sooner you start the faster you get your full license. Even if you do not have your own vehicle you can often borrow someone else's if need be.

Zackcid · 2014-04-20T01:29:37+00:00

Hang out with the cool kids, you gotta behave more like them. Lifting helps with internalizing that type of high status mentality that gets you into a lot of parties. At those parties, approach girls either natural or with canned lines. Make that connection and you know the rest.

Forget about that "scared to hell of sleeping with guys/ fear of being a slut". All girls have this fear, so they put up their defenses to most guys and open it up only for top 20% sex-worthy guys.

In class, just sit close to a cutie early on. You can start off by asking a neutral question about class, and then extend the conversation into more personal stuff. Sit with her on the second day and she'll remember that she can trust you and open up more for a casual relationship with you.

Check out /r/highseddit if you want. i subscribed there a long time ago, but never bothered checking it out. TRP's more than enough.

[deleted] · 2014-04-20T01:28:50+00:00

/r/nofap

do it.

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