How do I break up with her?

n0c0ntr0l · 2014-07-31T20:30:34+00:00

You can make her lose the weight. No need to throw away a good woman.

But on the other hand, if you do break up with her. Do it clean, no contact.

NotATerpLurker · 2014-07-31T19:54:34+00:00

If you choose to break up with her, go cold turkey. It will hurt her and you if you maintain a friendship.

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itsarusko · 2014-07-31T20:12:19+00:00

She lives to serve me. She wants to always make me happy, she always wants to hang out. she ADORES me

So... She's a good girlfriend. Yet you want to leave her? Let's read on ..

she's started gaining weight.

And ..

Should I mention that I feel like i'm missing out on LIFE, by sticking with the same girl since high school? I want to go out and live!

Be real with yourself. You're hamstering.

You want to break up with her for 2 reasons only. A: she's getting fatter B: you want to fuck lots of hot chicks.

You want to dump this girl for superficial reasons, and you know it, that's why you're asking for help. Own it!!

There's no need to be honest with this girl, and fuck with her head for probably the next 10 years. I agree with the other post, after you break up with this girl, it is IMPERATIVE that you go no-contact. Any single thing you say to her is attention, and that's all she needs to keep pursuing you.

MasonJarTeaDrinker · 2014-07-31T20:17:58+00:00

Whatever you do make sure that you do it, don't think about it too long. Yes it sucks and life is a bitch but if you stick it out you're not gonna be happy and you're going to become bitter towards her. Thinking to yourself that you're doing her a favor and sticking it out, don't do that shit, men change and shit happens, you don't owe it to her to stick it out if you're not feeling it any more.

Good luck bro.

7ravicus · 2014-07-31T20:35:15+00:00

do it, it'll be best for her too, she can lose weight again while it isn't a big deal and take her turn on the carousel, win-win

AFPJ · 2014-07-31T20:53:24+00:00

Should I mention that she is gaining weight, and I no longer want to fuck her every hour of the day

She sounds like a good woman. If you want to break up because she's unattractive, start exercising together. If you want to break up so you can sleep around, just say "I've decided it's best that we part ways" and go no contact.

I am completely and utterly confused.

Leave the hamstering of oneself into hypoagency to women.

mordanus · 2014-07-31T20:59:48+00:00

You're not really the leader in the relationship if you are going to run when she gains weight. Have you even mentioned it to her? You have to let her know that it is unsatisfactory and that you aren't going to stay with someone who is fat. If you love her as much as you say you do then you will try to fix this shit instead of nexting her.

If being fat is her only problem then you can fix this. To me it seems that you just want to play the field and hate being weighted down by her and are looking for a reason to blame it on her. If you would stay with her if she was skinny then lead her to that solution. If she refuses to be lead then she has a lot more problems and red flags than you want to deal with.

itsarusko · 2014-07-31T20:31:55+00:00

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amonde · 2014-07-31T20:03:23+00:00

If you care about her, you would give feedback on the "why". Sure, it will hurt her, sure, she might hate you for it, but in many ways that might actually make it easier to take a clean break.

TheOneTrueMagnet · 2014-07-31T20:26:50+00:00

As an aside, have you tried ways to make her hit the gym? Do you need to hit the gym? Remember that the girls in your life are a reflection of you. She is gaining weight because she thinks she can get away with it. If you want her to feel some pressure, read up on soft dread game.

Just remember that just like the girls at 21 leaving college with no husband, you lose the opportunity to both be with each other with low partner counts. This means a lot statistically when it comes to keeping together LTR's. Think about what you are throwing away before you just toss her to chase the pussy carrousel. Remember AWALT.

Dick-Tracy · 2014-07-31T20:01:25+00:00

While you should probably spend some time with other women for the benefit of your life long-term, if weight is the only issue here and she's wonderful otherwise, you owe it to her at least to tell her that.

"This is going to be hard for me, but... I'm not as attracted to you as I used to be, and I think it would be best for both of us to see other people. You deserve to be happy, and for you to be happy, you need to be with a man who finds you attractive. Thank you for a wonderful four years."

And then you leave, and cut contact.

Should I mention that she is gaining weight, and I no longer want to fuck her every hour of the day, like I used to?

After four years, some loss of libido is normal: she's no longer capable of triggering your Coolidge Effect (look it up)

gt35r · 2014-07-31T21:02:00+00:00

I'm sensing a strong case of oneitis and possible troll.

Title	How do I break up with her?
Author	itsarusko
Upvotes	0
Comments	24
Date	July 31, 2014 7:48 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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