I’ve seen this question often, guys want to reduce their response time during conversations with girls while improving what they actually say. The dream combo.

Over the years my syntax and diction has improved a lot. I’ve also developed a more seasoned arsenal of rebuttals that have led to some enjoyable banter with both men and women.

I honestly believe this all started when I was a teenager, back in the day when I inhaled more weed smoke than air. My boys and I would freestyle all the damn time. Even though we stopped smoking weed, we never stopped freestyling. I’m not talking “aspiring rapper” kind of freestyling, just get comfortable saying stupid shit, have fun, let loose. We did it alone, over beats or silence. Shit, I still do it in the shower. My employer doesn’t know, my plates don’t know, my family doesn’t know.

I genuinely think freestyling gave me more “conversational confidence”. It gave me the ability to start saying something without knowing where it would lead to. Which is what you want when hitting on a girl, you want it to sound unrehearsed.

It’s like drano for your thoughts, you get confident with how your voice sounds, you improve the pace of your word output and learn the rhythm that pairs best with your thought flow. I learned I’m better slow, with a sprinkle of speed here and there.

It’s won’t be easy when you start. You will sound like an absolute idiot, but that’s part of the process, you got a bunch of idiotic shit to say before things sound better. Just stick to it, it’s a challenge, and if you can’t grow the balls to sound dumb around your boys, you’ll never have the balls to sound “witty” infront of a girl.

TDLR: start freestyling

PS: to the mods, this is my first post ever, so if I did anything wrong, PM me and I’ll fix it. Thanks