This is for the new guys. Just another example from the relationships subreddit to show can weak and feminine a man can be. To have a long story short , a father of three children gets cheated on after a 17 year old marriage. He is broken , pukes and cries. He wants to fix things.

My beautiful, loving, brilliant wife and mother to our three children prepared my favorite meal then sat me down, looked me in the eye, and told me she'd been seeing another man for a couple months now and they'd slept together.

Firstly , he tells us how strong and amazing his wife is. They married young , and although his marriage is not flawless , he would not have dreamed for anything better. Who would want more than sex once a month , though? Starfish is great!

How flawless can it really be , though? Your wife cooked your favorite dish and directly told you that she has a lover. Thats not even subtle manipulation. She wants divorce and stated it in the most offensive way. What a great wife!

All I could do was ask why, if there was something I had done. She said no, not at all. It wasn't my fault. It just happened. She was very upset and seemed genuinely remorseful, but also wouldn't answer when I asked if she loved him.

The guy probably does everything he is ordered. While doing everything for your kids makes you a great father , doing everything for your wife clearly has always ended with the opposite of a good husband. Stuff that just happens.

Every time I try I get up the nerve to go home I get choked up. I'm a grown ass man and I can't talk about this without crying.

I understand that this guy has had a relationship with a girl for more than 17 years which is a ton of time , energy , cash and emotion invested. Crying like a little bitch won't do you any good though. Man up might be as clichéd as possible , but under the right circumstances , all women are able to cheat. She did not even need those "right circumstances" , you were already a bitch. Who knows how many time you've cried in front of her.

She somehow managed to spend three or four months seeing this guy enough to fall in love and my dumb ass never noticed.

Trickle truth , ladies and gentlemen. Can you spot the manipulation? First it was a couple of months. Now after a few lines of text they transformed into three , four. Maybe a year? Maybe Dead Bedrooms make men blind.

A tiny part of me wants to just walk out for good and "teach her a lesson" but I don't really want to. I love her. And she doesn't deserve to be treated that way, even if she treated me worse.

It is evident that your wife wants you out. She has been hiding her fling for who knows how long. She has been collecting her AF's superior sperm in her vagina for who knows how long. But she does not deserve to be treated that way , she can do no wrong , she is your unicorn.

I don't want to lose her. I don't want to lawyer up. I want to fix this, I want to grow old with her.

She has absolutely no respect for her man. And no matter how obvious this gets , who knows maybe she introduces him to cuck porn and they shoot one together where he masturbates in the end of the room , he will still want to fix this. He wants the Disney Life. He wants to grow old with his Princess.

Commenters asking if he knows her intentions. Does she want a divorce? What an intricate question. Proposals to go to councelors , third party psychologists that don't take sides but are preferably female and a ton of other bullshit.

So what do you do in this situation? The most appropriate strategy is to fight the courts. She cheated , get her out of your life. If you accept her mistake , you will never feel like a real man. You honestly aren't , really. And also , no matter were you married , LTR , spinning plates. If something like this happens , get an STD check.