I feel... empty.

RPGoon · 2015-03-16T13:25:01+00:00

Use your new found TRP knowledge for your own goals. You have no obligation to follow the majority on this sub.

I felt the same way for the first 6 months and I realized plate spinning wasn't for me. I'm not a super social person so dealing with more than one girl was exhausting. I dropped my plates and spent more time focusing on my own goals. I have an LTR now and I'm much happier.

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-03-16T11:07:22+00:00

Do you have any good guy friends?

Maybe the problem is that at some level you're subconsciously wishing you could have "deeper connections" with the women you're banging? Maybe you need to spend more time cultivating deeper bonds with other humans. It's natural. But it's hard to do with women, most of them just don't have that level of depth and will interpret your attempts to attain that with them as wellness weakness. Which is why you should have bros you can bond with.

BlaiseDB · 2015-03-16T12:17:49+00:00

Accept that you are a good man and deserve a good woman.

leodoestheopposite · 2015-03-16T10:22:07+00:00

It's normal.

After some experiences that made no sense and left you with a lot of unanswered questions, you have encountered TRP which has provided you with some answers, strange answers, but somehow, in light of your past experiences, made some sense.

You took this knowledge and applied it a little bit out there in the real world, and holy fuck!!! It works, and it works well and predictably so; even if it's the polar opposite of what everyone says.

And yet you have decades of brainwashing. You can hardly believe your eyes.

Beware that you are vulnerable, if one of your plates lasts long enough to be considered a LTR you might find yourself BB/BP again.

windowkicker · 2015-03-16T11:27:24+00:00

Aim for higher smv women. It gives you more of a challenge. Also stop using women as the source of your validation. Work harder at your hobbies.

sealteamaus · 2015-03-16T12:11:47+00:00

raise your standards, of yourself and others. that reminds me, i need to do this as well.

oldredder · 2015-03-16T09:55:14+00:00

Maybe you are over-focusing - or maybe you're in so much control now of things that spontaneity is gone. Life loses a spark, some part of adventure, when it's all under control. Becomes much more stable but where's the fun if there's no thrill, no surprises?

I don't feel guilty. Sometimes I do "feel empty" and by that I mean I feel nothing for such a long time that I don't entirely remember what some feelings are. Meh. Life's not bad so I roll with it. Just try to do something out of your comfort zone to push some emotions back on and maybe shake things up a bit so you can be surprised.

Life's an adventure and sometimes it's easy to forget that. Been guilty of that a few times but I don't "feel guilty" over it, just realize the comfort-zone is getting a bit too enveloping.

da-way · 2015-03-16T10:51:08+00:00

I echo oldredders sentiment, but would like to add to it.

From what I can tell the big problem is that you seem to only be focusing on sex. Sex is great but for the same reason you don't eat cake for every meal you shouldn't focus solely on sex. I think you should start thinking about what else you can do to improve your life.

A fulfilling life if filled with numerous cool activities, hobbies and accomplishments, nurturing relationships and of course sex. It is time to build a fulfilling life not just a fulfilling sex-life.

edit:

I feel sorta guilty. When i'm in the moment I feel in control and try to communicate my desires effectively but then afterwards I feel like I'm taking advantage of the people I have sex with. Is that normal?

this is still internalized BP mentality, on some level you still believe that having sex is bad...somehow. It should go away the more you educate your self about the nature of the beast and the more you build your life. If you haven't already read No more Mr nice guy.

makethemwant · 2015-03-16T12:54:33+00:00

You said:

I don't think I've been 100% getting the point of TRP.

From the sidebar:

The goal is maximizing happiness!

You said:

I feel like I'm taking advantage of the people I have sex with

Yes. It's normal to feel that way at first. However, for me, RP is about finding women who are at peace with their desire for an Alpha to fuck. I maintain the relationship on a basis of friendship first, and on the basis that they desire me for fucking. It requires me not using them for sex, and only fucking them when I've turned them on sufficiently so that they're more or equally interested in sex than I am, given the foundational understanding that I am not emotionally ready to consider sexual exclusivity.

It doesn't feel good to use people, so stop doing it. Make relationships honest and mutually beneficial. And don't confide your weak thoughts to your plates ever. My plates tell me fairly directly - they like me because I'm a rock. They don't want to deal with my emotional shit unless I'm going to commit to them. That's a fair trade for me.

Smitty6 · 2015-03-16T13:58:08+00:00

You are feeling guilt because old programming. Society teaches that men going out sleeping with multiple women should be shamed. So you are feeling bad about it. Don't worry about that. Women love sex and love it when a man step up and give that to them. Don't feel bad about it. Women take advantage of men for sex too. It happens all the time.

MachiavellianRed · 2015-03-16T15:27:07+00:00

This belongs in /r/asktrp, not here.

BrunoOh · 2015-03-16T12:44:57+00:00

Maybe you'll feel better if you do something nice for them. I'm not talking about trying to beta your way into their pants. Things like cuddling afterwards, buying them breakfast the day after, going out on a date sometimes. These things will keep your plates spinning longer as well.

Title	I feel... empty.
Author	Poke-Face
Upvotes	4
Comments	14
Date	March 16, 2015 9:42 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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