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Intro: I have identified a trend in the way I qualify, escalate with, and build intense and lasting rapport with women that has led to an almost-zero flake rate over many attempts, in situations where building rapport may be harder than normal (online dates, text game, number-closes that took place too rapidly for proper comfort and rapport phases). In this post, I will break down specific tactics used to generate rapport, explain their utility and importance in creating intense feelings of connection in short amounts of time, and demonstrate how they can be used in regular in-person dates as well as over text to establish dominant frame early, display amused mastery, and to reduce flake chances, contrary to the current texting attitude of “Only text to make plans.”

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Turning harmless flirtation into a solid commitment that leads to a date that leads to sex from an online or poor quality in person lead with high success rates is something many guys find difficult. The following is an exploration of an escalation ladder I employ before and during every date that strikes the right balance of sex/comfort for my own goals. (plates/mLTRs with a low to moderate emotional investment level.)

The Goal:

Our objective is to rapidly create intense feelings of connection, understanding, and “us-versus-them mentality” between you and your girl. They are one method of creating a sense of “passionate abandon” where your woman loses herself in the emotions and positive feelings you are communicating to her, by addressing her using her feels instead of her reals, to vastly reduce or eliminate the barriers in public physical escalation, taking her home, and leading to sex. The four I have identified as consistent throughout my use of game are as follows:

Nickname-Emotion Callback

Object Anchoring

Evasive Responses

Conversational Burden Flip

How can I generate intense feelings of connection in short amounts of time?

Here, I will break down each individual technique, and elaborate using a real-world example of my application.

1. Nickname-Emotion Callback

Early on in my interactions with a woman, usually between getting the number and setting the date, I’ll need to do some rapport building, as I am in one of the disadvantaged situations mentioned above and have built little to no comfort or vulnerability. In these situations, I will identify a quality about the woman that pleases me and is easily visible (most frequently, curiosity, as I make a habit of responding elusively or alluding to greater truths in my responses to her questions), and then associate that quality with an endearing pet name. I’ll bring it up as an aside in conversation, usually accompanied by a subtle disqualifier or rapport break, and then work it into conversation as it goes on. The aim in doing so is to reward her for displaying such a quality, paint her as the “aggressor” in the seduction, and associate it with positive feelings of reward and feminine desirability that are then at your disposal to “call back” whenever you choose to reward her by using this pet name.

The Example

Her: So what do you do?

Me: I pick up rich women and swindle them out of their inheritances.

Her: No, I mean like a job.

Me: So curious. Do you pry this much into every new guy you meet? I’m changing your name in my phone to “Kitten”.

Her: I’m not a kitten! I can’t know what you do?

Me: What if you picked me up and swindled me out of my inheritance? You can’t be too safe, kitten.

Key takeaways: After continuous association, I begin to refer to her by this nickname frequently, and she’ll often “pet-name” me as well. I’m not opposed to standing out even further from every other guy in her phone. Notice the sort-of DHV (implying I have an inheritance), the deflection of the gold-digger test (with humor and poise, and a callback to a joke I just made), and the fact that I revealed nothing but still generated positive and lasting rapport.

2. Object Anchoring

I don’t have any ketchup packets, but what I do have are opportunities to associate positive feelings and new and happy experiences with me with physical items. These items can later be used to call back those feelings and create a bond that runs deeper than just a brief physical interaction. I prefer items that are disposable but won’t be thrown out or lose value for being commonplace. This creates an association with an item that is carried back into her life and becomes a part of her world, reminding her of you even when you are not present and serving to keep you on her mind and increase her subconscious investment in you.

The Example

It’s a first date. I’ve pulled her back to mine for the purposes of “having a glass of champagne”. I grab the bottle, wrap my arms around her back. “Okay. Grab the bottle with one hand. Undo the wire tie. Grab the cork, and wiggle the bottle back and forth. That’s it.” She’s squealing, anxious, “Is it going to fly off? What do I do?” I say, “Settle down. You’re fine. It’s about to pop. Are you ready?”

She squeals “No!, jumps half a foot in the air as the cork pops off with a bang, and barely rights the bottle before our sparkling wine starts evacuating.

I go into the room where it landed, grab it, and bring it back to her. Place it in her palm, wrap her fingers around it, and look her right in the eyes. Extremely firmly and sincerely, I said “I want you to take this home with you. Put it on a shelf where you can see it, so that it’ll remind you of tonight. It’s our first memory. It’s important.”

Key takeaways: It doesn’t matter if she puts it on her shelf or not. To my knowledge, this girl still carries it around religiously, but she could be lying or not, and it wouldn’t matter. What does matter is that in the moment, her feelings of excitement and nervous energy are all validated, intensified, and we share a connected moment right before I’m about to escalate for the lay. This is a huge boost in rapport, and even though it’s arguably very short term as there’s no guarantee she’ll keep the item, I had the boost of comfort when I needed it. Go and do likewise.

3. Evasive Responses

In seduction, a crucial aspect of escalation is in making her chase you. This is usually done by framing her as the “aggressor”, and implying in further communications that you’re reading into them as her chasing you. Another method of creating this chase is by responding evasively or with half-answers to her questions, giving her just enough to want to keep digging, which you then tease her for. As mentioned in many seduction materials, full straight answers are the death of a woman’s interest.

The Example

Her: So what do you do?

Me: I’m an underwear model, but I sell drugs on the side.

Her: Haha yeah? What kind of drugs?

Me: Viagra. My biggest clientele is aging men.

Her: Oh yeah? Are you getting rich off of selling Viagra to elderly men?

Me: They usually pop their boners just seeing me model underwear. The Viagra is just in case.

Her: So you’re sleeping with elderly men?

Me: God, no. Gross. I’m not a stripper anymore.

Her: Anymore?

Me: Those were darker days. Don’t tell me you’ve never stripped before.

Her: I can’t say that I have.

Me: That’s a shame. Canadian strip clubs are so much fun. Instead of dollar bills, they throw loonies at you.

Her: bursts out laughing

Me: pinging noises

Key Takeaways: Responding elusively to inquiries gives you an opportunity to create inside jokes, long-running ones that can be stretched for joke ammo down the road. In addition, you inspire a much more invested response, one that can stretch on significantly, until she’s texting you all night. It’s on you to put an end to things, tell her you have shit to do, or stop responding and pick it up later to show non-neediness, as you can’t just text her all night and make it clear you’re low value, but the concept of shutting down conversations or ignoring texts for days are most useful when you don’t have anything useful to say and you don’t want to spam her with meaningless bullshit just to indulge your loneliness. Creating threads like this gives you so many “ins” and generates a lot of comfort with you, even though you told her nothing and revealed nothing, she gets to "know you better."

Conversational Burden Flip

When I want to get to the core of what a girl is about, I make statements of interest that demand a response, rather than asking questions like an interview. A small piece of information can become a big one, you can set a dominant frame, and by phrasing the right way and digging properly, she’s spilling out her soul to you in a way she never expected to. Delivered with the right amount of assertiveness, she will find herself wondering why she’s standing there complying with your every word, and she’ll be afraid of the massive rapport break it would take to knock you out of your pursuit.

The Example

Me: You look pretty in that scarf. I didn’t know I was in the presence of a fashionista.

Her: It’s just a scarf. I don’t wear it that often.

Me: Yeah, you struck me as the wifebeater and trackpants kind of girl.

Her: Yeah, totally. That’s pretty much all I do, with Netflix all day.

Me: Tell me more about what you get up to. It can’t all be Netflix.

Her: Well, I volunteer at a soup kitchen on the weekends.

Me: Tell me more about that.

Her: Well, ever since I was little, I wanted to help out the less fortunate, and when I heard there was an opening… I just kind of went for it!

Me: So you’ve been a selfless girl ever since you were a kid. Tell me more about that.

Her: Actually, as a kid I was pretty jealous. I used to steal my brother’s toys and hide them when he wouldn’t play with me.

Me: Total oldest child syndrome.

Her: Actually, I’m the youngest, of four. My brother…[blah blah blah]

Key Takeaways: “Tell me more about that” is the strongest phrase you will use when it comes to digging deep for values and rapport. It’s an inherent compliance test, and the only way for her to exit this feedback loop of vulnerability is with a “No”, a massive rapport break, as anything else can be flipped right back into getting her to make herself vulnerable.

This is my personal method for developing quick and intense rapport. It works equally well over text and in person and leads to long, involved, vulnerable interactions that reduce flake rates, inspire great comfort, and make your life a hell of a lot easier. It incorporates elements of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), script-flipped seduction, and sets your frame early, which means you’re coming into the interaction with a pre-set frame to maintain instead of having to demonstrate one early on or risk slipping up. These fundamentals, while not groundbreakingly novel, work very well in reducing flakiness and generating rapid, intense rapport, over text or in person.

*Tl;dr: * Give her a pet name related to a cute thing she does that you want to remind her of, and use it to call back that feeling. Give her a disposable object that’s meaningful in the context of your activity and store her positivity/nervous energy into the memory it’s associated with. Respond elusively and deflect direct questions while asking many of your own, to make her so curious she needs to show up and prove herself while setting a dominant frame, forcing her to qualify, and learning enough about her to screen for her family life, values, and red flags relating to her suitability as a plate and compatibility with you. Put the burden of the conversation on her instead of you with a “Tell me more about that” loop that will enable you to manage text conversations with ease, delve deeper into her psyche, and create a familiar sense of compliance within her to your commands, which will vastly reduce flakes, induce comfort, and minimize or eliminate obstacles related to the comfort phase of escalation.