Intimidation.

Summary.

A brief overview on how themes of intimidation play into the fight and flight response of women and a couple of examples of how they played out in day to day use.

Body:

Women get turned on by things that intimidate them.

Intimidate:

frighten or overawe (someone), especially in order to make them do what one wants...

They don't want to actually be scared though or feel genuinely unsafe, but having undertones of intimidation plays into all the tropes of female sexuality.

• A tall dark stranger...

Well fuck, he's tall and so can look down on me, that's intimidating, he's dark and mysterious, unknowable, that's danger, that's intimidating, he's a stranger, that's intimidating.

• Men in uniform.

Strong, authoritarian, firefighters use brute strength (in idealised form) to smash their way through to get to your pussy and save you. Police officers require obedience or you are subject to their will and power. Soldiers have balls of steel and kill other men, in hand to hand combat if necessary.

• Rape fantasies.

Typically referred to as "Ravishment fantasies" by the more politically correct. The idea of a powerfulwealthy stud who could pick anyone, but lost control in your presence and just had to have you. The idea of forced sex plays into pure submission and overwhelming force, it fringes on why girls like being physically picked up and moved about, being pushed against a wall and/or being kissed whilst having a hand on their head/neck or hair pulling (these are the easiest ways to exert natural physical control over another animal).

• Horror films.

Not much to say here, horror films excite and thrill, this can often be translated into getting her horny since the blood is high from all that stabbing and throttling. Especially if it's a guy doing it to girls one by one.

So what are you supposed to do if you're not a tall dark stranger, not a man in uniform and not a rapist?

You have to intertwine the sensation of intimidation through the fight or flight response, a tinge of fear into the medium of the message in how you are communicating. This doesn't mean you are trying to do it to every girl you come across in every situation this is pretty nuanced social stuff and if you're not sure how and where to do this, start off very gently and build up on it.

Example 1

Walking in the park with plate - it's an overcast day and so there's not that many people around... Interlock fingers with her and lead her into a quietish corner but still fully open and accessible to the public. Turn her round by the hips and pull her into my personal space.

Start unbuttoning her trousers - grabs my hands and says:

"No we can't there's too many people"

"I don't care I want my woman"

She leaves her hands on mine but allows me to keep going.

This isn't a good idea.

"Turn around" - she does.

Doggy sex with clothes on ensues, hair pulling, skin all up the side of her neck and chest has gone red - she's soaking.

Afterwards...

Why did you do that?

"Do what?"

You know what!

"I have no idea what you're talking about"

Yeah but it was really weird, when you undid me I was just immediately wet and didn't care, even if we got caught.

"I'm thirsty lets go get a drink"

You never talk about stuff...

"What stuff?" Grin

Example 2

Cute girl HB8 behind counter at cinema serving popcorn and ice cream on her own. She seems flummoxed and she's obviously concentrating too much on the til, she must be new - let's fuck with her.

"2 scoops of your banana ice cream please"

Which erm flavour?

"Just banana"

Looks at me sideways Okay... Looks at the selection of ice creams, starts getting anxious because there's like 6 different banana flavours Soooooo is it banana and almond you want?

"In a dead tone Lisa (name badge) I know you can't be very smart since you're working at a cinema but I just want banana - it's.... there points"

She's going bright red and looking equal parts giggly and equal part worried at the conversation. She flashes her eyes up when I said she cannot be very smart - see's i'm not being THAT serious and mutters "shut up" under her breath and tries to hide a smile.

I've only been working here for two days and I'v

"Well you're not going to make it to three days at this rate are you?"

You're probably the meanest person I've spoken to here.

"For asking for ice cream? Why am I even still stood here waiting for it I'll have died by the time you put that other scoop on - should I come round there and show you how it's done? I'd like you to get your manager please"

Scared look You're not really that mean I'm nearly done do you... really want me to get my manager?

"When do you get off work?"

Huh?

"When... do you get off work?"

Slowly broadening grin 22:30 ... why?

"Because you're buying me a drink to say sorry for this abysmal service - I think that's more than fair"

!!! Erm Ok? - Great!

Walked around the corner and she was just looking down beaming a huge smile into her chest.

Example 3

House party, I'm going upstairs to use the toilet, some girl shrieks that she needs the toilet too and runs up the stairs behind me.

Pleeaaaaaaaaaase let me go for a wee first Im dying.

"No"

What? That's not very gentlemanly.

"I was here first, I'm going to pee first - you can wait outside or you can go and piss in the garden"

... Are you serious?!

"Yup, the only way you're getting in there first is by chopping me a line of blow whilst I piss but you can't stare at my dick whilst you do it - don't be a creep"

Oh I've never chopped up a line before.

"Well you'd better not fuck it up - get in there"

Erm... Nervous

"Ah fuck it" - go to the bathroom and lock her out.

Please let me in!

"Fuck off".

I'll chop your coke, I'll try my best.

"You can suck my dick".

............. hushed tones Okay.

Lessons Learned

Gina tingles is a commonly used term here but not often explored on what that actually is, it's elevating her physiology into one of nervousness and then introducing sexual conflict as a topic for her imagination after the fact. Too many people attempt escalation without getting her body on board with the idea first - this is a much harder task to pull off and is fighting against the grain.