Summary

Every single bad thing that happened to adult you, was your fault. And there’s freedom in acknowledging it.

Body

I’m bringing up some basic shit and I’m perfectly aware of this. However, recently more and more people here bring up problems that basically stem to one simple idea behind this post. Let’s go.

I probably browse asktrp, relationships, foreveralone and similar subreddits more than I should. I like to observe people and every now and then throw in my two cents, but more often than not, I could simply tell these people “it’s all your fault”. And more often than not, I’d be right. Foreveralonish neckbeards with tfw when no gf, guys who never managed to f-close a girl on a date and get served fake phone numbers, people who get pushed into submission by their abusive partners, beta orbiters, beta providers, omegas with no self-esteem, they usually share two things in common:

  • their misery is only their fault
  • they fail to acknowledge that fact

Classical blue-pill conditioning tells Smurfs to whiten themselves by shifting blame onto others. Smurfs are so full of themselves, they’ll never acknowledge the fact that they did something wrong. Even if they’re beta foreveraloners, who tell everyone how faulty they are, it’s “I am faulty”, as in “I was born this way”, thus “I am helpless in my miserable situation”. It might be done in order to stay miserable (and in their comfort zone) instead of taking matters in their own hands. If it isn’t their mistake, what can they do about it? Nothing. They don’t have to work out, learn new skills, confront their social anxiety. They were born this way, feminists made them miserable, all women are like that and they’re just poor, helpless kittens.

Man should never blame another man for his own misery. Progressing emasculation of the society by the hand of Third Wave Radical Feminists won’t change the fact, that whenever you’re unhappy, it’s your fault.

See, “Tfw when no gf” is often “that feeling when no girl wants to date obese guys with no skills to support a family in future and whose hobbies are watching chinese cartoons and fucking a fleshlight-fitted figurine of Rainbow Dash” or sick idea that your partner should provide motherly love for you and become caretaker. Guys can’t f-close girls, because they’re boring, unkempt, wearing poorly fit clothes and they pedestalize women so much, they can’t even approach them in bars. People stay in abusive relationships because they fail to understand that time they’ve invested is lost and they’re clinging to memory of what their relationship used to be. More often than not, they’re not even trying to actively fix things, and if they do - they do it wrong. And so on, so on.

Whenever something bad happens to you, it’s your fault. You live unhappy live whenever you neglect to acknowledge your needs or talk about them with your partner. It’s you who’s deciding to procrastinate instead of focusing on your personal development and thus never becomes more interesting or skillful person. It’s you who gives away your own freedom. Only you are responsible for your own life and making sure it blooms. Other people have their own agendas, their own needs, dreams and goals in live. Whenever their and your paths to happiness intertwine, you’re allowed to share that happiness.

Of course, sometimes people are forced into bad situations: they might have debts or alimonies to pay, their ex’s friends might want to stab them from behind or their psycho exes breaking in their houses and destroying their belongings. It’s still their fault, they didn’t prepare for worst and didn’t set up any failsafes. Whenever some guys rob you in a dark alley, it’s not their fault. It’s their doing, but it’s you who failed to prevent that situation (by lifting more, learning martial arts, carrying a gun, or maybe simply not going down that dark alley alone).

More often than not, people tend to shift blame on others, in order to escape that burning feeling of failure. Deep down, they understand that they fucked up and start feeling the urge to blame someone else. Just to make sure they’re not the ones to blame. “It’s not my fault, she was abusing me”, someone might say for example. To which one can always respond with “well, it seems you knew what was wrong in your relationship, then what did you do to prevent, or later to exit that situation?” And these people will start looking for excuses for simply not deciding to end their relationship.

To do this, to shift blame onto others, means to cede the power of choice onto others.

But if something doesn’t go your way and instead of blaming other people for “not doing things that are best for me” (which is really stupid thing to say if you’re an adult, everyone has their own agenda), you acknowledge the fact that it’s you who didn’t manage to get your own share, you’re free to correct these mistakes and find your own happiness.

Conclusion

  • Classical bluepill conditioning tells you to “whiten” yourself by shifting blame onto others.
  • However, since everyone has their own agenda, it’s up to you to get your own share of happiness.
  • If you fail to do so, it’s only your fault.
  • If you accept it, you’re free to correct it.