I've been helping men in /r/deadbedrooms. These posts make me disappointed in how society has failed to teach men.

gekkozorz · 2014-08-01T20:47:45+00:00

It's funny because he's playing right into hypergamy. Like an obedient little lemming.

In an "ideal" feminist society, low-value men wouldn't even have libidos. They'd just lay down and accept that they are not womens' favorite sexual playthings, and would silence their sexualities accordingly. I'm not saying they MGTOW - they wouldn't stop providing or being life partners to single moms and post-wallers. But they would stop trying to bang them.

Meanwhile, the studly alpha 20%ers at the top of the sexual food chain would keep fucking their way through womens' ranks like crazed baboons.

It's why you see so many Jizzabel articles about approach-shaming. If you don't have game automatically, you don't deserve the company of women. You shouldn't be trying to approach them in bars or clubs. They're here to ride the carousel, and if you aren't the carousel, GTFO and wait your turn.

It's why women are constantly trying to shut down male spaces such as PUA and TRP that seek to teach men game. Non-sexual men shouldn't be learning how to become alphas. That's a job for the actual alphas. Betas shouldn't be trying to climb the ranks, they should be accepting their place at the bottom.

It's also why we keep seeing this "men are not entitled to sex from women" catchphrase being used. If a husband is frustrated that his wife refuses to put out for months on end, he's not supposed to complain that there's something wrong with this marriage. He's supposed to just sigh, update his spreadsheet, and keep on paying the bux.

Basically, women would just prefer that beta males just not have any sexuality whatsoever. They exist for companionship and provider status only.

By willfully chopping off his own balls, this guy is giving the feminist imperative exactly what it wants.

Magnum256 · 2014-08-01T18:10:51+00:00

That actually hurt to read. Dude would rather figuratively cut his dick off than lose his frigid wife.

This guy's already too far gone.

mordanus · 2014-08-01T19:39:09+00:00

I have actually been in that exact situation. I'm a married guy and for about 12 years of my 13 year marriage I have been in a dead bedroom. If you guys haven't been there you have no idea how lonely and depressing it really is. The one person that you have chosen to spend your life with refuses to love you and you get to sit there try to fix it endlessly. I finally found trp and found out what I was doing wrong and how to actually fix it. I went through a lot of hell with my wife with the constant shit tests as I changed into a new me but life is better now.

busior · 2014-08-01T18:22:41+00:00

I loled at idiots suggesting running and working out to wear him down. You can tell the people don't exercise at all

99639 · 2014-08-01T17:58:51+00:00

Take drugs because your wife doesn't desire you? What the fuck. I'm against medication in general but this is extra sick.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-08-01T20:37:52+00:00

My wife suggested I take something to lower my testosterone several years ago. Blue-pill me seriously considered it. Red-pill me cannot even believe I was so stupid.

Why does the MAN have to LOWER his drive. Why doesn't the WOMAN have to RAISE her drive? Also, why don't more men tell their wives (lovingly) that if they cannot satisfy him then they will be supplementing.... Women have absolute power to deny, titillate, punish and reward. Men have only 1 power- our commitment. More men need to use it and many will find their wives actually enjoy sex with them after all.

spicy_fries · 2014-08-02T01:08:18+00:00

r/deadbedrooms is the inevitable result of when bitch betas meet up with ex-alpha widow women in a post-modern society. I'm surprised it's not a sub with like 500,000 Americans, just looking around at the couples I see in America.

spicy_fries · 2014-08-01T22:43:03+00:00

You cannot help these men. They are the damned.

I used to be one of them until I snapped and shot my "give-a-fuck about monogamy" in the head.

I was at marriage counseling and I said (in a fit of rage) "there is an entire city of pussy right out those doors!"

I stopped, thought about it, and left. (Dread game: MAXIMUM LEVEL)

I look back at what a pathetic bitch I was and I just shake my head. Now, she tells the "my husband won't fuck me" stories to her friends (who feel the need to tell me), but I'm too busy working on myself. I read more. I run more. I'm better dressed,I'm better at flirting.

I just regret the years I wasted being blue pill thinking that it would make her attracted to me, if I only just tried harder to prove i loved her^TM.

MasonJarTeaDrinker · 2014-08-01T18:54:14+00:00

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MUTHAFATHAGENTLEMAN · 2014-08-01T23:13:11+00:00

Reading this makes me so depressed and yet simultaneously glad that I have avoided this snare by being a loveless loser for so many years.

TheIronViking · 2014-08-01T22:01:35+00:00

Holy fuck is this real life? I can't imagine chemically sabotaging a part of myself in order to "fit" my wife's lifestyle. That's beyond beta, that's insanity. I can see taking meds for depression or anxiety to help with smoothing out a relationship, but sex drive is not a "problem" (outside of illegal shit.)

spicy_fries · 2014-08-01T19:44:46+00:00

There is no way this is fucking real. This guy has hit the depressed sarcasm mode.

But then these same dudes go along with polyamory con...

...so I don't know. Maybe I shouldn't be so quick to disbelieve.

manwhy · 2014-08-01T20:48:58+00:00

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Andress1 · 2014-08-02T00:15:17+00:00

I always had pretty much non existing libido because i abused porn and masturbation too much.When i quitted both i had extreme urges and libido.That feeling is GODLY.Never felt better in my entire life.I wonder what king of male would want to get rid of it.

DoesNotMatterAnymore · 2014-08-02T08:57:20+00:00

I remember the story when wifey got fat, so fat she didn't passed hubby's "boner test". So the bitch forced him to take viagra. whaaaaa.... Losing weight, get sexy again? Nah... that's too much work, just take the Blue Pill. Ironic color choice.

DasWood · 2014-08-02T17:02:32+00:00

What are you going to do? Force men, who were raised by single mothers who indoctrinated "just be a nice guy" into them from time of birth, to abandon a core part of their being?

This is why for the vast majority the first step to TRP is so painful. Learning they were lied to their entire life and knowing they must eject a core part of their being. It is also a step they must themselves take. You can't force them to do it and if you try force someone to unplug it will just steel their resolve.

Kalepsis · 2014-08-02T10:10:47+00:00

What he needs to do is cheat.

Title	I've been helping men in /r/deadbedrooms. These posts make me disappointed in how society has failed to teach men.
Author	MUTHAFATHAGENTLEMAN
Upvotes	64
Comments	71
Date	August 1, 2014 5:28 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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