TL:DR

Coworker for the past year has been bitching about how his wife doesn't do a single thing around the house, leaving him to do all the work and raise his children. Wife comes out on Thanksgiving that she hasn't love him for months now and a look at her social media reveals she was on the search for Alpha Chad.

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My coworker spoke about his past and his girlfriend, constantly arguing and the split up because she was bored of him. They both slept around with others but found that they "cared" for each other enough to get back together. Had I known this then, I would have told him she wanted to sleep around, he was the beta buck. She ends up getting pregnant by him, raised their child, got pregnant again and continued to live with each other till he decided to marry her. I would have told him this is not something he should be pursuing had I known her history.

This past year, he tells me he is constantly doing the chores, raising his children, feeding them, watching them on his day off while she taps away at her phone. On Facebook, Pinterest, playing Call of Duty and not doing a single chore but watch the children on his work days only to find out, she lets them run around the house, make a mess while she sits in the bedroom watching movies.

I tell him he needs to cut out the pleasures she has, quit rewarding her and to check out the site, learn every damn bit of wisdom there is. He makes excuses. He talks about how it's the different meds she is taking, how she'll listen to her psychiatrist and change, how she'll say she can't do whatever because she has arthritis in her wrists. But he did his chores like a good beta (even though he thought he was an alpha because he had sex compared to the young men at work who were still virgins). He wasn't improving himself. He would get high, play Madden. He was happy wasting away with distractions.

He talks about his bedroom being dead for over a year. He had sex about 2 months ago and it was a shitty five minute quickie. I told him then, if you aren't making her happy in bed, she is probably looking somewhere else.

Eventually, I got to him by asking if he is happy in his life and does she do anything in it to make it even better. All she was doing was stringing him along like a puppy. He gave her everything and would be happy with only scraps of love. There are millions of other women out there that could offer him ten times more what she was. You could see the anger building up in him. She had no respect for him.

But he figured he would be able to make her change because he had decided early in life that the woman he married would be the one he would stay with forever. If I could have physically punched some sense into him, I would have. But I told him: Men are the romantics. He could fully love her but she would never fully love him and would always looks to trade up if she didn't respect him.

Thanksgiving day, all hell broke loose and they had a fight. She tells him she hasn't loved him for months now and wants a divorce. He goes through the stages but I'm there to help him confront that he needs to drop her and move on for himself and his children.

I pointed him towards the Dad's Divorce Forum's The List. He was at war and had to prepare not to be fucked over. He reads it but still continues to call her, trying to bargain with her, telling her they need to figure it all out, go to therapy, blah blah blah, beta being a beta.

He then looks at her Twitter account. This woman has her Instagram link, her Snapchat link and is talking to other men, getting those likes and favorites from oribiters. God knows what she sends on Snapchat. Not a single mention of being married. He gets pissed. He calls her up and blows up about why she is doing this. She says it's nothing at all. AWALT and see no wrong in what they do!

I point him again to TRP and tell him, "Become the best damn man he could possibly be. Quit Facebook. Find a lawyer. Hit the Gym. Get rid of the little wasteful habits and make her realize he was the fucking prize." Start Monk Mode. Increase his SMV and she'll cry when she can't find an Alpha that will take her baggage.

It still hasn't hit him. He figures he'll buy an Xbox One. He'll buy her a jersey from her favorite band but say it was from the kids for Christmas. I can't help him. This man is beyond beta and won't realize it till she has completely fucked him over.

I can only hope the young men who are virgins at work see what has happened to this coworker and learn.

Lessons Learned

  • Hypergamy and Solipsism: If you aren't commanding her respect, she is going to look for somebody else and will find a way to justify it for her own needs.
  • If your bedroom is dead, she certainly is looking for another dick.
  • Quit the pointless dopamine hits. Cut out the video games, the drugs, etc. Improve who you are every fucking day. A woman is a reflection of yourself. Be a piece of shit, you'll only attract flies.
  • Betas will always be betas till they finally swallow the red pill.