Boys Night Out

I live a very monastic lifestyle, so I rarely go out to bars or nightclubs as doing so is not aligned with my goals or congruent with my nature as a person. However, on New Year's Eve, I decided to go out for the first time since August of 2023 to hangout with a friend I'm unable to spend much time with anymore due to conflicting schedules (I was also very horny).

I called him to discuss logistics, and he informed me that a woman he is dating and her roommate would be joining us. He then told me that he described me as a “buff black guy” when they asked what I looked like. While I appreciated the gesture, I wasn’t entirely sure of how skilled he was with women, so once he came to my place to pick me up, we discussed ground rules and wingman basics to ensure that he would not do anything to jeopardize my success that night. He acquiesced, and we departed to the venue.

We arrived at the parking garage and intercepted the women as we were walking to the entrance. They weren't particularly attractive (maybe 6/10), but they looked good enough (I primarily just wanted to use these women to convey pre-selection in order to more easily seduce hotter women in the bar). We greeted both women with hugs, and I could immediately tell that my friend’s girl’s roommate was physically attracted to me.

They mentioned checking out another event in the area, but I told them that it was a lame function for families, and that the bar we were going to was more our speed. They gladly complied, I told the chicks to follow us, and we began walking to the bar.

I immediately took the lead, and we broke off into two groups: I'm walking with my chick, and my boy’s a few feet behind with his girl. Now, keep in mind, I've known this woman for 15 seconds and she’s already left her friend behind and is blindly following my lead. The reasons for this are threefold: firstly, she was very physically attracted to me, secondly, there is implied safety and trust because I am associated with my friend who (as far as they are concerned) is a trustworthy guy, and lastly, because my decisiveness and assertiveness turned her on when I described the plan.

Playful and Fun Conversations

While walking to the venue, I immediately began the seductive process by making playful and fun conversation. She looked like she was half Mexican and half white, so I asked “What are you?” She told me she was Cuban, and I responded by saying “You look like you’ve been spat on.” She instantly laughed, and I then asked her if Cubans celebrate Thanksgiving. She said “yes”, and I then asked if they make normal American food, or if they do their own thing and eat tamales, or whatever. She then proceeded to talk about what assortments of food various family members contribute to the holiday feast.

Everyone always asks me to elaborate on how to make conversations playful and fun with women despite writing a comprehensive guide on doing just that. Ultimately, you can’t be boring or predictable, and you have to ask questions you genuinely have from being present in the conversation and listening. I was genuinely curious if Cubans made turkeys or not on Thanksgiving day, and my comment about her looking like she “was spat on” was definitely bold and risky, but I could gauge that she would find it funny and not take offense to it like an insane social justice warrior would. And, more importantly, women love indifference. They want a guy who doesn’t behave in a specific way in order to appease women, and I demonstrated just that with that joke. Don’t interpret this as me suggesting you should go around behaving like an asshole, just never be afraid to behave in a certain way because of how a woman may respond, as it’s unattractive and feminine behavior.

My Friend is a Moron

We arrived at the bar, and the line to get inside was half the length of a football field. No big deal, this was just an opportunity for us to build more attraction with the girls. After joking around and flirting, my girl remarked “I bet you guys are dating so many girls. What number are we?” And it was at this moment, my friend confirmed that, without a shadow of a doubt, he is in fact, a moron.

Before I could retort, my friend brilliantly decided to inform these women that we actually regularly face rejection and ghosting from women on dating apps (I normally never get ghosted, but flaking does occur). He outright began whining about how women ghost guys like us, how they flake after agreeing to scheduled dates, and how most women that he matches with either don’t respond to his messages, or take incredibly long times to respond. Essentially, he described how women behave with men they aren’t interested in on dating apps in front of women who have presumably performed these behaviors countless times.

If you possess an inkling of understanding about female nature, you probably guessed that everything went downhill from here, and you would be absolutely correct. I physically witnessed confusion arise in both women’s eyes, and observed their demeanor transform to that of less comfort. In hindsight, there were definitely ways I could have flipped the interaction around in our favor, but I was too utterly dumbfounded to do so, because I couldn’t believe my friend would say something so naïve. I wasn’t reactive or emotional, but my presence during the conversation dissipated until we entered the bar from being in such profound disbelief. Eventually, we entered the bar, and I executed my plan of using our girls for social proof and approached other women.

Women Want Men other Women Want

Here’s the deal: women want men other women want. If a woman ever alludes to you dating other women, or calls you a player, do not, under any circumstances, confirm otherwise. Preselection (men being desired by other women) is one of the biggest attraction triggers for women, as it reaffirms they made the right decision when selecting a partner.

In order for a woman to genuinely desire you, she has to have anxiety about losing you. That is, women have to feel as though you are so valuable that they must become exclusive with you before losing you to a woman who is better than herself. If you disclose that you aren’t dating other women, that you are rejected regularly, or that you have been ghosted after going on dates (essentially, if you say anything that conveys not being yearned for by other women) women will have far less anxiety about losing you since you have directly conveyed that you are not as valuable as she thought.

A woman’s imagination is one of the greatest tools available for building attraction. They need to be wondering what you are doing when you are not with them, why you are not always available to hang out, and questioning if you are dating other women who are better than them.

For my more honorable and virtuous readers, don’t interpret this as having to lie to women for them to be more attracted to you. Instead, you should approach this from the frame of possessing a better understanding of female nature and attraction triggers, and using this to your advantage when pursuing romantic interests. I too wish that women could love me unconditionally in spite of my flaws like my mother does, and not be more attracted to me because of my muscles, six pack, and numerous other accomplishments, but unfortunately that’s not the case.

So, when women do allude to you dating or being desired by other women, don’t necessarily lie to them, but answer in a way that is intentionally vague and playful. Again, the worst thing you can do is outright deny dating or being sought after by other women.

Techniques for Handling Accusations

One method I use when women accuse me of dating other women is agree and amplify. This is when you agree to a (normally negative) claim in a way that is exaggerated and funny. In order to master this, your retort must be ambiguous, yet still potentially believable despite being funny and exaggerated. Basically, they should be laughing at your response, but still uncertain of your sincerity.

I was on a date with a woman a few months ago, and she said “You’re very attractive. I bet you’re dating lots of women.” I responded by saying “I have six girlfriends, and I'm actually looking for a seventh so I can have one for every day of the week.” When agreeing that you get other women, you should not respond in a way that is very serious or completely literal, as women do not want to feel like they are just another girl on the roster. Had I said what I said in a serious tone with a deadpan face, she would have thought I was a dork who was trying hard to impress her.

Additionally, you can also just agree in a way that is playful, fun, and vague. I drove a woman home after she stayed the night, walked her to her front door, and kissed her goodbye. After doing so, I told her “Don’t go talking to other guys.” she replied with “I’m not talking to anyone else, are you talking to anyone else?” to which I responded “None of them have anything on you.” (this was a complete lie, by the way, she was trash). My response was playful, fun, and provided her with an ambiguous number of other women I was seeing. Remember, a woman’s imagination is one of your greatest tools for building attraction.

Never Discuss Your Dating Life

While you should never deny being desired by other women, you should also never reveal the actual number of women you are dating, as doing so is rude and comes across as insincere. Guys who are successful at something don’t talk about how great they are – everyone else does it for them. Bragging about the obvious just makes them arrogant.

Don’t tell the woman you’re on a date with the amount of dates you’ve been on in the past month, or the current amount of women on the roster. Doing so will make it seem like you are trying to impress her and is blatantly disrespectful. Just imagine being on a date with a girl and listening to her talk about the other men she’s dating. It would most likely make you feel insignificant and unimportant, and that’s how a woman would feel if you did the same.

If a woman perceives you as valuable, do not open your mouth and confirm otherwise. If you are ever confused about how to respond to a woman, just literally shut your mouth and stop talking. Do not shoot yourself in the foot and ruin the fantasy she’s crafted of you in her head.

I understand that many of you wish that having to build attraction with a woman wasn’t this way, and that you could be completely honest with them and fully disclose your feelings, but that’s not the reality we live in. Instead, you should accept female nature for what it is, and use it to your advantage to attract more women. Or you can reject it, obtain mediocre results, and let guys like me date the majority of women. Your call.

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