Backstory here: http://redditlog.com/snapshots/1016077. To summarize: 5 years married, discovered redpill/manosphere last year, used it to turn my marriage around.

Over the past few weeks I let myself get too comfortable, and started backsliding into some of my old beta ways. Not taking charge, sitting back and letting her lead, saying the "nice" thing instead of the honest one. I was still getting sex, but it had started tapering off. I was thinking that I could coast a little, see if the changes over the past year had stuck and she was on her way to being more of a RPW.

NOPE. The realization smacked me in the head when for the first time in months she gave me some LMR. As I was undoing her bra.

"You don't woo me before we have sex anymore", she said. "You don't make we want to fuck you." (remember, this just after I undid her bra.) Caught me so off guard I let my frame slip, and instead of agreeing and amplifying or pressure flipping I just said, "what you mean?" She starts talking about wanting me to do more romantic stuff for her, and I told her when I did romantic shit back in the beta period of the marriage, she'd barely want to fuck me.

I realized right then that I had let her bait me into a bullshit argument, which snapped me back to "alpha" mode. I stopped myself mid-sentence, said "you don't wanna fuck, cool. G'night!", gave her the biggest shit-eating grin, kissed her on the cheek and rolled over to go to sleep.

That set off the dread alarm in her head, because about a minute later I feel her hand going around the front of my boxers. "You don't wanna fuck me anymore?" "Nope, my wooing hours are from 9 to 5. Please try again tomorrow." So she mounts the side of my leg and starts pulling my underwear down. At this point I'm amused at how quick her attitude changed, so I clowned her a little, "but you don't woo me anymore". Then I grabbed her by the back of the neck and pulled her in close to kiss her, at which point she looks like she's about to cum on herself. Then I fucked the shit out of her, and she made me breakfast the next morning.

Let this serve as a reminder for you married guys and guys in LTRs. Get too comfortable and complacent for too long, and let yourself slip into your old beta ways, and it will be like you never learned TRP. You'll go back to the same bullshit arguments and shit-tests you did before you got here.

Relationships are called "TRP on hard mode" for multiple reasons, and one of them is that you have to maintain the alpha. You can't let yourself get comfortable and think that you've made some headway and you can let off the gas, especially if the woman you're with isn't already RP in some way. You can let a little beta in, but keep it at a low ratio. I'm talking 90/10, 80/20 at the max.

And always, always maintain your frame.

EDIT: also, dread game, dread game, DREAD GAME. It comes through in the clutch.