LTRs on EASY mode

wallpunchist · 2016-12-30T12:48:46+00:00

There's a trap here easy to fall for.

Good LTR should not require hard work, yes. But you yourself do require hard work. One should never mix up working "on a relationship" with working on yourself to become not only best self, but also able to even form a lasting LTR.

Because I've seen bluepills failing to grasp what LTR even is and how it works (myself included), who probably should've read NMMNG in high school as required literature.

And I've seen redpills failing to discern LTR from spinning a single plate and either getting oneitis or overdreading and destroyin the relationship. Usually both.

samenrofringslikeLBJ · 2016-12-30T15:12:58+00:00

I had a 9 year LTR with a solid 8. What I learned:

Sex is a good indicator of your relationship health. When sex seems forced things are starting going downhill.
Don't display weak emotions - insecurities, indecision, excessive jealousy. It's ok to show that you like her. The secret is showing you WANT her not that you NEED her.
Never stop going out with your friends. One major mistake I see many guys doing is stop going out with your friends as soon you have a girlfriend. This is a huge mistake on many levels. First you lose your friends, second a social guy is very attractive and third you'll be even more needy!
If you've an attractive girlfriend many guys will hit on her. Just deal with it it's life and many of these guys will be attractive.
Never stop working in yourself! This accomplish two things: You'll be attractive for her and you'll be ready if your LTR collapses.

TyrannyVengeance · 2016-12-30T14:31:16+00:00

I would second this, but also add don't commit too early until you've done some very good vetting. I was once in an LTR with this being the defining requirement. It should be easy. And it was. No fights no worries. Then one day she says she's going to a concert, and did I want to go. I didn't care for the band, she came out of the room wearing a corset. Now at this point she was already rooming with me. I didn't get angry, I told her to have fun. I ended the relationship that weekend. Had I vetted better before such a large commitment I could have saved us both trouble. This was completely my fault. You can't make a ho a housewife.

I didn't want an LTR with a skank who would go out without me in her underwear. Some red flags tell the whole story.

StillHigh09 · 2016-12-30T14:41:17+00:00

A happy LTR doesnt need much - abundance mentality and IDGAF attitude used in a proper way. I was in some LTRs which I remember as good and easy. All I really did was fucking them rough and being able to walk away at any moment and they loved it. They cooked,cleaned,didn't bitch when I was going out with my friends. Not that I treated them wrong(only sometimes),just had my own life and having a chance to take part in it was their reward for being good to me.

THEMANWHOWASRIGHT · 2016-12-30T13:07:42+00:00

Best LTR I had lasted 9 months, which is about as long as they ever did. Never shit tested, or if I was I passed them all without noticing. Distance took its toll eventually - had it not something else would have.

It was both easy and healthy, and lasted as long as it was meant to. This is the mindset I had when I entered and left it, and the one that allowed it to blossom into what it became.

I grant commitment in exchange for ease in companionship - I am upfront about what I am and make it clear that this is what they're getting - if they want something else, they're welcome to leave.

redpillschool · 2016-12-30T19:19:17+00:00

Not terribly useful advice. If you quit when the going gets hard, then every LTR you've ever been in will have been easy.

So, most people reading will still wonder, how do you make it easy? How do you determine who would be easy in a LTR? What variables are at play?

You've got a good introduction, but it's devoid of usable information.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-12-30T16:17:24+00:00

Don't ask for an easier world, but for stronger shoulders to hold it.

Theres a nuance, if you're on point, it's easy, but like anything, no one notices the work it takes to make life easy.

bhouse114 · 2016-12-30T16:12:52+00:00

I agree 100%. I am very trigger happy to end any sort of relationship if it gets hard

Hakametal · 2016-12-30T19:29:27+00:00

Any advice for texting/online communication in an LTR?

I'm away for 2 weeks because of the university holidays, but I'm finding it hard to gauge when/how often to text or call her. I'm usually a radio silence type of guy but I'm fairly new to the whole LTR business. Cheers.

Title	LTRs on EASY mode
Author	88Will88
Upvotes	65
Comments	27
Date	December 30, 2016 12:16 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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