My relationship before TRP

abdada · 2016-05-04T13:21:54+00:00

She only talks to you means you give her too much time. Dread game.

She won't sleep with you because she knows you're always available (boring). Dread game.

She genuinely likes spending time with you -- what do you do together when you are together?

Dread game, more dread = more sex = more displays of love.

yaysmr · 2016-05-04T14:14:38+00:00

I'm an emotionally mature guy and have been very good to her, and she knows that and loves me for it...but I honestly just wanted a bitch to fuck and take to prom because my first 3 years of high school have been consumed with weed and gaming.

Simple question: would you be able to walk away from the relationship and having almost NO emotional attachment left?

I mean, literally walking up to her, saying 'we're through, pack your shit and get out' out of the blue, and not having to choke back tears? If you hesitate for all but a second, then NO, you are not 'emotionally mature.' You're stable, but your stability is conditioned on having your self-worth or whatever validated by the apparent affections of this woman.

And if that is the case, she senses that. She knows that she has your commitment due to your emotional investment alone, and the fear of the pain of losing her keeps you around without sex. Maybe she genuinely likes that about you. But at this point you are sacrificing your own happiness for hers. And here's the key:

TRP is ABOUT putting your own happiness first. That is why you should adopt it. It gives you the tools to become happy and to achieve YOUR goals and not subordinate them to others who don't have your interests in mind.

Here's what I'd do. Tell her that you're going to be incommunicado for one week. Make up whatever excuse you need, but say that you have to be by yourself and have no contact with her for 7 straight days.

If she comes to your house, starts blowing up your cell phone, offers to take you out to eat or something... YOU MUST SHUT THAT DOWN. If you lack the strength for that then you're not 'emotionally mature.'

After you shut her down once or twice in this manner, there are two extremes that may result:

1) She goes out and fucks some rando (or, more likely, her ex) in some attempt to grab your attention or make you angry. If you get angry at this, then you are not 'emotionally mature.' TRP will teach you that all women are like that and you can understand WHY she did it.

If that happens, she's not worth your time. She's a slut, but not for you.

2) She shows up at your door in a sexy outfit or sends you some nude photos and all but begs you to stick it in her. This is her last-ditch effort to keep you around. If she does that, then accept it, and REALIZE that she is using this to trick you back into commitment. It is ONLY because you were willing to walk away (and she sensed that) that she gave it up. Again, TRP will show you that AWALT.

It is also possible that the week goes by and literally nothing happens and you go back to normal. But if your claim that you are the only person she talks to is accurate, then having you go silent will drive her crazy and she will HAVE to act to resolve that.

Women work on emotions. Right now you are not evoking many emotions, much less positive ones. Shutting her out for a while will cause her to go crazy trying to figure out why and trying to get your attention again.

All of this is going to depend largely on how much sexual market value you have. If you 'wasted' most of your high school years on Weed and Video games, then I can't imagine it is that high.

TRP will ALSO help you increase your status so that you can easily fuck more and better women.

Jerkboy13 · 2016-05-04T14:12:13+00:00

No one can "convince" you of red pill. You have to read it, set your ego aside, and see that it's correct. Start by reading lots of sidebar material. It seems like alpha fucks/beta bucks might be a great place to start given your GF's past and current sexual behavior.

SkorchZang · 2016-05-05T00:44:13+00:00

You don't have all day to sit around reading about the subtleties of TRP, best thing you can do is look up "The Sixteen Commandments of Poon" from Heartiste:

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

It's very distilled, right to the point, and will get you thinking about the big picture as this shit sinks in. You apply it, immediately see results, apply some more etc. As a bonus, it's pure poison to your so-called old blue pill self, and it will buck like crazy and make you doubt yourself as you figure it out, exactly what makes a woman tick, and what you need to do.

The way the GF is currently treating you is depressing (you're not alone, it's the same story with every dude who isn't doing what he needs to do to make the girl worship him), but the only one you should be angry with about that is your so-called old blue pill self - women will naturally take the shape of the "container" they're currently in. That means she's the girl she thinks she needs to be, to be with you. That's why she was a sex playmate with the "asshole" other boyfriend - she was simply the girl she needed to be, to be with him. It's not personal whatsoever, pure automatism. Doesn't reflect on you as a man, apart from teaching you a good life lesson about how you may want to re-align yourself in future.

[deleted] · 2016-05-05T02:21:21+00:00

You're going to college next year, what better time is their to fuck bitches?

Venenarium · 2016-05-04T15:04:30+00:00

Let me quote the third iron rule of tomassi:

A woman who wants to fuck you will find a way to fuck you. She will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story bedroom window, fuck the shit out of you and wait patiently inside your closet if your wife comes home early from work – women who want to fuck will find a way to fuck. The girl who tells you she needs to be comfortable and wants a relationship first is the same girl who fucked the hot guy in the foam cannon party in Cancun on spring break just half an hour after meeting him.

(here's the whole article)

In other words: in her eyes, you don't have many options beside her, thus your SMV is low. Given the fact that she used to fuck the shit out of her past alpha boyfriend, she can't even make excuses about how she's not a sexual person or how her libido is low.

With all probability, you are dealing with an exemplary case of alpha widow here.

You can either continue your game the way you do, patiently wait for her to throw you some 'good boy' sex here and there and ultimately end it by her fucking some other dude or her past boyfriend. But a better way of dealing with the situation is to improve your SMV by working on yourself; Hit the gym, expand your social circle, fuck other women or just punish your girlfriend by spending less time with her when she fails to satisfy your terms.

The-Ban-Hammer · 2016-05-04T17:21:08+00:00

and may have some attachment problems.

Euphemism for: My ex or that other guy may want me, so I can't say that we're an official couple.

Women proudly show off their guy, unless he's simply a stepping stone or space filler.

She's genuine when she says she loves certain things about me, and also says that she now knows what a relationship should be like and that she loves me for it. She genuinely likes spending time with me and I'm literally one of the only people she talks to outside of school. I know these things for a fact.

You know nothing for a fact, Jon Snow. She's buttering you up to be the best BFF you can be for her. It's cliche for women to say how perfect you would be in a relationship, yet they suck the cum from the opposite of you.

What I don't know is the premise behind the things she says/does. It also pisses me off that she used to fuck her last boyfriend 4-5 times a week for a few months during the summer where her schedule was free, and I've only fucked her 5 times in the past month and a half (she's busy with work and has responsibilities at/outside of home). I mean, 4 times was in her car which blows. That relationship was also based off sex. The reason why I got into a relationship was to have steady sex, and I guess what comes along with it isn't too bad lol.

Words vs. actions. See? She says how perfect you are in so many ways, yet she fucks you almost not-at-all. The frequent and dirty sex she reserves for guys who "deserve" it. You, on the other hand, get the shitty maintenance sex to keep you around, but if she desired you the way she desired the previous guy, she'd find ways to blow you and fuck you in the most awkward of places because she wouldn't want to wait.

I'm an emotionally mature guy and have been very good to her, and she knows that and loves me for it...but I honestly just wanted a bitch to fuck and take to prom because my first 3 years of high school have been consumed with weed and gaming.

You're not emotionally mature. Some guys (and women) aren't emotionally mature until their late 20s or early 30s. You believe you're emotionally mature because teenagers love to believe they are "enlightened" compared to their peers. You're not. Learn that or you'll never grow because of how perfect you already perceive yourself.

I don't know if I should continue being a good guy to my girlfriends in the future, or just fuck random bitches.

A little of both is ok, if you know what you want. Fucking random bitches is fine. Being a good guy to your LTRs is also fine, as long as you don't confuse good guy with "Yes dear, I'll do anything for you. NOW can I have some pussy? Please? Please?"

Tl;dr: Why The Red Pill?

Why not the Red Pill? I have a good idea. Spend the next couple years doing what the "blue pill" world would have you do. Come back and let us know if you are the exception of all human males and have found the exception of all human females... OR, if you realize that RP actually offered truth.

You don't have to be the complete asshole, but ignoring the truths of how to get women will only have you being a very frustrated 30 or 40 something who "played by all the rules and became the kind of guy women said they wanted" and still only got to spank it to hot looking avatars in whatever game you play.

idgaf- · 2016-05-04T17:52:18+00:00

It's just a foreign perspective for me, assuming women particularly in relationships are just looking for personal gain.

but I honestly just wanted a bitch to fuck

From what you write, you are in a relationship for extremely selfish reasons. It should be no surprise that all people including women tend to do this.

It also pisses me off that she used to fuck her last boyfriend 4-5 times a week

You think that's her conscious doing? That's his doing, his leading and escalation. He fucks her, not the other way around.

Title	My relationship before TRP
Author	liam2664
Upvotes	0
Comments	36
Date	May 4, 2016 1:12 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4hue8l/my_relationship_before_trp/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/my-relationship-before-trp.58172 https://theredarchive.com/post/58172

Comments