My relationship is tormenting me

Dadoma · 2017-08-19T20:05:04+00:00

So you obviously need someone to tell you TO LEAVE HER NOW. Ignore her. She's negatively effecting your life. You cannot fix a broken relationship. Whatever value she might give you - sex of whatever is not worth it. You will easily find someone better than her in a couple of months. Just don't contact her at all and don't let her contact you and seduce you with the prospect of sex for another relationship. Masturbate and forget. Self improve. Lift!

Tommy_407 · 2017-08-19T20:43:19+00:00

The fact that you are here is a huge step forward in the right direction by the way you're being honest in your post and realizing whats really going on, and how unhealthy this whole thing is. Needless to say, ghost her

Don't be mean, don't yell at her, don't contact her, just ghost ok? It's gonna be alright.

You have oneitis, and you just need to be alone (single) for a while.

Read the sidebar and start lifting.

UrsusG · 2017-08-19T20:25:17+00:00

Let me get this straight:

You guys go for four weeks without seeing each other?

Not talking for "literally months"?

Dude, it's not a relationship and she's not your gf.

Work_In_Progress92 · 2017-08-19T20:12:41+00:00

"Im not a pussy trust me."

Your other paragraphs contradict this just saying. Dump her and read the sidebar.

urali · 2017-08-19T20:22:16+00:00

Ghost her, and dont let her mentally abuse you, trust me, no matter how hard it will be, it will be worth it.

cloudmax40 · 2017-08-19T23:56:37+00:00

You do not have a real relationship. You are not loved nor respected. Go completely no-contact with her.

Love yourself and talk to other women. You will be absolutely amazed with what the universe brings to you and how many great women are out there who will give you meaningful attention. First you have to love yourself. Take a leap of faith and start there. Everything you think you know now and are experiencing now will go away. You will transcend into a new reality.

rmandan · 2017-08-19T22:36:28+00:00

She called you homie. Ouch.

Crimson-Eyes · 2017-08-19T22:30:39+00:00

Problem is it took me 5 years to find out that she is extremely immature like a child and can be so fucking stupid but yet is so manipulating at the same time.

It didn't "take" you 5 years to realize it, you both were immature teens the whole time, it's just that now you've likely matured above her, which reading how much of a mess she is, its not a high bar to pass.

I did everything wrong, never maintained frame, always tried to please her even when she was bratty, let her walk over me and manipulate me through her female bullshit ways. Ive established a very poor foundation which is why it has been nothing but hell for me and I cant seem to ever change or fix it.

Keep something in mind, just because you "know" the terms doesn't means you understand them. Right now you're repeating terms you were trained to regurgitate at will, I would refrain from using them and instead try to think, what's your personal responsibility in still being those "terms" and what you can do about it to stop it.

Throughout these 5 years Ive been the ultimate Beta pussy.
Im not a pussy trust me

Contradicting yourself mate. First off any guy that has to say "I'm not a pussy" is a pussy, you let your actions speak for yourself.

why can't I just forget about her and move on

Because you have an emotional dependence on her, you think of the "good" times with her, those little things about her that you liked her and she has you on a drip waiting for your next fix. A woman can't be the source of your emotional reassurance and happiness, that comes straight from you.

The first step is cut off contact with this woman, you'll see the other comments say the same, fuck other women, she's currently fucking other men so why should she be in charge of your sex life? Because she is, if you're not getting yours then you're not in control, and trust me, nothing helps forgetting pussy like fucking a dozen others.

I'd love to tell you that the true TRP treats her like shit, fucks her rough when she comes begging for more and fucks her friends too, but you're not there, you have to start from the bottom, actively be more selfish, learn to value yourself and your wants without her in the picture. Once you nail this then you can see if you can start using those RP terms you've been trained to memorize.

aconsolationprize · 2017-08-19T22:41:57+00:00

she replied "next time homie", and I left that shit on read. Its been literally 4 weeks and she hasn't said a thing. If I dont start it then she will literally wait months to message me (if she does), thats if I didnt message her first. I feel like this relationship is a game and a waste of time and I want to be free again.

You are free homie. The only shackles your wear are the ones in your mind.

I think this is gong to be controversial but I'm having my first drink in more than a year, so fuck you I'm drunk but have you considered the slump buster?

Sometimes it really does clear the mind of the first and only girl. I had this kinda happen once. Around five years long, fucked her boss twice her age, really got me. I went monk for 8 months, fucked one hot escort, and went, "fuck it, its just pussy." Man, you are better than this. The first time you drop the next load you will realize that shes not special. And neither is the next one.

Whether it be a HB5 or an escort. My vote is to move the game along artificially and then go back to slaying. Or, something something, it worked for me once.

Sorry if this makes no sense. :) Good luck.

Solipsistic_guy · 2017-08-19T20:20:39+00:00

Dude, my first ever relationship became a 4 year LTR with her cheating and hamstering. You don't deserve this. You're gonna be a freakin electrical engineer with a bright future. Chicks in SF will line up to ride in your mustang and suck your dick.

Your task for now should be to be her daddy. Do things your way. She has to learn her place, if she leaves then so be it. She wasn't strong enough and won't get very far in life anyway. Her future ex-boyfriends are gonna hit you up for drinks and you'll tell them how TRP changed your life.

Man the fuck up

Look_Ma_Im_On_Reddit · 2017-08-19T22:36:44+00:00

If you haven't spoken to her in 4 weeks she is not your girlfriend

CallMeHaseo · 2017-08-19T22:48:12+00:00

Bro pussy really has dudes going nutts out here I know how you feel CUT HER OFF NOW

rcw0001 · 2017-08-19T23:25:54+00:00

Cut ties block and move on use the remainder of your college years to get stronger physically and mentally. Find your purpose and chase it. With dedication to your mission, rigorous exercise, and meditation you'll come out of college and enter the working world like a boss. Focus on improving your self, building power, strength, and wealth. You'll set your self up for a wonderful future and won't even think about your past mistakes. Look ahead not behind and know your life is what you make of it.

SkaTSee · 2017-08-20T00:09:24+00:00

why do you have oneitus over this girl. fucking leave her, she's worthless and devaluing you. let her torment some other guy, who cares

moiststrange · 2017-08-20T02:26:48+00:00

Just got out of a 4 year LTR and what made me completely snap out of it and cut contact and not look back was putting it all out there and hearing her reject me. If you don't think you can resist texting her or whatever, throw everything out there and let her rejection slap you in the face. Yeah, you'll come across as a beta bitch, but you'll have your closure and a nice jolt back to reality. If you wanna be free, go NC. If you can't go NC, force yourself to get rejected by her and move the fuck on. Sometimes you just need to hit rock bottom to reset and grow from it.

Ticktockwolf · 2017-08-20T02:13:41+00:00

Sounds like a common, BPD, Father complex, soul sucking little girl. Get out-Get out. End it coldly so she gets the picture or she'll pull some evil shit to try and get you back or ruin your life.

SkorchZang · 2017-08-20T08:30:32+00:00

She's a good girl. Got your emotions all wrapped like a pretzel, and she knows she has you. The more she torments you, the more she has you.

You need to comprehend this, on your own, without begging her for mercy or explanations or closure. AWALT, this dynamic is something every man goes through and has to understand that giving up your power to a woman "because love" is always going to be the ruin of you. What better way to understand, than experiencing it yourself first-hand, the confusion, the pain, the everything.

It's hard to forget her (and it will continue even if you meet far more attractive chicks than her and they're all over you) because she is holding you by your male ego. It will strenuously refuse to accept that your "relationship" is a failure and that you are a failure. You need to accept it anyhow, because realizing that you ain't shit and not that important, not the center of the universe and you CAN fail - is a big part of genuinely moving on.

2017-08-20T01:40:07+00:00

No matter how much you keep telling yourself that you're not a pussy for keeping her around; You're a pussy.

It's codependency. Seek therapy, not a cult forum.

You are the problem. Relationships don't require consensus. You can exit at any time.

uwey · 2017-08-19T22:46:51+00:00

You got to understand what you really want, not what you currently have. Ignore your option, evaluate your situation, and dig deep for what type of outcome that you wish to achieve, and ignore everything around you but focus on what total image you want to achieve. The easiest step is to mimic someone you really admire and think what would [X] do when he is in your situation.

Move on, and never look back, you will face struggle and only eternal struggle build strong man.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-08-19T23:04:11+00:00

If I dont start it then she will literally wait months to message me (if she does), thats if I didnt message her first. I feel like this relationship is a game and a waste of time and I want to be free again.

Was there a question? You wrote the answer already.

Monsterzz · 2017-08-19T23:16:13+00:00

Why do you care about her so much? What you've said here shows that she cares very very little about you. When American women get older, more guys approach them everywhere and then they get this ego in their head that they are something special. She's definitely one of these girls and trust me as sexy or hot or perfect these girls may be. They've made themselves not worth the time. There's nothing that she can do that any other woman cannot do.

nDFlow · 2017-08-19T23:41:58+00:00

The "next time homie" should be a pretty good indication of her intentions. If shes not prioritizing you, you shouldnt even consider of prioritizing her.

UrbanBanger · 2017-08-19T23:52:03+00:00

Check my posts out. There is one there which will show you what you're in store for if you keep doing what you are doing. (34, divorced, divorce raped, 2 kids and 3k a month in child support)

Next her and hurry the fuck up about it

light-yagamii · 2017-08-20T02:04:57+00:00

You aren't alone. What are suffering from is commonly known as oneitis. Search that in the search bar and read stories by other people. Never put a girl over yourself bro.

-AsadBajwa94 · 2017-08-20T04:42:36+00:00

Im 21 years old in my 3rd year of Electrical Engineering

If you keep yourself fit and hit 35, you'll be swimming in pussy I promise you. My cousin is a software engineer in Silicon Valley, he's not an attractive dude by a long shot. He learned game from some black guy, and his tinder game blew the fuck up. Trust me this phase will pass for you, and then you'll probably laugh looking back at it. Also, she might be cheating on you if she stopped caring man. I would keep an eye on her for any suspicious shit. Cheers

Lauionescu · 2017-08-20T06:59:51+00:00

You don't need anyone to tell you "dump the brat"! You allready know it. From my experience, the easy way to do it is to realise she's not what you want and then burn the bridges! Commit yourself to ghosting the bitch! No phonecalls, no text, no social media stalking! From that moment forward she doesn't exist anymore. It will be hard, you'll do a little bit of stalking here and then, but give it time and you'll forget her!

atlastic1 · 2017-08-20T15:38:18+00:00

she is extremely immature like a child and can be so fucking stupid but yet is so manipulating at the same time.

AWALT.

You let her get away with anything for 5 years, that really fucks up her personality, first step towards fixing her is the first step towards getting yourself free, soft next her.

gradchad · 2017-08-20T03:25:37+00:00

Go fuck 7-8 other girls and then tell us if you still find her special.

Eating-mushrooms · 2017-08-19T23:29:06+00:00

Oneitis sucks doesn't it? You're not happy. You need to block all contact and start to move on. If not you'll be right here next year and the year after. Force yourself to meet other girls, you'll be amazed how many better people are out there. Focus on you and what makes you happy and allow time to donits job. Once you go 100% no contact, no looking at her Facebook or IG or snaps or anything you forget about her pretty quick. Erase it all.

ginjaplz · 2017-08-19T23:30:59+00:00

Screen shot this post and read it daily. Hate these things about you until they go away. Then do whatever you want.

ResistAuthority · 2017-08-20T03:26:03+00:00

More like your too attached to a hook up slut who isn't even nice to you

all4gibs · 2017-08-20T05:06:16+00:00

that's not a relationship

it's been over for a while now. just let her know it's over. no need to elaborate on why

you're only 21. you got a LOT of time to create value and get better girls

mfigueiredo · 2017-08-20T07:07:45+00:00

Seems your misery ended 4 weeks ago and you know it but need someone to agree with you.

Move on and be prepared to reply, one of these days, "next time, homie" and no more answers or accepting calls you don't want to.

Just move on, you don't need validation.

Moobx · 2017-08-20T07:40:40+00:00

Block her and move on. She isn't replying cuz she is with another guy/better option.

Project_Thor · 2017-08-20T08:23:35+00:00

Nah bro, fuck the haters. Go tell her that you're a man down, be bluntly honest and tell her, that you can't forget about her and tell her your feeeeeeeels.

Unless you've got cash, then don't do that.

In that case, obviously come here and get the obvious circle jerk, black sheep, bitching advice. Obviously.

330d · 2017-08-20T09:24:21+00:00

Seems to me you know exactly what you need to do, you just want our confirmation. Affirmative. Drop her ass. Oneitis can be cured by listening to shitload of MGTOW videos - I might be downvoted for saying this, but it helped me accept TRP. Checkout sandman or spetsnaz on youtube, listen the fuck out of them, take the understanding of what women are and you will be cured. Just watch out and don't start hating women like some of these MGTOW dorks, you only want to figure out the causality for their actions, not develop hate. Women are great, I love women. I can't love any single one now, I love them in general, oneitis is gone.

hodltaco · 2017-08-20T09:28:53+00:00

You aren't in a relationship. Despite your history she's a plate. Ghost her.

juliusstreicher · 2017-08-20T11:30:00+00:00

Are you comfortable with a woman that can go without you for at least a month??

ShitBoy_StinkerBomb · 2017-08-20T12:51:31+00:00

yo, i think we had the same GF! lol but seriously i was in the same exact position except i dont study electrical engineering. one day i just decided i was done so i told her it was over. now you think you've seen some freak outs. get ready buddy. dont have anything valuable in your house cause she will probably try to break it lol(at least in my case). but i am so much happier now, so much more free and i feel great. the only problem is i cant talk to girls confidently anymore. all my confidence disappeared. i have no idea why, but i also don't really mind that much, i havent been focused on trying to get any women. i guess i want a fuckin break after the least one

biggerbetterjobs · 2017-08-20T14:36:16+00:00

Dude she probably wants you to go NC on her lol..

EpicLevelCheater · 2017-08-20T16:46:28+00:00

Questions go to askTRP, or our weekly megathread.

dandons · 2017-08-20T02:23:24+00:00

She's been poison - dripping you. If you were the same social butterfly you could potentially cheat on her - she wanted to bring you down to her level.

Wolveryn · 2017-08-20T10:37:19+00:00

I've never seen such a clear cut obvious case of needing to leave a toxic relationship in my life.

Yea...

End it.

Title	My relationship is tormenting me
Author	omashhh
Upvotes	32
Comments	60
Date	August 19, 2017 7:51 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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