Need some guidance

Kolbath · 2015-10-19T19:23:40+00:00

I'm 5'4" and have never had a problem with this. My frame extends several feet around me. I'm no underwear model, but I wear a restaurant or a coffee shop like a comfortable shirt.

I need to do a write up on my three rules. They work. Here are the basics.

Don't depend on others for your happiness.
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Always be comfortable no matter where you are, what you're wearing, what you're doing, or who you're with.

I guarantee that the reason your height is an issue is because you're thinking about it. It would be nice to reach the top shelf of my closet but fuck it. I can't and I'm not gonna worry about it unless I'm making a joke about it. You're uncomfortable in your own skin at the moment, and you need to work on that.

NightwingTRP · 2015-10-19T23:31:13+00:00

I should simply tell you this belongs on askTRP...

Yeah, let's not beat about the bush, at our height WE ARE PLAYING THE GAME WITH -1 TO OUR BASE SMV. Don't you like being the underdog? Don't you realise how much pleasure it's going to give you to outdo that 6ft tall runt? You need to own your height. Accept it. Your height is not deciding it... it's your attitude. INCLUDING your attitude towards your height. You double checked your posture?

Even when I was a greater beta, women would tell me after talking to me for a bit "you're not really as intimidating as you seem." Remember that status trumps all - in those situations I not only had status, I had a significant aura about me that I didn't tolerate shit. Which I didn't. Try working on developing an intimidating masculine aura. Women figuratively melt in it... strong dominance at any height makes those panties so wet and their natural submissive nature kicks in.

As for this bit:

I need your guidance so I don't fuck up and strike out again.

Escalate more. Escalate with confidence and assertiveness. A few months ago, I was flirting with a girl back at her place and she tried mocking me as "the cuddly type really, underneath it all" and I stared at her and cocked an eyebrow until she started nervous laughing. I continued to stare like she was mad and waited for her to stop laughing. Only then did I smirk, grabbed her hand and took her upstairs. Banged her stupid.

Keep in mind that most of the sexual dance occurs between the lines.

alveoli1 · 2015-10-20T00:06:52+00:00

A few suggestions:

You can't change your height or dick size. Just own it. Any insecurities about these things are pointless and will hinder your success. If a girl doesn't like your height go find one who doesn't care. There are tonnes of girls out there.

With the girl you are concerned about, you likely blew your chance already. Cut your losses and move on. She came up to your room with you after a party. Thats pretty much an invititation to make a move on her. You failed to escalate and chatted with her all night like one of her girlfriends would. If you see her again, I guarantee you will get a LJBF rejection. Take it as a learning opportunity to always escalate and be sexual! But don't force it, read her behaviour and see how receptive she is to your touch. Escalation is a fine line.

Lastly, I think you have a lot of issues to deal with regarding your own development as a man. You seem to have some confidence issues. Read the sidebar. Lift, improve your appearance, develop your mind and get some interesting hobbies. Everything you are looking for will fall into place when you focus on yourself first.

Huffnagle · 2015-10-20T02:42:34+00:00

She came to your room alone at night. She expected to get fucked. You did something wrong, but it ain't your height.

jb_trp · 2015-10-19T18:57:17+00:00

This post should be on AskTRP. But I'll give you some advice.

I'm the same height as you. There are plenty women shorter than you, and if you're confident it doesn't matter to most women. I've been with women who were 5'9, 5'10, 6'0, 6'2 (there was a post on here about a year ago, "Plate the tallest girl you can find.").

You want Tinder conversation to move quickly and naturally. And a lot of it is a numbers game (just like in real life). To open say something interesting and funny about something you see in their picture or profile, message a couple times back and forth to build rapport and comfort (but don't message too much), and then say "You should text me" and give them your number. Learn to handle shit tests with amused mastery and remain stoic if you don't get the response you want. Learn to walk away and move on.

You seem young and like you just need practice at women and to build some confidence. You get good at women by going out with a lot of women. After you text, try to meet up within a few days. Don't text all the time--you need to move towards a meet up. If they like coffee, take them to coffee. If they like beer (and I think you're 18, so this might be a no-go), take them out for a beer.

When you meet, focus on body language. Head up, shoulders back, chest out, arms open, don't avoid eye contact, etc. This communicates confidence. Then just talk with them. Have an opinion, say something interesting, but always be showing confidence and stay relaxed and in control.

Read their body language. Are they smiling? Playing with their hair? Interested in what you're saying? These are good things. If you go to multiple locations throughout the date, while you're walking try to hold her hand and see how she responds. If she doesn't seem repulsed by you, eventually you just have to go for it: Tell her, "come here," lean and kiss her (this is what you should have done with the girl in your room). Again, confidence.

The best advice though: Read TRP, lift, find interesting hobbies, and approach a lot of women with confidence.

red_account · 2015-10-19T19:50:32+00:00

As a college freshman you should forget tinder. You should go out and meet lots of new people in real life.

Title	Need some guidance
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Date	October 19, 2015 6:40 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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